Even when you use the words "but, but, no, but" after affirming the other party, the other party will start the self-defense barrier. After my colleague said "no", she basically listened to everything I said, and all the explanations were excuses.
You know, everyone is the protagonist of his own story. The story you want to tell must take the other person as the protagonist, which will change your interaction with them. When the other party has no self-defense ability, you can directly hit the other party's heart, persuade and influence the other party.
Everyone needs a sense of belonging, and everyone will naturally belong to different small teams. When you criticize the other side, if you move the other team, the other side will definitely go against you.
Only by trying to get the other person out of his bubble, let the other person communicate with you as an individual, find the similarities between the two people, and redraw the line to find the same ownership of the two people, will you break the original barrier of team loyalty.
It is human nature to seek comfort. Aggression, out of comfort, is a painful act against humanity.
Then, if you want to break through the barriers of comfort, you must find your story and give you a reason to grow and struggle.
Different opinions, different people see and feel different information and draw different conclusions.
It is often difficult to fight against illusions and identify mistakes, because simple and clear things are often false illusions, and complex things are the truth. People, on the other hand, naturally like simple and clear attribution, but don't like all kinds of complicated factors.
The solution is to create a convincing summary.
You should clearly put forward your requirements, consider the interests of others, don't assume that they will definitely object, listen to what they say, and be open to reasonable compromise.