Psychological suggestion method
From the psychological point of view, it is a psychological process in which individuals exert influence on themselves through language, image and imagination. This concept was first put forward by a French doctor Couette in 1920. His famous saying is "I'm getting better every day". Self-suggestion includes negative self-suggestion and positive self-suggestion. Positive self-suggestion unconsciously affects our will, psychology and even physical state. Positive self-suggestion enables us to maintain a good mood, optimistic mood and self-confidence, thus mobilizing people's internal factors and exerting subjective initiative. Pygmalion effect in psychology, also known as expectation effect, refers to positive self-suggestion. Negative self-suggestion will strengthen the weakness of our personality, awaken our hidden inferiority, cowardice and jealousy, and then affect our emotions.
At the same time, we can use the guidance and suggestion of language to adjust and relax psychological tension, so that bad emotions can be alleviated. Psychological experiments show that when a person sits still and says "fly into a rage", "fly into a rage" and "piss me off" in his mind, his heart will speed up and his breathing will speed up, as if he were really angry. On the contrary, if you silently say something like "smile", "cheerful" and "make people happy", then he will also have a happy experience in his heart. Therefore, speech activities can not only arouse people's happy experiences, but also arouse people's unpleasant experiences. It can not only cause some kind of emotional reaction, but also inhibit some kind of emotional reaction. Therefore, when we encounter emotional problems in life, we should make full use of the function of language, hint ourselves with inner language or written language, relieve bad emotions and maintain psychological balance. For example, meditate or write the following words on paper with a pen: "calm down", "think twice before you act", "control your anger" and "calm down". Practice has proved that this kind of suggestion has a wonderful influence and adjustment on people's bad emotions and behaviors, which can not only relax excessive tension, but also motivate themselves.
Attention transfer method
Attention-shifting method is a self-regulating method to divert attention from the stimulating situation that causes bad emotional reaction to other things or engages in other activities. When you are in a bad mood, you should turn your attention to things you are interested in, such as going out for a walk, watching movies, watching TV, reading books, playing ball games, playing chess, chatting with friends and changing the environment. , help to calm the mood and find new happiness in the activity. This method, on the one hand, stops the role of bad stimulation and prevents the generalization and spread of bad emotions; On the other hand, by participating in new activities, especially those that interest you, you can achieve the purpose of enhancing positive emotional experience.
Moderate catharsis
Excessive depression will only aggravate emotional distress, while moderate catharsis can release bad emotions, thus alleviating and relaxing tension. Therefore, the easiest way to encounter bad emotions is to "vent"; Venting is usually done in secret, between close friends. Attack, abuse or complain about the angry object by taking forms or using excessive words; Or pour out your grievances and grievances to your closest relatives and friends, and once you vent them, your mood will calm down; Or vent through exercise, labor, etc. Or go to Yuan Ye, an empty mountain forest, and draw up a false target to shout and scold, so as to vent their grievances. It must be pointed out that when using catharsis to adjust one's bad emotions, one must strengthen self-control, do not vent one's dissatisfaction or unpleasant emotions casually, adopt the right way, choose appropriate occasions and objects, and avoid unexpected adverse consequences.
Self-consolation method
When a person encounters misfortune or frustration, in order to avoid mental pain or anxiety, he can find a reason that meets his inner needs to explain or justify. If you find a high-sounding reason for failure to comfort yourself, or find a reason to emphasize that everything is good, so as to dilute your inner anxiety and pain. This method is very helpful to help people accept the reality, protect themselves and avoid mental breakdown when facing big setbacks. Therefore, when people encounter emotional problems, they often comfort themselves with words such as "winning or losing is a common occurrence in military strategists", "A blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise" and "A bad thing turns into a good thing", so as to get rid of troubles, ease conflicts, eliminate anxiety, depression and disappointment, achieve the purpose of self-motivation, sum up experiences and learn lessons, and help maintain emotional peace and stability.
Communication adjustment method
Some bad emotions are often caused by interpersonal contradictions and obstacles. Therefore, when we encounter something unsatisfactory and have troubles, it is much better to take the initiative to find relatives and friends to communicate with each other than to think and feel sorry for ourselves. So when the mood is unstable, find someone to talk to, which has the function of relieving, soothing and stabilizing the mood. On the other hand, interpersonal communication can also help exchange ideas, communicate emotions, enhance their confidence and courage to overcome bad emotions and treat them more rationally.
Emotional sublimation method
Sublimation is to change the motives and desires that are not accepted by society and make them conform to social norms and the requirements of the times. It is an advanced catharsis of negative emotions, and it is to guide negative emotions in a direction that is beneficial to people, themselves and society. For example, a classmate is suffering from lovelorn love, but he is not depressed because of it. Instead, I turned my attention to my study and decided to be a strong man in life and prove my ability.