In Greek mythology, Callisto, the lover of Zeus, was a shrewd goddess who was good at enduring. Queen Hera often bullied her, sometimes making her kneel in the rubble of ruins, and sometimes asking her to fish for gold hairpins in the cold river. In order to stay safe and avoid being killed, Galisto silently endured this unwarranted humiliation.
Once, Hera found that Zeus was looking at Callisto, and his eyes lit up with emotion. She couldn't help but became jealous and insisted on killing Callisto. At this critical moment, Galisto knew that she was no match for Hera, so she did not engage in a fatal fight. She knelt on the ground, enduring the unfair injustice imposed on her by Hera, reaching out to plead and appeal bitterly. Although he was turned into a big bear, he finally saved his life and became a bright constellation in the sky.
Former Japanese Prime Minister Noboru Takeshita benefited from the spirit of patience at all times throughout his political career. When talking about his experience, Takeshita said that "patience and silence" were the political graces he learned when assisting his teacher Eiji Sato as prime minister.
In China, the word "tolerance" has become the life philosophy of many people with lofty ideals. If you endure anger for a moment, you will avoid a hundred days of worry; all worries will never be tolerated. Both Gou Jian and Han Xin, the kings of Yue, were greatly insulted by others, but they eventually overcame the difficulties and achieved great achievements. Jin Lansheng of the Qing Dynasty said in "Proverbs Lian Bi Cun Yang": "You must be able to endure the disobedience that others cannot tolerate, and you can do things that others cannot."
Tolerance is actually the cure for suffering. A good remedy. To endure temporary doubts and certain humiliation is not only a way to escape from a passive situation, but also a kind of tempering of will and perseverance, which lays the foundation for future efforts, hard work, and career success that cannot be obtained under normal circumstances. Base.
Real life itself is not entirely rational, and is also filled with a lot of helpless logic. For example, some people have aggressive personalities, which means that others are often provoked for no reason. If we fight back against all attacks, the environment we live in will be full of gunpowder. What good will it do to our health? What good does it do to people? What benefit does it have in life?
To be patient is to be patient and to be humble. Generally speaking, if any conflicts arise during social interaction, both parties may be responsible, but the parties concerned should take the initiative to be courteous and find the reasons from their own side. Tolerance actually means letting time and facts speak for themselves. Taking a tolerant attitude in social interactions can keep many things in check and get rid of unprincipled entanglements and unnecessary quarrels between each other. Goethe went for a walk in the park one day and came face to face with a critic who had made sharp criticisms of his works. The critic stood in front of Goethe and shouted loudly: "I never give way to a fool!" Goethe replied: "And I am just the opposite!" As he said this, he stepped aside with a smile on his face. Goethe's forbearance prevented a pointless quarrel. With Goethe's tolerance, you can avoid all kinds of conflicts and eliminate your own annoyance and anger. In a sense, it can not only help one get out of an embarrassing situation and step down, but also show one's broadmindedness and magnanimity.
As the saying goes, "Everything goes wrong all the time." Those who expect sweet love will inevitably suffer from the pain of lovelorn; a family that has always been harmonious will not be short of quarrels; those who are considered trustworthy Friends, occasional misunderstandings can lead to estrangement; working hard for a career may lead to the jealousy of the mediocre... These dissatisfactions in life often test a person's level of cultivation: some take it calmly and treat it calmly; Sincerity turns hostility into friendship; some are angry and grudges, accumulating petty grudges into enemies due to narrow-mindedness. Learning to tolerate, this seemingly simple thing, has the magical power to resolve all kinds of troubles in your life, making everyone confident, happy and sunny in life.
First of all, tolerance is a virtue. The mistakes of relatives, the misunderstandings of friends, the credulity caused by rumors, the right and wrong caused by rumors... At this time, anger is helpless and the fog will disappear. Anger will not turn into spring breeze, but a moment of tolerance can help you restore your proper image and get justice. evaluation and praise.
In the middle of the Qing Dynasty, there was a famous story about "Liu Chi Lane". It is said that the prime minister Zhang Ying and a minister named Ye were both from Tongcheng, Anhui. The two families lived next to each other. They all wanted to build houses, and there were disputes over land. Mrs. Zhang then revised her book in Beijing and asked Zhang Ying to intervene. After all, the prime minister had extraordinary insight. After reading the letter, he immediately wrote a poem to persuade the old lady: "A thousand miles of family letters are just for the wall, so why not give up another three feet? The Great Wall is still there today, and there is no trace of the first emperor of Qin." When Zhang's mother saw Zhang Shu, she understood the reason. They immediately moved the courtyard wall back three feet. Seeing this, the Ye family felt deeply ashamed and immediately moved the wall back three feet. In this way, a six-foot-wide lane was formed between the courtyard walls of Zhang Ye's family.
Enlightened people in ancient times could still do this. Today, colleagues should be better than feudal literati in dealing with minor disputes.
Tolerance is not about cowardice. Instead, it requires confidence and perseverance. The rich can endure to protect their family, the poor can endure humiliation, father and son can endure kindness and filial piety, brothers can endure kindness and sincerity, friends can endure long-lasting love, and couples can endure harmony. When the ancients talked about the word "forbearance", it had at least two meanings: one is tenacity and tenacity. People in the Jin Dynasty said: "Two enemies are facing each other, and we must endure them. The enemy cannot tolerate it, but I can endure it, so I can win." The tolerance here is the embodiment of the tenacious spirit. The second is inhibition.
"Xunzi? Confucianism": "Aspire to endure selfishness, and then you can be public; endure laziness in action, and then you can cultivate." Lu You, a patriotic poet of the Song Dynasty who was known as the "eternal man", had the ambition to "mount his horse to attack the madman, and dismount his horse to write a war note." He had great ambitions to serve the country, and also wrote the famous sentence "The word "forbearance" must always be used as a motto. Doesn’t this kind of patience embody their valuable character of tenacity and perseverance? Who says they are cowardly and can be bullied?
Secondly, "a small impatience will mess up a big plan." The key to the problem is to see what the "plan" is. It is the true nature of a hero to tolerate small anger and pursue big plans. The story of the idiom "bearing a thorn to plead guilty" has been passed down through the ages because of Lin Xiangru's "forbearance": As prime minister, Lin Xiangru held a high and powerful position, but he did not care about Lian Po and was always courteous. Why is this? For the country and the country. If the generals are in harmony with each other, the country will be united and there will be no discord between the countries, and the enemy will not dare to take advantage of the opportunity to invade. Lin Xiangru's forbearance was precisely for the sake of the country's stability. Tolerance was a big deal. On the contrary, it was not uncommon for his inability to forbear to mess up his great plans. When Chu and Han were fighting, Xiang Yu ordered General Cao Jiu to defend Chenggao and not to fight. As long as he could hold off Liu Bang for 15 days, he would be considered meritorious. After Xiang Yu left, Liu Bang and Zhang Liang used a plan to insult the city. They sent troops to the city to insult Cao Jiu by name, and even painted pictures to insult Cao Jiu. This moment made Cao Jiu furious. He had forgotten Xiang Yu's instructions and immediately led his men and horses out of the city gate. It is true that "the general who rushes to the top does not know the plan, and loses all the brave men in a rage." The Han army had already laid an ambush, waiting for the Chu army to leave the city and enter the urn. Suddenly the earth shook and the mountains shook, killing Cao Jiu and wiping out his entire army.
Thirdly, tolerance is a kind of vision and measure. People who can be self-denial and tolerant are profound and powerful, and are the manifestation of great talent and great strategy.
"If selfish people want to take advantage of you, ignore them, let alone seek revenge. When you want to be even with him, you will hurt yourself more than you will hurt that guy "More." This quote is very thought-provoking.
The word "forbearance" has always exuded magical light since ancient times. Almost all successful people at home and abroad in ancient and modern times have greatly benefited from the word "forbearance".
When Marcinli first became President of the United States, he appointed someone to be the Secretary of Taxation. At that time, many politicians opposed this person. They sent representatives to the presidential palace to visit Marcinli and asked him to explain the reasons for appointing this person. The leader was a short congressman who had a bad temper and a rough voice. He cursed the president every time he opened his mouth. Marcinli, however, remained silent and allowed him to finish his scolding at the top of his lungs. Finally, he said very kindly: "Now that you have finished speaking, your anger has subsided, right? Logically, you have no right to question me like this, but I am still willing to explain it in detail." Let me explain to you..." These words made the congressman feel extremely ashamed. But before he could apologize, the president said to him calmly: "Actually, I can't blame you, because I think anyone who doesn't know the truth will be furious." Then he explained the reasons clearly one by one.
In fact, before Marcinli could explain, the congressman was already impressed by him. He regretted that he should not have used such a bad attitude to blame a kind president. Therefore, when he went back to report to his companions, he just said: "I can't remember the president's entire explanation, but one thing I can report is that the president's choice was not wrong."
No. Thinking of the great virtue of "suffering one's anger", which has always been despised by people, not getting angry not only made Marcinli's explanation effective, but also made the congressman repent and never do embarrassing behavior again in the future. Others deliberately use various tricks to make you lose your temper. When you are angry, you will do irrational things. This is undoubtedly asking for trouble.
There is no better way to subdue a person who loses his temper than to be patient.
Tolerance is a kind of cultivation, a kind of thought, and a strategy of using defense as offense. The effect of a gentleman's patience often exceeds that of strength and catharsis. There is a very profound truth in the old saying, "Be patient and spare others' troubles, and you will be able to save yourself". If a gentleman takes something far away, he must be patient; if what he takes is great, he must be patient.
In 1958, a man named Willard Scott returned to Washington, the capital of the United States, after serving in the Navy for two years. As expected, NBC was waiting for him to return as a broadcaster. Work. I just didn't expect to have a new boss. For some reason, the new boss seemed reluctant to accept him.
He then tried hard to compete with his boss in all aspects, so he started working calmly and cautiously. When his new boss rescheduled the "Happy Guys" show, he couldn't stand it anymore. He and his old partner (and friend) Eddie Walker have been hosting the comedy show, and the timing couldn't be worse - it won't air until nearly midnight.
He was furious and ready to fight his boss, even though it might get him fired. However, before he went to war, he remembered the words of King Solomon in the Bible: "Patience shows wisdom, and generosity is glory." His mood gradually calmed down.
Eddie Walker and he accepted this unfortunate schedule and worked diligently. Finally, three years later, "The Happy Guys" became Washington's premier show. What's especially rare is that his new boss also recognized how unethical it was to do that in the past, and sincerely apologized to him. The boss's actions filled the emotional gap between them.
One day, his new boss took the initiative to invite him to a party at the radio station. This time he couldn't avoid it. At the party, he met his boss's fiancée.
She is a smart, lively and pragmatic girl. How could a girl like her like someone who had no redeeming qualities? Through his boss's fiancée, he has a clearer understanding of his boss's personality and conduct.
As time passed, his attitude changed—and so did his boss’s. Later, they became good friends. He still works at NBC and anchors weather forecasts on the station's "Today" show.
We should really thank King Solomon for his teachings.
Patience is the art of creating hope. Forbearance is indeed a good way for people to get along and do things, a lever for people to do their work and a shortcut for their careers. There are many happy experiences in life, and there are also many bad experiences. Only by learning to be patient can you be able to cope with them with ease.
How much pain, how much torture, how much difficulty, how much danger... Almost everyone will be teased by the god of fate on the journey of life. When you are unwilling to be a slave of fate but fail to hold its throat, you must learn to be patient - let all pain be diluted in patience, and let all tears turn into smoke in patience.
Patience is not about being resigned and succumbing to the temptation and dispatch of the God of destiny. The vicissitudes of life have buried unspeakable pain in the abyss of life, but patience can make people believe that the pain will disappear and the sky will be brighter after the storm.
Patience is not passive and decadent, quietly lowering the sail of faith in silence. The ups and downs of life make people feel confused and confused, but patience suppresses the unbearable loneliness, anger, and hardship deep in the heart, preventing them from sneaking out, soaking away, or even tilting the balance of the soul.
Patience is the tempering of will and the accumulation of explosive power; it is breaking through the net with silent struggle and melting the ice with invisible flames. Only by working hard in patience, struggling in patience, and suffering in patience can life shine with brilliance. The burden of life is often the glory of life - the towering monuments and brilliant achievements in the world are all born of patience.
Learn to be patient, learn to persevere in pursuit with patience, and experience life more deeply in patience. "Genius is nothing more than long-term patience! Work hard!" - Maupassant fulfilled Flaubert's words and eventually became a dazzling star in the world's literary world.
So how can we achieve the best state of "forbearance"?
First of all, always be clearly aware of the existence of the goal, so that you can continuously improve your ability to use your brain to think in order to achieve this goal.
Secondly, try to understand the meaning of everything you do. Once you understand it, your attitude towards work will shift from "should do" to "must do", a positive ideology. In this way, the tension and pressure at work will be reduced and the work can be completed happily. Otherwise, blindly forcing yourself to do things you don't like will not only increase a lot of trouble and pain, but also make you mentally fatigued easily and become ineffective.
Third, develop the habit of being comfortable with difficult situations. When a person faces a difficult situation, he will often show a tendency to avoid it. But in order to achieve self-control, one must endure the pain of this dilemma. Over time, you will naturally and unconsciously develop the endurance to be comfortable with difficult situations and be able to concentrate entirely on your work.
Fourth, learn to suppress impulsive emotions. At first glance, this may seem difficult. However, as long as we analyze it calmly, we can easily find that it is actually very simple to suppress impulsive emotions. However, for relatively strong impulses or desires, it is better to choose an appropriate time to give them the opportunity to vent them as much as possible.
If we train ourselves regularly and continuously, we will soon naturally enter the best state of tolerance in our subconscious mind, and our lives will be brilliant because of it.