? We often do what we think is extremely appropriate and correct in the name of love or from the perspective of being kind to others. For our children, or our students, we often set unrealistic goals and expectations for them from the perspective of our own imagination. This not only does not have any benefits, but also often causes the uprooting of seedlings, causing great harm to them, and finally makes us full of regret and bear a heavy spiritual cross. The depth of love, the cut of hate. We want our children to become talents and students to excel, so when they make mistakes, we don't pay attention to our own methods, replace relatively objective and fair criticism with subjective criticism, and often accuse them of their sins by expression, which makes them unbearable. It is a wise saying that where there is oppression, there is resistance. Too much criticism will make the accused lose confidence under language violence; Too much criticism will make the accused rebel. No matter what you say in the future, he will choose to resist or rebel, be a parent or teacher, and meet rebellious children or students. It's really nerve-racking, really torturing. Only Mr. No, no students who are not. Parents are children's first teachers, and family background is children's first school. Teachers in schools preach, teach and educate people to educate people. If they forcibly turn a good boy into a rebellious teenager because of their wrong psychology and inappropriate words and deeds, it is really a big sin!
? We should deeply understand the following truth: criticism is not equal to accusation, and we should be merciful when we say that others are wrong. Everyone has their own bottom line, and once they are forced to go beyond it, the consequences will be unimaginable. No matter what relationship the other person has with you, don't add too much expectation to the other person in the name of love. No one likes to live in the expectation of others all the time. High expectations are stress. No matter how good our intentions are, the world still prefers beautiful things to results. If we ask and criticize others in the name of love, or under the pretext of goodwill, we fail to take into account their feelings and endurance; Putting forward unattainable hopes and goals to others in a self-righteous way, trapping people in fatigue and making others fall into despair and collapse inside because they can't do it, which is no different from killing people for money. Parents and teachers should be careful here! Don't love each other and kill each other, do bad things with good intentions, so that relatives will soon hate each other, harm others and harm themselves, and regret for life!