I have been in the emotional industry for many years, and many people ask me, Brother Kun, how can I chase a girl I like? How to be with her, how to get her attention and so on.
Everyone can't grasp the point: why don't you let women find you?
Throughout the ages, it has been said that women chase men's barriers and men chase women's barriers. This famous saying is still doubtful.
Judging from the differences between men and women.
In the concept of man's rationality, a man with a particularly low cost will feel that seeking a girl has many internal identities, but the cost of reproduction is not high enough to attract girls to be indirectly eliminated, and the cost of livelihood is not high enough to afford girls' food, clothing, housing and transportation. Therefore, when men chase women, this thick wall can't be pushed down. How to tear down this wall? You can find many solutions to Kun Ge's love learning, or you can talk to Kun Ge.
Women, on the other hand, are sensitive plants. They will think that I am with you and only consider how you make me feel. They are models who enjoy physical satisfaction and feel good about themselves, and they can try their best to hand over the rest of their achievements.
From an evolutionary point of view.
From the beginning, the cost of reproduction was the main reason for men. Up to now, most men are drooping, and their needs have become lower body plants. Of course, from the physiological point of view, everyone has the right to choose a better partner as the main body. So women, from the initial livelihood cost, that is, as long as they want to eat well and wear warm clothes, eat well and wear well now.
Vertical transformation is becoming easier for men, but more and more perfect for women.
Through the above process, it seems that it can be concluded that it is as difficult to let a woman you like come to you as it is to let a woman return to the primitive times. However, the method is always much more difficult than the reality. If you want to realize that you are being chased by others in your feelings, you can only do it in the above two ways.
Learn to meet the needs of women at different stages.
Through the progress of human chemistry, I learned that women's needs are different at different stages.
Next, I will explain to you in detail the needs of women at different stages to meet them. Then when you consciously become the person she is waiting for, naturally, you are the necessity of her life, and she must win you with her automatic ability.
Start with three types of girls and find out what they really need.
(1) The stage of learning elder sister in the ignorant period.
Girls at this stage are generally young, and they all "look at feelings" when choosing love. They won't think about whether you have money, and whether you can bear the money for my future career and my children's milk powder. First, age does not require them to consider these; Second, their attitude towards love is romantic, and they don't need too many realistic instruments. Falling in love with the dead will make them feel bad.
And girls in the confused stage can be divided into two different tempers:
Rebellion: She needs your love and your male chauvinism to make her feel covered. If you want such a girl to catch up with you, you must be cool enough. It doesn't mean that a simple internal abstraction must have such characteristics, but that you must have characteristics different from the people. Like small groups, strange; Thinking is different from tributary understanding; May lead and dominate them. These are all kinds of coolness that will be liked and infatuated by this kind of girl. How do men form this coolness? Brother Kun's love of learning helps you solve the problem.
Obedience: I need your love and company. Of course, such a girl needs you to have certain internal premises, but not handsome, but peaceful and clean. What they expect is to get along with their families as usual. People who are attracted to such girls must be too meticulous and patient. Once they meet a boy with such an example, they are likely to adopt automation.
(2) Young women who have just entered the society.
This type of girl has just left the embrace of campus and parents. They have their own understanding of love, but the concept of family is still vague. However, human beings are always interested in the unknown state. Their demand for love is to talk about a love that will not break up, and they have great hope to enter the marriage hall with their loved ones.
However, they will have certain requirements for hard values. The simplest thing is to at least eat and wear warm clothes. So, what kind of man will attract this type of girl?
It is typical of her to be self-motivated in her career. Hard work means affirmation and longing for the future, which will make her life in the future more specific, rather than a simple fantasy. It is also important to pay attention to love life and make plans for it. Lovers' commitment and arrangement for their emotional future will bring them great satisfaction and security.
(3) When older women get married.
Such a girl is not looking for love, let alone falling in love with you. They have been in love and are full of ideal years for the future. As long as you have a car, a house and a loan, you may bring her a sufficient and stable career. If you are still making promises blindly in front of such girls, they will only feel unreliable and unsound, and will shut you out. This is the wrong way without knowing each other's needs.
With such sisters, they don't ask you to have much charm, they just need you to get married.
In the eyes of girls, the right person to marry must have some characteristics. Things are stable and the risk is low; Have a sense of responsibility for the family and will pay for it; A strong sense of tolerance, in a long-term emotional life, friction is inevitable, and tolerance disharmony may be an extremely important temper feature.
Enhance soft value and hard value.
Let's distinguish between hard cost and soft cost first.
Hard value: visible value
External premise: your appearance, your clothes and collocation all reveal your grade, your car keys, watches and so on. For the internal abstraction, the promotion can be stopped by amateur shape transformation.
Soft value: perceived value
Internal conditions: communication authentication, gestures, and people asking you to sign documents are all communication authentication. These are the feelings of others. It is important to reflect some small details in the current career, such as helping girls pull stools to open doors. There are many tips in life. Please come and talk about love with Brother Kun. It is necessary to invent these details. We can sensitively feel the needs of girls.
Knowledge and experience: no one will hate a versatile person, just like Li Bai and Du Fu, who have died for many years but still have many admirers. There are many boys who can easily capture girls' hearts with a guitar or a brush. The device of connotation comes from the books you have read, the people you have experienced and the places you have walked. These are your experiences and accumulation, which will have an impact on you and have a decisive change in your personal temperament.
Emotional experience: You don't need how rich your feelings are, however, your sweet story will bring a transferred and intimate abstraction to women. If a wandering dude attracts girls by reporting his love story, the success rate is negligible. However, a sweet-talking man reporting a serious emotional experience will make girls feel great pity and tolerance, and turn it into interest in you.
Taste: A degree of appreciation for all your work, including your hobbies, is to show your unique charm. Fitness, cooking and tea tasting are all good choices. You can choose what you are good at, stop digging and make it your charm.
After reading so many examples, which example do you think your sister is? Maybe, at what stage should you marry your sister? Promoting your soft price and hard price to meet your sister's needs will make you win, attract her and make her catch up with you automatically.
This problem is actually not difficult, but in the eyes of our public, if nothing else, it is a rare problem. Because this is a comfort to the public's thinking, but as long as you are good at learning, you will find that these things are like enough paper to make everything clear. There are so many predecessors who have paved the way for us. Your success depends on whether you are willing to take action ~