I watched a movie two days ago - "No Man's Land". At the beginning of the film, the poacher played by Huang Bo lay in the dry sand in the northwest no man's land, waiting to hunt the rare bird Altai. Falcon.

He told a story about monkeys: two monkeys went to steal peaches together, one was responsible for picking and the other was responsible for watching, so that they could steal the peaches safely without being caught. If they steal alone, they will be stolen. Peaches will also be taken away. Therefore, an altruistic cooperation model has long been formed between the two monkeys.

But most human beings are selfish and give priority to egoism. I used to be like this too. I always felt that after telling others about good methods, they would be better than me. Later, when I became a teacher, I slowly realized that if you want to learn a skill, the best way is to teach others. Teaching is Best to learn.

Kazuo Inamori once said: "Being self-interested will lead to survival, and benefiting others will be long-lasting. Those who respect others will always be respected by others, and those who love others will always be loved by others. That's all." Therefore, in the fifth of the six advancements, he Xiang Principle proposed: "Be active in doing good and thinking of altruism." He adhered to the principle of altruism in his life-long business philosophy.

01 Altruism is the best self-interest

I have been following Mengwei in the circle of friends for more than a year. This year, I have been influenced by her. She has been on the road to success. What we adhere to is the principle of altruism. Every time we share it in the community, we share it from the bottom of our heart. A lot of knowledge and skills are of great help to novices.

Every day when I get home from work, I will read her social knowledge sharing. If I have any confusion, I will slowly find the answer in her updates. Because of her daily efforts, she has attracted many friends who want to make progress to join her. In just two months, her community reached 500 people.

For her, sharing is to help more people make progress, so this is an altruistic act, but in fact, in the process of altruism, her knowledge level has been rising, and she has also gained At the same time, the study places for the handbook course she launched were all sold out within a few days.

Throughout his career, Inamori Kazuo has always pursued an altruistic business philosophy and warned his employees to consider the interests of others at all times. Therefore, both Kyocera and KDDI he ran have become world-renowned companies. .

So, when you think about others, you are not just helping others, but also fulfilling yourself to a great extent. True altruism comes from the heart and instinct for the benefit of others, rather than an act after weighing the pros and cons.

02 Not all altruism is self-interest

I remember when I first started working, I taught Chinese in a middle school in Thailand. There were three local Chinese teachers in the Chinese language office, and I was the only Chinese one. Teacher, what they usually can’t do is that I do everything.

However, as time went by, one of my colleagues became more aggressive and said that she was busy with something. She always asked me to teach for her when there was no class.

Then one day, another colleague reminded me that she was just going out on a date with her boyfriend. I was very angry at the time, so I refused when she asked me to teach instead, thus offending her. This kind of sacrificing yourself and indulging other people's altruism is meaningless.

For herself, she had no rest time and became very tired. For her, it fostered her bad habit of skipping work. In essence, I became an accomplice of her perfunctory work.

Kazuo Inamori pointed out in "Six Activities": "The kindness that helps others get out of trouble and begins to grow is the 'big kindness'; accommodating the unreasonable demands of friends is the 'small kindness'. You The wrong way to care for and sympathize with him is to do him a disservice and make him fall deeper into trouble.”

One day, there was no class in the afternoon and we were the only ones in the office, so I offered to have a heart-to-heart talk. , I told her my true thoughts and worries. If there were any problems with Chinese learning and teaching, I would definitely tell her without reservation, but I would never do it again by sacrificing my own time to help her in class.

She also understood what I meant, and since then our relationship has become better than before. Although we have been separated for more than three years now, we have always been in contact.

When we decide to help someone, we must clearly distinguish whether it is a "big good" or a "little good". The "little kindness" of being submissive and responding to requests will drag you down. When we are required to make judgments, we must not act emotionally and resolutely say no to unreasonable and meaningless requests.

In fact, the reason why people help others and be kind to others is not simply to be altruistic, but also to achieve true self-reliance through such altruism. Altruism is the highest level of self-interest, and it is easier to achieve good things by being altruistic. life.