To educate an excellent child is to invest in the happiness of his later life. Children's personality and thoughts are greatly influenced by their families. Parents can encourage their children to take the initiative to solve problems. Faced with this problem, parents can adjust their mentality, spend more time with their children and share with you. Educating an excellent child is to invest in the happiness of the child for the rest of his life.
Educating an excellent child is to invest in the happiness of the rest of your life. 1 I think children's emotional intelligence is more important than IQ, and morality is more important than ability.
If we really want to discuss it, I think parents should cultivate their children mainly in two words: persistence.
Adhere to the usual, adhere to every link, always adhere to. Everyone knows the truth of family education. The key is which parent can persist!
I was a head teacher in 14 high school, a director in grade two, graduated from 13, and became a father in 19. I want to share with you my personal experience and the dual perspectives of parents and educators.
I ask three questions and four suggestions.
Three questions for parents
If the parents are a position, then the position will be automatically owned with the birth of the child, and no one needs to specify it. So let me ask you the first question:
First question: If being a parent is your occupation, what is your occupation now?
The People's Daily article "Education reform should start with family education" puts forward that parents have five levels.
The first level: willing to spend money for children.
Level 2: Willing to spend time for children.
The third level: parents begin to think about the goal of education.
The fourth level: parents improve and perfect themselves in order to educate their children.
The fifth level: parents do their best to support and encourage their children to become the best themselves, and also set an example to support their children to become their true selves.
I want to ask parents, besides spending money on children, will you spend time on them? Will you spend time? Will there be a higher level of thinking education, thinking about children's life planning, thinking about studying with children and accompanying children to grow up? Can you talk to your children all the time? Can your mind keep up with the growth of children? I think most parents may spend more on material things and less on spirit.
Are we parents who are full of enthusiasm and dreams scientific and rational, instead of hurting children intentionally or unintentionally in the name of "fatherly love and maternal love" and affecting their growth?
The second question: Which of the ten knives of modern family education have you used unintentionally?
Knife 1: too much care makes children not know how to cherish;
The second knife: too much nagging makes children rebel;
The third knife: too much intervention makes children lack autonomy;
The fourth knife: too many expectations make children unbearable;
The fifth knife: too much blame makes children lose motivation;
The sixth knife: too much accommodation, so that children do not know the constraints;
The seventh knife: too much concern makes children threaten their parents;
The eighth knife: enjoy too much, so that children don't know thrift;
The ninth knife: too much satisfaction makes children lack happiness;
Knife 10: Overindulgence hinders children's growth.
Do you think parents will get an ideal return if they pay for it for free? Although we don't pay anything in return. We should love our children, but also let them feel our love. Don't let love overflow, and don't do anything in the name of love.
As children grow older, parents will face more and more challenges.
(1) In the process of children's growth, the higher the requirements for family education are put forward by physical and mental development.
(2) Parents can't accompany their children to grow up, their level is limited, and their authority declines;
(3) Less time spent together, fewer opportunities and lack of in-depth communication;
(4) Children's sense of independence is enhanced in the new era.
However, no matter how big the challenge is, the discipline of children will always be your career. Because you are the parents of your child, you can't quit your job or retire for life. You don't care until 18. After 18, you'll still come looking for trouble. Your happiness index for the rest of your life is the development of your children.
Therefore, our parents and friends should not only be happy now, regardless of the children, there will be trouble in the future. As long as the child is not good, you have to worry for life. This is the parents!
The third question: Have you prepared lessons in advance for the parent-teacher conference?
Generally, grandparents, relatives, representatives, and many mothers and parents come to attend the parent-teacher meeting. In particular, I would like to praise my father for attending the parent-teacher conference, which is attended by husband and wife.
Parent-teacher conference is a big gathering of educators. Parents are our teachers' partners in educating children. Without partners, how can we educate your children in partnership? If you don't care about your own children, how can you expect others to care about you? Teachers can use their heart, but the effect is far from good.
Parents should prepare lessons in advance and complete at least four links:
(1) Arrange your own work and attend on time. If you are really busy at work, you should explain the situation to the class teacher, ask for leave, and ask the teacher to communicate alone in the future. Don't miss the opportunity.
(2) Before going to the meeting, talk to the children seriously, talk to the teacher alone with questions, take the initiative to reflect the child's situation to the teacher, ask for the teacher's opinions and suggestions, and raise all questions and concerns and discuss them with the teacher.
(3) Listen carefully to the school leaders or teachers' reports to the school, focus on understanding the progress of school work and the development trend of education, and clarify the requirements of schools and teachers for children.
(4) After you come back, have a heart-to-heart talk with your child, exchange opinions, study improvement measures with your child, and set the next goal.
Educating an excellent child is to invest in the happiness of the rest of your life. 2 1. Broaden children's horizons.
Vision determines the realm, and a person's vision basically determines what kind of friends he will make and what kind of work he will do in his life. A child who has never seen the sea will not dream of becoming a navigator.
See more and learn more. Because China has been closed to the outside world for 300 years, it will be invaded and trampled by foreign powers. The world is so big, take the children out to see more. Disneyland will be a good choice. It's a dream kingdom for every child.
2. Cultivate children's emotional intelligence.
Emotional quotient (EQ) is an indispensable factor for a child's growth and success, which can determine a child's happiness and future more than IQ. The first step to cultivate children's emotional intelligence is to cultivate children's self-awareness, that is, children's own evaluation of themselves.
Parents should set an example for their children and correctly understand their own right and wrong. Even if a small thing is done wrong, give the child a sincere apology.
3. Cultivate children's ability
Parents should cultivate their children's hands-on ability from an early age, and don't let their children live a carefree life. Let children do what they can. Besides, parents can also give their children some tasks, although many things don't need a child's help.
Let children help their parents do some housework, which can not only exercise their hands-on ability, but also cultivate their sense of responsibility.
4. Cultivate children's IQ
Parents can often take their children to participate in some outdoor activities and holiday trips, so that their children can get in touch with some peers and amusement facilities. The actual experience of life can develop children's brains more than bedtime stories and boring studies.
Let children play happily with children of the same age, learn from each other and explore together. Let children develop the good habit of thinking hard, and the IQ of children who are good at thinking will not be too low. This not only gave the children a golden childhood, but also gave them a lesson in intellectual development.