The first impression is mainly based on the other person's expression, posture, body, appearance and clothing. This is how Baidu Encyclopedia describes the first impression. People will form a first impression of others in various aspects such as interactions, chats, blind dates, interviews, etc. When it comes to first impressions, there are good and bad ones. This will produce positive and negative effects.

The importance and impact of the first impression. The first impression is related to a person's future views and cognition, and will affect the individual's success. You may miss out on a marriage because of a bad first impression during a blind date, and you may lose a job because of a bad first impression during an interview. On the contrary, if the first impression is good, the effect achieved is exactly the opposite. Of course, this is not comprehensive. After all, a distance can tell a horse's power, and time can tell a person's heart. How to deal with the situation caused by a good or bad first impression. A good first impression: seize the opportunity and go further. If the first impression you leave to the other party is very good, Good, let the other party be very satisfied. At this point, you have to maintain your image in the other person's mind. Never be proud, complacent or arrogant. You should pay more attention to your words and deeds and seize opportunities, so that you will have a good room for improvement.

Bad first impression: Treat each other sincerely and be down-to-earth

What should you do if your first impression is not very good? Many people attach great importance to the first impression. In the process of communication, sometimes problems may arise in some small details, resulting in a not very good first impression of you. For example, the way you pose when meeting, your eyes, or your tone of voice are all factors that can lead to points loss. After being rejected by the other party, you should reflect on it and correct your behavior. If you are still in the same unit, then you must work down-to-earth, treat every colleague sincerely, and impress everyone with your sincerity.

The first impression has a great impact on everyone. From here you can see some of a person's problems or abilities. The quality of a first impression does not mean that a person can achieve success or that it is a death sentence for a person. The key to success or failure in everything depends on yourself. There are no shortcuts on the road to success. Only by working hard can you win.

Let me tell you another story about a novice in the workplace.

Anyone who often looks for a job knows how important the first impression is. But Zhu Xiaobai didn't know that his academic qualifications had paved the way for him to become one of the world's top 500 companies.

So, I tell Xiaobai:

When you get to know a woman and communicate with her several times, you have already left her with her first impression of you. If she doesn't feel attraction to you, there's nothing you can do to start a relationship. No matter how hard you try, calling and buying things every day will only arouse the other party's resentment and will not help promote the relationship.

When you meet a woman and have a pleasant communication with her, the first impression about you will remain in her mind. If this first impression makes her feel that you are an "attractive" person. Then, she can't help but start fantasizing about everything about you.

Women at this time are the most blind and cannot think rationally at all. Opposition from family members and dissuasion from peers will only strengthen a woman's rebellious spirit. They were even deeply moved by themselves: I betrayed the whole world, just for you. In fact, this kind of women are very scary animals. Even if they are insulted, denied, and other excessive things, they can't overcome their deep attraction to men, even if these men have no money, car, or house. Status, not to mention handsome.

As for another kind of man, having the outstanding conditions of an ideal man, good reputation, and good prospects may not necessarily be attractive to women. For example, Zhu Xiaobai's hard conditions are enough to attract men, but he still cannot impress women.

I asked Xiaobai: Do you know why women and children often talk together? In ancient times, there was the term "women and children", but now there are also organizations for the protection of women and children's rights?

Xiaobai said: Children are born from women, and only when women have children, they will naturally be connected.

I shook my head speechlessly and continued to stare at his face, as if the answer was written on his face.

Xiao Bai thought for a while and said: Is it because they are relatively weak and need protection?

I thought there would be no results if he continued to think about it, so I told him directly: A woman’s mind is actually very immature, just like a child.

They simply cannot control their inner thoughts. No matter how absurd or untenable the theory is, they will believe it and work hard for it.

This theory is more powerful than logical thinking, so don’t try to reason with women. Once attraction takes root in a woman's heart, this power will break all constraints and restrictions. No excuses are needed anymore. All past experiences are nothing in the face of attraction.

So, this attraction can be bad or even dangerous. Once affected by attraction, women will do things that are difficult for outsiders to understand, even if they go against their own interests or even moral ethics.

In order to verify my statement, I told Zhu Xiaobai a classic case in psychology.

A pair of sisters living together held a funeral for their mother. The younger sister met a man at the funeral and fell in love with him at first sight. After the funeral, she could no longer find the man and had no contact information. A week later, the younger sister killed her older sister.

The reason is simply that another funeral can allow her to meet that man again.

When Zhu Xiaobai heard this, he couldn't help but interject: It's too ridiculous, you must have made up the story.

I stared at Zhu Xiaobai seriously and told him that it was not that important whether the story was true or false. I had seen women take greater risks and suffer greater losses because of their attraction.

After talking about the dangers of attraction, I need to implant another concept into Zhu Xiaobai’s thinking - the exclusivity of attraction. Attraction has nothing to do with people's feelings, it is just for its own survival needs. It has hijacked a woman's body and mind since its creation.

Attraction works in extremely secretive ways.

For example, more than a hundred years ago, when communication was far less convenient than it is now, Morse code was popular all over the world. This code was represented by using different dots, dashes and unique intervals. Numbers, characters and special symbols. Different combinations of dots, dashes, and intervals lead to different reception and interpretation methods.

The same is true for attraction. If you send it in the wrong way, or the other party's receiving status is turned off, then she will never feel your attraction.

But once the other party feels it, then there is no obstacle and no logical thinking that can change this feeling.

Since the first impression is so important, what are the factors that affect the first impression?

Media planning experts have a famous saying: You only need 7 seconds to make a good impression. Through extensive analysis and research, people have concluded that the factors that affect the first impression include the following aspects:

(1) More than half of the formation of the first impression is related to appearance. However, appearance not only refers to a beautiful face, but also includes body posture, temperament, expression and clothing.

For example, experiments show that when people first meet, they pay more attention to their hair than their faces. Long hair implies health and sexiness, short hair looks confident and successful, and natural, medium-length, non-specific hairstyles make people feel smart and authentic. As another example, a handshake can convey important information. Those who shake hands with focused eyes and strong hands will not only make you feel good, but also gain your trust.

(2) About 40% of the first impression is related to sound. Tone, tone, speaking speed, rhythm, etc. all affect the formation of the first impression. Many companies that recruit telemarketers require crisp and melodious voices, because for customers they have never met, the voice heard over the phone is the main factor that determines their first impression. If the unfamiliar voice is rough and dry, the customer is likely to hang up before finishing the call. Therefore, creating an attractive voice is crucial for people's first interactions.

(3) Less than 10% of the first impression is related to speech and behavior. Although words and behavior do not play a decisive role in the formation of the first impression, they are still very important. Your first words and first actions will become a powerful basis for others to judge you when they first come into contact with you.

Sister Feng in "A Dream of Red Mansions" is a person with very good social skills. She was so versatile that she made everyone happy. When she first met Lin Daiyu, she first created her first image through her voice.

When everyone was talking to Daiyu, Sister Feng’s laughter came from far away: "I came late and didn’t greet the distinguished guest!" Daiyu was very confused and felt that this person was very special. Violent and unbridled.

Although she didn't see Sister Feng's face, she concluded from her voice that she was a powerful character.

It can be seen that sound also plays a great role in the first impression.

So, in order to leave a good first impression on others, we should practice the way we speak. Many times a clear, even voice is more important than the content of what is said. Ideally, the appropriate speaking speed is 230 to 300 words per minute. Moreover, when you meet the other person for the first time, it is best to raise your voice in the first 10 seconds, so that it is easier to arouse the other person's good impression.