Four Notes on Family Education Instructor Course

Common misunderstandings in family education:

(1) overstepping one's authority and doing what one should do instead of the child

(2) venting emotions instead of dealing with things

(3) completely taking the child as the center

(4) being a good teacher and being self-righteous

(5). Children's possible problems

1. Procrastination

2. Nail biting

3. Yelling

4. Lack of motivation

5. Separation anxiety

6. Love to lose your temper

7. Game addiction

8. Illegal crimes

9. Sleep problems < Why do children have these problems? Are these behaviors my fault or the children's fault? What significant impact will these industries have on children's future? What can parents do to change their children's problem behavior? ........

For example, Zou Mama: It took a single mother 29 years to send a child with severe cerebral palsy to Harvard.

"Blind teaching" is not as good as "Wisdom teaching"

systematically mastering the contents and methods of family education

to solve the family education problem in one stop!

content of family education

(1) health education: promoting family members to become people with healthy bodies and healthy personalities, so that everyone can be physically and mentally healthy and live happily.

# Sound personality

# Healthy body

# Healthy psychology

Good health, full of energy and full of physical strength are the most important conditions for feeling the world vigorously, being optimistic and being ready to overcome difficulties at any time.

(2) Moral education: to encourage family members to develop noble moral feelings, aesthetic feeling, sense of reason and sense of practice, and to become people with noble moral character, rich feelings, willing to communicate and accepted by society.

# Social morality education: cultivate children's sense of public morality, and follow the basic moral norms and the public's living standards

# Professional ethics education: have a correct code of conduct to deal with the internal, inter-occupational, occupational and social relations, and establish a correct outlook on occupation, career choice and entrepreneurship.

# Emotional education: it mainly includes family education, life education, friendship education, marriage education, sex education, national conditions education and family outlook education.

(3) Social education: help family members master the basic skills of social survival, cultivate children's ability to adapt to the environment and society, and better survive and develop in society.

# Life ability cultivation

# Behavior habit cultivation

# Language ability cultivation

# Interpersonal communication ability cultivation

# Social practice ability cultivation

(4) Personality education: an educational activity that makes children's personality fully developed and publicized purposefully in family education.

# Ability: Ability is a kind of psychological condition to successfully realize an activity, which can be reflected and developed in the activity.

# Temperament: Temperament is mainly manifested in the intensity, speed, stability, flexibility and directionality of the psychological process.

# Personality: Personality is a combination of stable and unique psychological characteristics in a person's basic attitude towards people, himself and things and his adaptive habitual behavior.

level 1: money level: willing to spend money for children

level 2: time level: willing to spend time for children

level 3: direction level: parents will think about the goals and plans of education

level 4: promotion level: constantly improve and improve themselves and change their parenting behavior

level 5: Excellence level: parents unconditionally support their children to become their best self and their true self.

Method 1: Superiority Education Method

An idea: Superiority Education is a kind of positive reinforcement. Turn on the advantage switch, create opportunities for practical advantages, and make children's thinking change from negative to positive, and things change from disgust to liking

A formula: Advantage development = ability * effort

A training method:

(1) Start using from a relatively relaxed and positive situation < Use the advantage switch

(3) When you feel that your negative thinking is out of control, take three deep breaths

(4) Imagine that you saw the advantage switch, turn it on

(5) Find out the advantage of the child from the event, and write down this moment

Think back to the process of getting along with the child. At what time or event can you use the advantage switch?

Give full play to talents, and then strengthen advantages, and constantly encourage

Method 2: Example effect

One reason: imitation is an instinct of human beings. Because minors are plastic and good at imitation, setting an example can guide children in the right direction.

two operations:

model method: parents use the noble thoughts, exemplary behaviors and outstanding achievements of role models to influence children's thoughts, emotions and behaviors, and guide children to learn and grow up by example

model method: parents set an example by example, set an example and demonstrate their role in person, and let children learn

Method 3: Positive language

Language is magical.

step one: h? Anticipate, expect? A good expectation and anticipation (brain language)

Step 2: A? Action? A language way to promote children's "wanting to do it"

Step 3: P? The key point? Grasp the balance between parents' expectations and children's needs

Step 4: P? Process a process of how to speak

Step 5: Y? Earn good behavior, good habits and good quality

Method 4: environmental edification

One idea: create a warm, harmonious and loving family life and living environment, so that children can grow up and develop happily

Implementation process of environmental edification:

Consciously attach importance to