How to avoid being jealous of others, satisfy whatever you want and let nature take its course? This is a problem involving outlook on life, outlook on life and people.

In terms of outlook on life, when people come to this world and grow up, they mainly learn to be adults, learn something, apply what they have learned, choose and operate life goals, not only to solve livelihood problems such as food, clothing, housing, transportation, medical play, but also to solve the cause of self-dedication to society, so that they can enjoy sublimation and happiness in their survival and development. In the process of life, although we should integrate into the process of social life, communicate with others and cooperate with others, we must be confident and self-reliant, and others will develop better than ourselves. That is the development condition of others, and their self-ability is stronger than their own. We can only learn from others, but we can't be jealous of others, and there is no need to be jealous of others.

In the outlook on life, people are integrated into social life, the only difference is that the degree of integration into social life varies with people's quality and personality characteristics. Some people have a narrow integration, such as residents who have difficulty getting out of their place of residence all their lives, and some people have a wide integration, such as product salesmen. No matter how people integrate into social life, they can't escape from the big net of social life and social relations. The normal life of modern people is inseparable from the life chain composed of market economy, communication network, interpersonal communication and social operation. Although people in the process of life are caught in the big net of society, the main body of life is themselves. How you live and how others live are the manifestations of their respective legal rights in life. Others live better than themselves, and they have no right to envy others. They have no right to envy themselves, and others have no right to envy themselves. They should be careful.

From the perspective of dealing with people, to understand and live in the ocean of people, we must express the warmth, tenderness and tenderness between people with inclusive feelings and the spirit of great love. If we treat people with an iron heart and an iron heart, people will stay away from them, and their kindness will be rewarded in do or die. Although people can't replace principles with human feelings, we can connect people with human feelings, connect our hearts and fuse our feelings, and our friendship will be engraved in our hearts. Only by understanding and understanding others can we be tolerant and generous to others.

In short, the interpersonal relationship of mutual jealousy or unilateral jealousy is abnormal. Only by giving full play to the spiritual wisdom of good people, taking history as a mirror, practicing the harmonious relationship between people, resolving interest disputes in a peaceful and friendly way, and exercising the two-way operation of improving material life and enriching spiritual life, can human society operate aboveboard, promote the development of social civilization, build a new scene of a beautiful life shared by the public, truly live up to human respect as the soul of all things, and carry forward the value and significance of human existence from generation to generation!

Jealousy is a negative emotional experience, which will cause resistance because others are better than themselves.

Seeing that others are better than themselves makes my heart sour.

So there is a complex emotion, including hatred and jealousy, anger and resentment, doubt and disappointment, humiliation and vanity, sadness and grief.

This emotion is jealousy. Jealous people cannot tolerate others surpassing themselves.

Afraid of others gaining fame, status, etc. What they can't get,

In his view, others should not do what they can't do, nor should they get what others can't get.

What bothers people is too much persistence.

Take a lot of things seriously,

Such as money, career, fame.

Buddha said that people suffer because they pursue the wrong things.

If you let go, you will be very comfortable. Learn to let go, and your mood will be natural and peaceful.

It is difficult to do it slowly, and once you do it, you will benefit for life.

In addition, you should cultivate an idea that everything is a life experience.

For better or worse.

I suggest watching Lao Tzu.

He does nothing, does not argue, and lets nature take its course, which is exactly what our bathing society lacks today.

Jealousy can make people feel uncomfortable and then get sick.

In our life, we can eat badly, dress simply and live in a luxurious place, but we can't help being happy. Bad emotions do great harm to the body. As far as health is concerned, is it good or bad to eat, wear and live? Relative emotions have much less influence on health. If you are always happy, it will become a habit. If you are often unhappy, it will become a habit. People's life is dominated by habits, so we must constantly study and reflect, develop more good habits, and get rid of some bad habits in time.

One's greatest weakness is that there are many minor faults. Always keep your heartfelt smile! Love yourself, love your family, love your friends, love the public, and achieve happiness and a happy life. If you have depression, you need to go to a regular hospital and find a professional doctor for treatment. Need medication and psychological counseling. It can be cured by treatment. Put it into action and you will form a habit. Form a habit and you will get a personality. Invest in personality, and you will reap the fate. Character determines fate.

The most important thing in life is to know yourself thoroughly. Therefore, at that time, we often interacted with loneliness and constantly reflected and corrected our mistakes. Confucius said that three rescues a day is a wise saying, so don't underestimate this sentence! If you are always happy, it will become a habit. If you are often unhappy, it will become a habit. People's life is dominated by habits, so we must constantly study and reflect, develop more good habits, and get rid of some bad habits in time. One's greatest weakness is that there are many minor problems.

We should pursue happiness, but don't ignore the happiness we have.

My own flowers.

We often have a misunderstanding of jealousy, thinking that it is ugly and dirty, and that this is because our ideological level is not high enough to produce this kind of psychology. Many people want to get rid of jealousy. They think jealousy has a negative impact on their lives. They think that only villains are jealous of others. They hate and spit on their jealousy.

In fact, jealousy, like our anger and sadness, is an indispensable part of various psychological phenomena. It can be said that what has been deeply engraved in our human bones has evolved through tens of thousands of years. We are just jealous, just like we are all sad. We can't say that our realm has become higher, our pattern has become bigger, our horizons have widened, and our minds have widened. When something sad happens, we won't be sad.

As long as there is reason, jealousy is not unexpected. Imagine that tens of thousands of years ago, ancestor A and ancestor B went hunting at the same time. Ancestor A caught a bird, and ancestor B worked hard to hunt a wild boar. After the hunting, ancestor A and ancestor B show each other their trophies. Will ancestor A be jealous of ancestor B?

Very likely! Because at that time, food was life, ancestor A would envy the trophy of ancestor B, and might have the impulse to keep the wild boar for himself. Conversely, if ancestor A is more Buddhist and looks at the bird in his hand with satisfaction, only the wheel of history will run over him.

It can be said that as long as there is competition and comparison in this world, there will be jealousy.

Everyone is jealous, and jealousy is inevitable. What we can do is not to reject, resist, escape and deny our jealousy, but to see why we are jealous and make full use of our jealousy to push ourselves forward. For example, when I see that all my friends of the same age have changed jobs, we will be jealous. We will be jealous when we see our colleagues at the same level promoted; We will be jealous when we see our relatives and friends hit the big luck; We will be jealous when we see that people who are not as good as ourselves live better than ourselves; When we see that other people's children are better than our own, we will be jealous ... We will be jealous of others for all kinds of things, feel that we can live better than ourselves because of that person, and even be cynical and have the impulse to hurt others. This is normal.

But when we think carefully about why we are jealous, we will see a positive self behind jealousy. The starting point of all our jealousy is to make ourselves and our families better off. Jealousy is a double-edged sword and an important part of our motivation. It is because of jealousy that we can better see our own shortcomings, see our own room for progress, and then want to change the status quo and strive to meet a better life.

There are people outside, there are days behind, and the mountain is ten feet high. When you see that others are excellent, you should learn more from others. Take excellent people as an example. Only by learning from excellent people can we make continuous progress. In a threesome, there must be a teacher, choose the good one and follow it, and change the bad one.

Others can be excellent, that is, others have quietly paid hard sweat, and through continuous study and research, they have achieved today's success. Therefore, when you see an excellent person, you must learn from him if you want to be an excellent person yourself. Learn the spirit of outstanding people around you and don't let yourself go backwards. Only by learning from excellent people can you make progress, and small progress will eventually become big progress.

No one is perfect without money, and no one can be perfect, but we try to make ourselves perfect. Make more good friends, not bad ones. When you see excellent people, you should learn from others' excellent qualities and valuable spirit, and don't be jealous of others. A person's most negative mentality is that he likes to be jealous of others. If you are jealous of others, you can't improve yourself. You are still tired. The most positive attitude is to learn from excellent people. Excellent people can give you a sense of positive energy of the whole person and let yourself start to climb the slope.

There is a gap between people, but all you have to do is spend your energy on how to improve your ability, and don't be jealous of others. If you want to succeed, you must try your best to find the right way. The road is under your feet. Don't complain, don't complain, rely on your tenacious will to conquer any peak in the world. The stupidest thing about people is always being jealous of others. Spending energy on jealousy is tantamount to wasting time and life.

Don't let yourself stay here, think about how to take your own life path. Don't be discouraged when you fail, and don't be proud when you succeed. Failure is the road to success. What you have to do at this time is to make progress despite difficulties, and the more frustrated you are, the more brave you are. If you succeed, you should make persistent efforts. Don't be proud, because this is the result of your efforts. Life is like riding a bike. Only by maintaining balance can we move on. Learn from this excellent person and you will be excellent. As the saying goes, those who are near Mexico are black, and those who are near Zhu Zhechi are black.

Conclusion: When you see outstanding people, you should learn from them. Spend more time with them, and you will become excellent. If you want to succeed faster and get in touch with powerful people, only when you get in touch with powerful people can you change your mentality and have a correct outlook on life and values.

Jealousy, comparing with others, hating others and laughing at others are all common. However, I can tell you with great certainty: if you have these psychology, then your life will definitely be difficult. Because, you will be surrounded by negative energy, and then, according to the law of attraction, you will attract all negative energy!

The typical representative is the "lever essence" on the Internet. Please believe me, all bars, without exception, must have a hard life. Happy people will never speak ill and hurt others.

So, what is the correct way?

The answer is that you can envy, but you can't be jealous. This is for your own good. A more positive way is to sincerely bless him, and at the same time, you can regard him as an example and goal, as a driving force to improve yourself. To think, why can he get what I can't? Can I learn his advantages and use them for me? This is a positive attitude, this is positive energy, and this attitude can make you cross the better.

-Liu Yusi Angela

How to envy others and let nature take its course?

psychoanalysis

Your attitude and attitude determine everything.

Conclusion: Growth is a slow process, just relax yourself bit by bit. It helps to like these.

How to avoid jealousy of others? As long as they are well-educated people, they seldom envy others, because they all know that it is useless to envy others, and there is no harm to those who are envied. On the contrary, it will only cause his own psychological imbalance and increase his troubles and stagnation.

If he were a reasonable and trustworthy person, he wouldn't do such a stupid thing. They will look at everything with a normal heart, let nature take its course and just be themselves; There is no need to compare with others. Without comparison, there will be no jealousy.

Even if we have to fight for the length, we should not take a jealous attitude to deal with it, because jealousy is not the work of the wise, but the mentality of cowards and villains; Envy others, it is better to learn from others, learn from each other's strengths, and then surpass him. Wouldn't it be better?

People who understand these truths should not be too jealous.

It belongs to the category of "self-esteem".

This problem is largely a question of how to improve self-esteem.

0 1. What is self-esteem?

David michaels's book Social Psychology explains that self-esteem is a comprehensive evaluation of self-worth.

We often judge ourselves by comparing others, which is very common in China. It can be seen intuitively from the education of parents.

02. The spotlight effect pays too much attention to itself, leading to self-tension and anxiety.

It's like getting up late in the morning and having no time to wash your hair, and then you will feel that your colleagues are paying attention to your hairstyle all day, which will make you anxious.

In fact, people won't care too much about you.

03. Group conclusion: As a group animal, we are eager to be recognized by the group from birth to ensure that our behavior is consistent with the group.

This will lead the self as an individual to suppress his emotions and behavioral tendencies in order to gain recognition and security.

Conclusion: As a member of a social group, it is normal and inevitable to be jealous or envious of others.

Don't attach importance to or exaggerate this point, put more experience and time on improving self-efficacy, that is, improve yourself a little every day.

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Your subconscious mind controls your life, but you call it fate. When the subconscious is presented, fate is rewritten.

I don't see you for a while, I don't pay attention for a while, I forget you for a while, and the feeling of jealousy disappears when I say goodbye. If you feel this way again, you will not see or pay attention for a while. If you have to watch it, you can change your attention, cultivate new habits and hobbies, get in touch with new circles, and enrich your life. Well, real and rich. Essentially, you can't be jealous of anyone. The above methods can be used for occasional sexual attacks.