When I opened "Norwegian Wood" for the first time, I was immediately drawn into the slightly sentimental youthful charm. The plot of the novel is mediocre, the writing style is slow, and the tone is light. However, an irrepressible shock wave surged between the lines, which aroused strong tremors and screams in my soul.

"Norwegian Wood" is Haruki Murakami's most famous novel, and it is also the most realistic one among his works. What Yong talks about is the love of boyhood. There is no abortion, no pretense, no pretense, no life or death. It is very, very real. But most people may not understand it. Use calm language to tell about the youth that has passed away, and the various experiences, experiences and feelings of youth. Lonely, melancholy and plaintive, but also ordinary that can be heard, seen and felt.

"Norwegian Wood" is my favorite love novel, bar none. Why? Because "Mo" is down to earth! In Murakami’s words, it is “realism”. Maybe you think there are so many people committing suicide without doing anything, but what is the reality? How pretentious! But the inner activities of the characters are the same as ours. Let me analyze them one by one below

Some people may say that even if having sex once cannot explain Naoko's love for Watanabe, how can we explain repeated masturbation? Again and again!

All I can say is that this is Naoko’s apology and compensation to Watanabe.

Because although Naoko does not love Watanabe and just wants to live through him, she deeply understands that Watanabe loves her. .

Naoko also wants to fall in love with Watanabe. This not only allows for a fresh start, but also repays Watanabe's deep love.

But she can't. Who we fall in love with is not something our brain can decide. Naoko has special feelings for Watanabe, loves and trusts her, is a very good friend, and does not want to hurt him at all. But unfortunately, that is not love after all.

She really can't fall in love with Watanabe. She always felt it was a distraction. But she didn't want to hurt Watanabe, and she was truly grateful to Watanabe, so she tried her best to meet any of Watanabe's requests.

At the beginning of the novel, Watanabe said that Naoko had asked him not to forget him. People who are immersed in the grand scene in front of them cannot imagine separation, let alone forgetfulness after separation.

But Naoko had foreseen separation at that time, and even more, foresaw eternal separation.

But she and Watanabe talked about it, but Watanabe had no idea. Silly encouraged her and said something else. That's why Naoko lost her temper, saying that Watanabe didn't understand her pain, and that she would break into pieces and be blown away in the wind. .

And if it wasn’t for deep love, why would you mind being forgotten?

Naoko begged Watanabe not to forget her, precisely because Watanabe meant so much to her. She begged Watanabe to remember that she had been by his side like this. That is to remember all her dedication and efforts. I remember her deep thoughts, gratitude and apology.

You will understand. As long as you remember, Watanabe, one day you will understand what I mean.

In fact, the relationship between the three people "Kizuki, Naoko, and Watanabe" is exactly the same as the relationship between the three people later "Naoko, Watanabe, and Reiko".

You see: Kizuki and Naoko were lovers, and they were friends with Watanabe; before Kizuki died, he found Watanabe, but not Naoko; after Kizuki died, Naoko slept with Watanabe.

Let’s look at the later: Naoko and Watanabe are similar to a couple (similarity is very strict here. Although they have not confirmed their relationship, and Naoko does not love Watanabe, they do what lovers do), Naoko He and Reiko were friends; before Naoko died, he looked for Reiko but not Watanabe; after Naoko died, Watanabe slept with Reiko.

Look more carefully: Although Kizuki and Naoko are lovers, Kizuki's feelings for Naoko have changed, and he does not love Naoko. This corresponds to Naoko's feelings for Watanabe: it looks like love on the surface, but it's not at all.

So you will find that the relationship between the first three and the last three is surprisingly similar

Let’s first look at why Watanabe slept with Reiko. It shouldn't be a problem that Watanabe doesn't love Reiko. His admiration for Naoko cannot be overstated, his affection for Midoriko can also be said, and it can even be said that he has ambiguous feelings for Hatsumi. But for Reiko, it is a simple friendship, to be precise, it is a "forgettable friendship", which is mentioned in the novel.

Moreover, Watanabe's friendship with Reiko is very ordinary. Watanabe said that Kizuki ranks first in his heart and is a unique good friend. Moreover, Watanabe has never had a heart-to-heart relationship with Reiko. Even if Reiko revealed all the unspeakable things, He was also indifferent to Reiko, not as much as talking to Nagaze.

And judging from the correspondence between the two love triangles, he doesn’t like Reiko either.

So, why do they have sex?

Please think about it: Does having sex have to be because of love?

Many friends are confused: Watanabe slept with Reiko, and Naoko slept with Watanabe. . Do they like each other? !

In fact, it is easy to explain. For example, dating is now popular. Do they also like each other?

The answer is: making love has nothing to do with love! For some people, love is the prerequisite for sex, such as Hatsumi, such as Naoko (Naoko and Watanabe had sex for the first time because they wanted to prove their love through sex so that they could have a relationship with Watanabe and save themselves. It was not true love). The prerequisite for sex is love!

For some people, love has nothing to do with sex, such as Nagazawa and Watanabe. When they went to the bar to find girls, they had never met them~

So, The reason why Watanabe slept with Reiko was first of all sexual desire.

In order to pursue Naoko and show his loyalty to Naoko, Watanabe has not slept with a girl for more than half a year! For the sake of Naoko, he also softly avoided Midori, who was in good condition and interested in him, and only relied on masturbation to vent his anger. I have to say that Watanabe didn’t pick anything cheap, he is a good man with style!

There is no sex without love, but sex because of love. For Naoko, Watanabe changed from a casual person to an abstinent person, which is proof of love.

And Naoko's death means that no matter how much Watanabe persists and waits, there will never be an ending that touches Naoko.

No matter what, you will never have the chance to fall in love with me. .

Therefore, Watanabe lifted the ban and no longer abstained from sex for Naoko. It means that he accepts the sad fact of Naoko's death and ends this endless love with his own hands.

Don’t be limited to the past, no matter how gorgeous or painful the past was, dare to bury it and start over.

This is why Naoko died of depression when her lover also died, while Watanabe lived to the age of 37.

This is Murakami’s “sameness” and “difference”.

If you read the original work carefully, you will be able to read them all.

Yongze, how do you rate him? He is an excellent person. This "excellence" is excellence in a truly comprehensive sense. Born into a famous family, even his brothers and sisters are all outstanding. He was admitted to Tokyo University easily, and the foreign affairs civil servant recruitment examination that others could not pass no matter how hard they tried was like picking something out of a bag. He is a popular figure in the school, a man of influence and can speak four languages. He has two famous sayings that are praised by netizens

One is: to be a gentleman, and his gentleman means only doing what he should do and not doing what he wants to do.

The second is "Don't sympathize with yourself." Sympathy for yourself is a coward's approach.

Many friends like Nagaze who is cruel to them.

But I think the most rare thing about Nagaze is that he knows the difference between hard work and labor. He is one of the few people who lives with his own mind. Too many of us are living like zombies without even realizing it. I won’t talk about Nagaze’s life creed here. Following the last chapter, I will talk about Nagaze’s sex and love.

Don’t Nagazawa love Hatsumi? I feel that although Nagazawa is cold, he is by no means a so-called toy with Hatsumi. He was careful with Hatsumi, but that carefulness meant hurting her thoughtfully.

To put it simply, Yongze has his own ideal in life. His ideal is to remain unmarried and achieve great things. They are ready to do big things together. He once said that to be a gentleman, a gentleman only does what he should do and not what he wants to do. For him, achieving great things is what he should do, and enjoying his love and family with Hatsumi is what he wants to do.

There is no more mature and warm-hearted woman in the book than Hatsumi. According to Nagazawa's standards, Hatsumi is definitely a very good woman who can match him. It's not that Nagaze doesn't love Hatsumi, it's that he can't love anyone.

To be more precise, Nagaze cannot have any feelings. The emotions here refer to all the joys, anger, sorrows and joys towards people and things. All emotions are not allowed.

So, Nagaze is really cold towards everything. He can eat slugs alive, he can remain calm to Hatsumi, and he can say those words "don't pity yourself".

Even flirting with women is proof that he is not emotional.

There are two interpretations of philandering in the book;

One is a general phenomenon in our modern society, philandering means being lustful and having low self-control. Bad behavior.

There is another kind. I have said before that if love appears, sex must be restrained. There is only one condition for sexual freedom, and that is when love does not exist.

Yongze’s promiscuity is not because he likes those girls. Do you really think he would care about them?

He is flirting with women, just using "promiscuous sex" to eliminate the existence of "love".

"Dissolving the existence of love" is very important to Nagaze. Most people pursue love, but Yongze pursues "no love."

This love can refer to Hatsumi, or any love.

Yongze does not allow himself to look at one person for a long time, because doing so will sink him deeply and make him unable to extricate himself.

Even if he falls in love with Hatsumi, it doesn't matter. He can comfort himself by constantly picking up girls: You are still the emotionless Nagaze, and you will not fall in love with anyone.

This is why in Yongze's eyes, being a philanderer is "a pure heart and a few desires"! For most people, engaging in promiscuity is a sign of lust, but Yongze obviously despises those women, and those women cannot arouse Yongze's interest. After all, what Yongze really loves is those "things that should be done." Therefore, flirting with women has another meaning for Nagaze, which means that he does not have anyone he loves in his heart. If you don’t have a lover in your heart, you will never have a lover. What is it if you don’t have a pure heart?

As much as he likes Hatsumi, he can't be with her. Because that goes against his ideals.

He understands the future that Hatsumi wants, but it is not his ideal, so he cannot give it to Hatsumi.

So he never made any promises to Hatsumi. Hatsumi's heart was never comforted for a moment.

Of course he knew that this would hurt Hatsumi, but he just wanted to use harm to make Hatsumi leave.

Because if you continue to waste it, there will be no results, which is not good for Hatsumi.

Then why can't he pretend to yell at Hatsumi that he doesn't love her and tell her to go away?

Because this becomes naked protection and proof of emotion, which is not allowed.

And the smart Hatsumi will definitely see through that is protection. She is trying to get Nagaze's care. In this way, she will follow Nagaze without any regrets. There will be no results in her life, which is harm.

Therefore, Nagaze can only use this method to make Hatsumi realize and leave on her own.

Hatsumi is dead. It was as if something was gone forever.

The thing Yongze was most afraid of, the thing he had been avoiding, was gone forever.

What he wanted finally disappeared.

There is only what he should do in the world.

You win. Became a gentleman.

I think Nagaze will never mess with women again.

I think Reiko likes Watanabe. At least she has a good impression of Watanabe and feels that Watanabe is very close to her. The reasons are as follows:

1. Don’t forget, Reiko is not a normal person. She has stayed in Ameriao for so many years, which is actually almost like a prison. She has no contact with the outside world, has few friends, and does not even interact with her family. For such a person who seriously lacked intimacy and warmth, she met Watanabe, perhaps not just because of Watanabe's personality, but because of a desire and instinct to get close to him.

2. Reiko's affection for Watanabe is reflected in many ways: for example, she longs to be alone with Watanabe-kun, even though Naoko was still there at that time. At that time, she might just have a simple crush on Watanabe. Moreover, she told Watanabe the unspeakable secret between herself and the little girl the second she met him, which shows that she has extraordinary trust in Watanabe.

3. When Watanabe and Naoko were corresponding, Reiko told Watanabe that she hoped Watanabe could also write to her. Whether she yearns for the outside world or likes Watanabe, Reiko must have become dependent on Watanabe at this time

4. What makes me think Reiko likes Watanabe the most is that they were in the train together at the end. When they were leaving, Reiko burst into tears. If they were just ordinary friends, how could they burst into tears and be so sad? Obviously, that was Reiko's separation from her lover. And this difference is not simply a geographical difference, but Reiko's determination to hide her feelings for Watanabe deeply in her heart and never tell Watanabe. And maybe we can never meet again in the future, because it is very likely that if Reiko does not disturb Watanabe, it will be difficult for Watanabe to think of this beauty who has been forgotten for many years. And there is no need to meet again: I love you and we can’t be together, what’s wrong?

5. I strongly disagree with the statement that "Watanabe and Reiko had sex in memory of Naoko" and that "their lovemaking was a ritual." I would like to ask, do you engage in such a ritual? ? Do you miss sleeping with someone else? Murakami defines "No" as a "realistic" novel. The people in it are not crazy, and the imagination should not be too big, okay?

6. Oh, by the way, Reiko also knitted the sweater Naoko knitted for Watanabe. Half of it.

7. Since Reiko likes Watanabe, why doesn’t she say it? That's obvious: Reiko is so old and in poor mental condition, and Watanabe is a good young man. What can they do together? Even if Watanabe can accept Reiko, Reiko will not harm Watanabe.

Watanabe's feelings for Naoko and Reiko's feelings for Watanabe are the same. It's just that Watanabe may not have considered the problem thoroughly due to his age, so he feels that he can pursue Naoko and fall in love with Naoko. And we also know the ending, Watanabe failed, and Naoko died frustrated.

And Reiko saw the impossibility of this relationship, so she didn't even say anything. The story is the same before they have sex, but after they have sex Reiko makes a decision, and the ending of the story is different from Naoko's.

Two decisions, two endings. A stark contrast.

Everyone likes Midori very much. What kind of person do you think Midori is? What is the most attractive thing about Midori to you? simple? Cheerful? frank?

Yes, these are Midoriko’s characteristics, but for me, what attracts me most is the “suitability” between Midoriko and Watanabe.

Midoriko is too measured.

I am not sure when her feelings for Watanabe arose. I only know that it must have been much earlier than when we realized it. Midoriko liked Watanabe very early on. , it’s just that she has always maintained a sense of proportion, remained calm, and had no pursuit, but she also showed herself generously.

This is the correct attitude to pursue! Quite perfect and elegant, the other person is not embarrassed, he is not ugly, he is quite decent, and both parties still remain friends. If you can't catch up with this, then you have no luck.

For example, Midori.

At the beginning of the novel, 37-year-old Watanabe is sitting alone on the plane. Apparently, Midori broke up with him, for various reasons that we don’t know.

I remember she told Watanabe that her father asked her sisters to die for her mother. I remember she lied to Watanabe about her father's stay in South America. I remember when she invited Watanabe to come to her house for dinner. Not only was she good at cooking, but the shirt she wore also showed off her figure. I remember the short skirt she wore when she was looking for Watanabe.

The spring breeze turns into rain, calmly.

This is a smart girl. Pure, bright, she has a lot of shining qualities, everything is as you can see, so I say she has almost no highlights.

But I think the most rare thing is that Midori still knows how to be a good friend when facing the love in her heart.

This is intolerable to many people in real life.

Midori is a girl whose advantages are too dazzling, so few people will take the time to appreciate her carefully. But after in-depth analysis, you will find that the girl's backside is quite broad and deep.

The first point:

Few people remember that Midoriko was a little girl without a mother when she first appeared. I said she was a little girl because she had just entered college at that time, so she was indeed a little girl.

A little girl in her early 20s without a mother.

Not to mention, her father is still seriously ill at this time and will die soon.

Let me ask you, what does parents mean to a person?

In this case, what kind of pressure does this beautiful figure bear?

Everyone loves the beauty of Midori. But few people have considered the hardships she endured.

Midori was different from most of the girls around us from the beginning. The starting point is different. The posture is even more different.

She had bad luck, but she never showed her bad luck.

The more you lift your weight, the more you will walk a path that is several times longer than that of ordinary people in the hidden place of the author. The same is true of losing a loved one. Naoko is in a completely different state. Second point:

Maybe you will say that Midori's parents are not good to Midori: they are pushed aside as soon as they act like a spoiled child, and they are also inconsiderate in not cooking and so on. That's why Midoriko is like this.

Not really.

Midori’s parents are just a little rough, but at least her father cares about Midori.

For example, Midori ran away from home when she was a child, and her father still wanted to find her back before he was dying.

On the way back from looking for her, his father also told her about the earthquake.

You know, many fathers and daughters who are truly estranged never talk. Not even in the mood to talk about such old gossip.

The blood relationship is there after all. Midori may not understand everything for the time being, but her father is a cold-faced and warm-hearted person after all.