We are a country with a long history. In the long river of history, the ancients gathered many philosophical sayings with their own life experiences. With the passage of time, some famous sayings have deeply influenced our daily life. Even today's society is so advanced, these words of wisdom have not changed. Moreover, many families are still deeply influenced by traditional culture, and it is precisely because of these traditional cultures that people know how classic the things left by their ancestors are.
China is one of the few countries in the world that are very homesick. Under the influence of traditional culture, China people's attachment to home is more the meaning behind home. In the traditional culture of China, home represents the last place where a person lives, which completely isolates the individual from the outside world. You can do something at home that you don't want to be seen by outsiders. In addition, home is also a place where members are closely linked. Family plays a vital role in how much a person can achieve in the future.
In the traditional culture of China, the values of harmony run through the history of 5000 years. The harmony of a family can promote the happiness and future development of the family to a certain extent. Because of this, the old man once said according to his own experience that "there are four things in the family, and if you are unbeaten, you will die." It is also a warning to future generations that these four problems must not appear if they want to live in harmony with their families.
The ethos of a family.
The first is lax family style: family style is the mental outlook of a family facing the outside world. In ancient China, families were often extended families composed of people related by blood, and such families generally had very strict clan rules. These rules are to establish and inherit the family style. The guardian of clan rules is often an old man with high prestige in the family. If any descendants violate the clan rules formulated by the family, they will be punished accordingly. A good family style will naturally require family children to be positive, work hard, be honest with others, and not bully others. These family styles are usually invisible, but they can play a very important role in a family crisis.
A family with a good family style will definitely make a comeback in the future with its own efforts and strict family rules after the family decline. A family that does not pay attention to family style is basically difficult to rise again after the decline of the family. This is because people who don't pay attention to family style will bully the weak because of their strong family background and ignore the feelings of others. After the decline, such families will no longer be valued by people. With their decline, many people still applaud. These bad behaviors were not particularly conspicuous at the beginning of the family, and the seriousness of the problem was only discovered after the family declined.
The relationship between brothers and sisters should be handled well.
All friends who have passed the test should closely unite around you. -Shakespeare
The second is the discord between father and son and brothers in the family: the word "harmony" runs through the history of Chinese civilization for 5,000 years. In the traditional culture of China, the ancients believed that only harmony could make money. The ancients generally liked to live together. In addition, in ancient times, it was a patriarchal society. As the pillar of the family, whether men can handle the relationship with their brothers and descendants has a great influence on the rise and fall of this family. If the pillar of the family can handle the relationship between brothers, then the future of the family will surely flourish. If the relationship with the brothers in the family is not handled properly, conflicts often occur and have seriously affected the normal life of the family, it will lead to the dissipation of family wealth, thus affecting the development of the family.
If an individual in a family chooses to have a conflict with the family, it means that the individual has lost the biggest backer and will never get help from other people in the family again, and finally falls into an isolated state. In addition, there is a trace of unhappiness between brothers because of economic imbalance. In ancient families, a family would have many brothers and sisters living together. In the long run, everyone will inevitably make a comparison, because different social experiences and different education levels will make different achievements in the future. As a result, their economic level and social status will be different. If one of their brothers and sisters develops very well, it will arouse the envy of others, which will lead to contradictions. If this relationship is not handled well, it will easily have a huge impact on the family.
There should be harmony between husband and wife in the family.
The third is about husband and wife: the disharmony between husband and wife is also the main reason that affects the future development of the family. Family is a new family formed by a man and a woman because of love. Whether the husband and wife are harmonious in this new family affects the development space of this new family. The ideal state of husband and wife is to respect each other and respect customers. After experiencing a passionate and romantic love, the two entered the marriage hall, and the once sweet words will gradually be exhausted by the trivial things in life. At this time, both husband and wife should tolerate and understand each other, so as to make the relationship between the two sides closer.
This situation is more obvious in modern times. Being born in a family now has a very big direction for the future development of children. A child raised by a healthy family must be a positive and sunny child. A child who has experienced great changes in his family since childhood and lacks paternal or maternal love is more inclined to be silent. He is not good at communication, and even deviates from his own outlook on life, which will affect his future views on marriage and values. Nowadays, many young people divorce soon after they get married. One of the reasons is the influence of family background on these children, which makes them have a little doubt and distrust of love, and finally leads to the separation of a newly established family.
Men in the family should avoid some bad habits.
The fourth point is bad habits: in a family, parents, as role models for their children, should first set a bad example for their children. These bad examples include gambling, smoking and drinking, which have a great influence. For example, gambling, a gambler who is addicted to gambling, will lead to the separation of a family. This is the principle that 10 bets 9 and loses. In addition, drinking is also a very bad habit. Many men drink outside and lose their temper when they come home, which makes their children have a shadow since childhood. This bad habit is very easy for children to get infected with this bad habit under the influence of their parents, which is very unfavorable to the family and the future development of children.
Family harmony and prosperous career.
The use of courtesy, harmony is precious-Confucius
The above four points are the old saying, "There are four things in the home, and they are invincible. If you savor the meaning of this sentence carefully, you will find the wisdom of the ancients, which really makes future generations admire. Even now, this sentence is still used by most families. " "Harmony" runs through a family and is one of the necessary factors for its future development. Whether a family can go further in the future depends more on whether the family is harmonious, whether the husband and wife love each other and whether the family style is good. These trivial things are affecting the future development direction of a family.