Everyone has a kind heart. Before seeing or hearing what so-and-so said and how to do things he shouldn't have said, especially things that seemed deviant, contrary to human relations, and people and gods were angry together, I was suddenly filled with indignation and furious.

But with the growth of age and experience, I will gradually become less impulsive, calm down, understand the whole story, try to figure out the rationality of logic, understand the psychology and feelings of the parties, and give it a conclusion after repeated thinking.

As for the sentence "Don't persuade others to be kind if you don't know their pain", to be honest, I only saw it a few years ago. After careful consideration of this sentence, I won't rush to a conclusion now, and I won't comment on anything.

People are complicated, and society is more complicated. It is even more difficult to understand the truth of a thing and the essence of a person.

The right or wrong of a thing itself exists objectively, but it is often difficult to really understand the truth of a thing. Because of different positions, the influence of power, the distortion of human nature, the increase and decrease in the process of communication, and the differences in values, understanding and viewpoints, a thing may be very different from the truth to the final communication result, and it may be unrecognizable in the end. Many things seem reasonable at first, but after digging deep into the truth, they may be the opposite of the initial impression.

Restoring the truth of one thing is more difficult than people think. I suggest you watch the first program "No Truth under Power" by Luo Pang, the anchor of "Luo Ji Thinking", which I believe will deepen your understanding of this issue.

Therefore, for anyone and anything, we have to prove it, be preconceived and act rashly. We should stand in an objective and fair position, explore deeply, think calmly and ponder repeatedly, in order to reach an objective, true, fair and just conclusion.

The cause of the Iraq war is well known to all. However, when the Americans took the small bottle of powdered hard evidence and accused Saddam Hussein of committing crimes in front of the international community, proving that Iraq had developed chemical and biological weapons, the whole world became angry and Iraq became a street mouse. At the time of indiscriminate bombing, Iraq was already fragmented and bloody. No real evidence was found after turning Iraq into ruins. Under the questioning of the whole world, Americans had to admit that they had forged evidence, and the people of the world were shocked. However, at this time, Iraq was already devastated, and the people were displaced and became a hell on earth.

For another example, when the female driver who was admitted to the hospital for four times first told the camera about her unfortunate experience, she won countless people's natural sympathy for women and anger against the perpetrators. However, when the video of the woman driving illegally and deliberately provoking another car four times was exposed, the audience learned the truth of the matter and turned to blame the female driver.

People often say that seeing is believing, but hearing is empty. But sometimes what you hear, or even what you see, is not necessarily true. During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao killed his father and friend Lv Boshe by mistake, which is a typical example. When Cao Cao overheard "What if you tie it and kill it?" Suspicious, thinking that Lu Jia was going to kill him, he killed Lu Jia's youngest son. When I saw the pig tied in the backyard, I suddenly realized. Later, I killed Lao Lu's head out of desperation, leaving the famous saying "I would rather lose this world than let it lose me".

Some people may say that it is the Internet age, and information is open and transparent. What truth can't be seen? Take the competition between China and America as an example. American social media giants often delete and block positive publicity reports about China and information that is unfavorable to the United States. What do you see? You can only see freedom, democracy and human rights in America. The fact that the United States infiltrated, subverted other countries' political power, reversed right and wrong, and fabricated rumors is invisible to the American people at home. So is this a fact?

It is difficult to get the truth at any time, and some may take a long time. For example, in 1543, the Polish astronomer Copernicus put forward the Heliocentrism in his theory of celestial bodies. In the half century after the publication of this book, few people paid attention to Heliocentrism, and its supporters were even rarer. The most famous supporter is giordano bruno. But it was not until 1600 that Bruno was burned to death that Heliocentrism was universally recognized. It was not until Kepler put forward three laws that Heliocentrism was gradually recognized by people. At this time, nearly a hundred years have passed since Heliocentrism was born.

For another example, the Russian writer Xiao Hohloff was accused of copying other people's manuscripts after the publication of Silent Don, but Xiao Hohloff is a man of personality, and he never defends himself. After his death, it was not until 1999 that people discovered his manuscript and cleared the grievances. At this time, it has been 7 1 year since he published his works.

Maybe some truths will surface slowly with the passage of time, but some secrets are buried under the dust of history forever, and people will never see their true colors again.

Rosso talked for a long time, but what he actually said was one thing, that is, we must find out the ins and outs of anything, the right and wrong, in order to draw a correct conclusion. It is not easy to do this. It is more difficult to walk into other people's inner world and feel their true feelings empathetically.

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It is good to persuade people to do good. Forgive others and forgive yourself, which is commendable.

However, it is not desirable, even hateful, to ask others to unconditionally forgive others' mistakes and crimes, and it feels a little helpful.

I often see some keyboard men on the internet. They don't have much in-depth real life experience, but they like to comment and teach others everywhere, just like a moral incarnation. There are also some people who jump to conclusions without knowing the truth in depth, and they like to point at others from the moral high ground, which is very annoying.

Degang Guo's famous saying: I hate people who don't know anything. I advise you to be generous. You should stay away from such people, because lightning will bring you trouble! It can be seen that Mr. Guo is disgusted with such people.

If a person does not go deep into the incident itself, put himself in the other's shoes and feel the inner feelings and pains of the parties concerned, he is not qualified to judge people. Persuading others to be kind with your mouth open is a typical example of standing and talking like a duck's back, which is a kind of hypocrisy. What's more serious is to sprinkle salt on other people's wounds.

Actually, it's hard to feel the same way. There is a big difference between reaching a conclusion and feeling the same thing from different positions and different angles. Generally speaking, the aggressor may be indifferent or happy, the victim may be painful or angry, and the third party may be concerned, sympathetic, irrelevant or even gloating. Among them, only the victim has the deepest feeling and the longest memory. Because only the fire carbon falls on who will feel pain.

I would like to ask those kind people, when your account is fraudulently used, your student status is replaced, you are suffering, and others are successful in their careers, how do you feel when you know the truth? Can the word magnanimity still find a shadow in your mind?

When the big house where your ancestors lived is forcibly demolished, you only get meager compensation and are homeless. Will you still persuade others to suffer?

How do you feel when you are beaten unreasonably by a tough neighbor's house and there is no way to complain, and someone advises you to be generous and tolerant? There is a high probability that you will blurt out in front of him: I am C and you are M!

Being wronged, beaten, insulted and excluded is what everyone in this world doesn't want, but why do you want others to accept it willingly?

Therefore, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you.