The fate of a person's life has a lot to do with what he says. People agree that it is good for them to help others. If you don't say it well, you will hurt others and yourself.

Those who are cautious and don't talk nonsense are more popular and smooth; Those who are outspoken are unpopular and easy to get into a lot of trouble.

As the saying goes: illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth. Be careful when you speak. Don't make yourself uncomfortable. People who can talk can warm people's hearts and always accumulate virtues and blessings for themselves; People who can't speak, their mouths are like a sharp knife, which deeply hurts others, hurting others and hurting themselves, and it is worth the loss.

As the saying goes, a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June. Everything has a cause and effect. What you said and did is often recalled in the dark. Try not to say the following four words. The more you talk, the more you lose, and harm others and yourself.

Show off your words, don't say them.

Be a man, please don't show off, don't be too ostentatious. Since ancient times, there have been people outside, and there are days behind, and experts are hiding by your side. People who are too proud are doomed to go far, and people who love to show off are sure to be annoying.

The more a person shows off, the more he will lose. In reality, people often ridicule: show love and die quickly. This sentence is not a malicious curse, but has its hidden truth.

Show off your wealth, you will be remembered by people with bad intentions, and you will be surrounded by people who borrow money; Showing off fame and fortune will attract people who envy and hate you, and will give you a heavy blow in the back, so that you can get both fame and fortune; Showing off your love will attract people who can't see you, dig your corner, spread your gossip and destroy your feelings.

When people live to a certain age, they must understand that they would rather get rich silently than show off themselves in a high-profile way. Talk less and talk more, make money quietly, don't let others know what they have done and how much money they have earned, and avoid others' jealousy from hurting themselves.

In this world, the poor are always afraid of being known to be poor, while the rich often like to pretend to be poor, keep a low profile, be neither humble nor supercilious, and make money without causing others' jealousy, so as to be safe and sound.

Therefore, one should never show off oneself. Those vanity and ostentation not only bring themselves a lot of trouble, but also attract bad attention. Meanwhile, don't show off others. The achievements of others have nothing to do with you. No matter how envious you are, don't flatter yourself. Sometimes, when others complain about you, you are not human inside or outside.

If you are not sure whether it is true or not, you can't say it.

"Disciples Rules" says: Seeing is not true, don't speak lightly; Don't pass on what you don't know.

The key to being a man is to do your duty, do what you should do, say what you should say, say what you are not sure about, say what you hear from hearsay, say what you are confused about, and say what you are empty. Don't say it easily, it's easy to get into trouble for yourself and harm others.

Really smart people are often silent. If you know, talk less. Don't say if you don't know; Don't talk about a little knowledge.

Don't say uncertain things too fast, so as not to bring unnecessary trouble. In real life, there are so many true and false things that no one can tell clearly. Don't follow the trend to spread them. Once it spreads, it will have a negative social impact, and you have to bear serious consequences.

As the saying goes, people are awesome. In today's society, you can eat more, but you can't talk more. Since ancient times, you have said it by accident and listened intentionally. Then what you said casually was spread by others and passed on from mouth to mouth. Finally, it went bad. If something goes wrong, you are the source of the problem, even if you jump into the Yellow River, you can't wash it off.

To be a man, you should know how to shut up, be cautious in words and deeds, talk less and do more. This is skill, silence and wisdom!

Don't promise what you can't do.

As the saying goes: Without Jin Gangzuan, don't make porcelain. You said you couldn't do it, but he believed you and it didn't work out in the end.

If you make a promise to others, you must do it, or you will break your promise to others. It is not good for yourself and others, and it will delay other people's affairs, and it is not pleasing to yourself. Whenever you do something, you should have a full understanding of your own abilities.

If the boasted Haikou is not realized, it will give people the impression of lack of credibility. It is difficult to establish a trust relationship in interpersonal communication, and it is even more difficult to gain a foothold in society. Since it is impossible, don't promise to be one easily. Keep your word and do what you want? People will be believed by others.

To be a man, you should respond to everything, don't talk nonsense, don't make promises casually, think twice before you speak and do things, be consistent with your words and deeds, and don't be duplicitous, lose faith in others, damage your reputation and hurt your face.

If you love someone, don't say too many promises that you can't make, make the other person sad and let the other person down; If you don't love someone, don't accept all the goodness of the other person easily, disappoint others' sincerity, hurt your own integrity, don't promise forever, and don't promise the future.

No matter how many promises you make, if you can't make them, it's just a lie.

Don't talk about other people's family.

Everyone needs a safe distance. Not easily commenting on and spreading other people's affairs will make people feel safe in communication.

There is a skeleton in the cupboard. It is unpleasant to get involved in other people's affairs for no reason. Don't get involved easily, let alone use words to discuss problems that people in it can't solve. How can an outsider feel the same way?

Especially in terms of feelings, when two couples are in conflict, if you mediate in the middle, no one can hurt anyone and no one can take sides. You are neutral, and people say you are uneasy and kind. If you are partial to someone, the other person will say that you are stirring things up and watching the fun.

Seeing through, not saying anything, is great wisdom. If someone else's family has an affair, if you know it, just tell them directly, and you will be in big trouble. If two people fight, you will be in trouble directly.

It is better to break a marriage than to tear down ten temples. Don't involve other people's divorce. After making peace, contradictions still exist, and after quarreling, they come to complain. If you are persuaded to divorce and regret it, you will eventually blame it, so don't mind other people's business.

As the saying goes: sit still and think about yourself and gossip about others.