Poor people must have something hateful. The poor are down and out every day, and the hard work is really pitiful. But it is also hateful. It is not the reality of poverty that bothers them. It's their crazy obsession with poverty in their heads. No matter how much material support, the poor will not be rich. The essence of the poor is to spend time and energy on worthless people and things all his life. They don't even have the ability to judge values They will spend 95% of their life on low-value people and things. There is something wrong with the complete object. They still ignore their own efforts. Their so-called efforts are only spent on low-value things and low-value people! This is a futile effort. It seems difficult, but in fact it is difficult to live. Most people don't know that your current efforts can only maintain your present life. Only by working harder, or changing your efforts, can you live a new and better life. You should not change, you can only repeat the original hard life. When you work hard but you are still poor. You must admit that you are wrong. You have to rethink from the beginning first. Some things are wrong from the beginning. For example, you found a heartless and playful love rat. No matter how much you give him, he can't give you anything in return What is a low-value thing? It has nothing to do with making money. You spend it on low-value families. You spend it on low-value complex relationships. There is no point in chatting with a group of friends every day. You spend it on low-value jobs. You know that an iron rice bowl that gives you 3000 yuan a month is more fragile than paper. You have to listen to the so-called old people and spend hundreds of thousands to get involved. You know you can't make money by going with the flow. But in order to fit in, you lose your personality. You don't like reading, but you have to follow the path of education with most people. You know part-time jobs will go up in smoke in ten years. You have limited time and energy and can only sell one company. You can never own company property rights. The success of the company has nothing to do with you. You pretend not to know. You work until you are 40 years old. A day's work experience took ten years. You're right. You're experienced. Teach those younger generations. You clearly know that your life is spent on these low-value things. You pretend you don't know and keep trying blindly. You think this kind of effort can comfort yourself. Actually, it's useless. You just don't want to change. Because people's behavior has inertia. It's too painful to get out of the comfort zone. For example, I am now working from the media and I am used to writing four articles every day. But I am not used to writing 4000-word novels. So I persisted for half a month, and then I couldn't persist. This is a kind of behavioral inertia! Behavior inertia can lead to success or failure. In fact, what really needs your efforts is only this step you have taken, but it's time for you to change your habits. Once you get into the habit, you will be on your way. Everything will be particularly easy. It's just that it's too difficult for a person to survive the initial transition period. What is a low-value person? You know the family you come from is terrible. Parents are feudal and conservative. Parents will oppress you and bind you. You still have to stay with them and listen to their brainwashing. If you earn money, take it home, fill the bottomless pit at home and be Voldemort. Then all the good men left you. What is filial piety? This is foolish filial piety! Everything is for your own good, moved by these superficial words? You know this man is not trustworthy. He is poor, he has no ambition and no sense of responsibility. He can't even bring home the bacon. You don't fit anywhere. You are out of habit, out of fear of loneliness. You are still investing time and energy in this low-value relationship. Quarrel every day, unhappy every day. Your time and energy are worthless and rubbish, understand? The above words basically describe the plight of the poor. It's not that the poor are incompetent. I'm just saying that time and energy are limited. All their time and energy are spent on these low-value people and things. So his life evaporated! Conclusion: Once you fall into a low-value dilemma, you should first learn to stop paying and stop losing in time. Instead of losing everything like a gambler. In the end, it was just a draw with a sieve! What is the essence of the poor? 20 19 Nobel Prize in Economics released. Three award-winning scholars, Abhijit Ban Naji Ban Naji, Esther Duflo and Michael Kreme, won this year's Nobel Prize for their experimental research on solving the poverty problem. In fact, there is a book that also makes an in-depth analysis of the nature of poverty, and its research conclusion is very close to the research results of this award-winning scholar. This book is Scarcity-How We Fall into Poverty and Busyness. The conclusion of this book is that poverty will make people stupid and poorer. Busy will make people stupid and busy. This has to start with the scarcity psychology. Poor and busy people have one thing in common, that is, "no feeling", which is very common. Poor people feel short of money, busy people feel short of time, people who lose weight feel short of good figure, and lonely people feel short of friends. In the author's opinion, this sense of scarcity will bring trouble, interfere with your brain and make it difficult for you to change the status quo, just like falling into a trap. Interfering with the brain: how does poverty make people stupid? Dealing with the same level of money, the speed of poor and not poor people is completely different. Imagine them shopping at the mall. People who don't have enough money may struggle to buy white or black clothes all afternoon, but those who don't have money don't have to worry so much, because "children make choices and adults want me." In Scarcity, the author uses bandwidth to define the mental state of the brain. If a computer runs multiple programs at the same time, the bandwidth may be insufficient and the running speed will be greatly reduced. So is the brain. Imagine that two people have just returned to the office after shopping. Those who are not short of money are in a good mood after buying clothes and devote themselves to work with greater enthusiasm. People who are short of money may still be wondering which to buy. Do you think there will be a big difference in their work efficiency? A small experiment: an experiment in the book illustrates the extent of this interference-just reminding the poor that he is poor can make his IQ drop instantly, which is much better than keeping him awake all night. In this experiment, the subjects will take an intelligence test, but before the test, they will be asked a small question about money. The first group's little question is, "If your car breaks down and you need $300, would you like to repair it? How soon can you scrape together 300 dollars? " . The problems in the second group will escalate and the maintenance cost will increase to $3,000. The experimental results show that the rich perform well in both groups of intelligence tests, but the poor will have much worse time difference when the repair cost is $3,000 than $300. This score gap is bigger than the gap caused by everyone staying up late. Fall into the trap: scarcity also makes people short-sighted. As we all know, we pay attention to what we lack. Although this kind of psychology may improve the efficiency of solving current problems in the short term, it will also make people fall into a state of peeping at the leopard and lose their long-term goals and ability to grasp the overall situation. A surprising fact mentioned in a true phenomenon book is that in the United States, the probability of firefighters dying in traffic accidents ranks second, second only to heart disease. According to the data, from 1984 to 2000,14 of the deaths of American firefighters came from traffic accidents, and nearly 80% of these 1/4 people died of not wearing seat belts. This seems strange, because these firefighters are very familiar with the principles of traffic safety, and many people even remind their families to fasten their seat belts. Why don't they wear seat belts themselves? The study found that most of these mistakes occurred in the process of their tasks. When the firemen received the alarm, their time became very tight. They not only have to jump on the fire truck quickly and get to the scene of the fire, but also make a lot of preparations in the car. When their minds are full of emergency rescue against time, the little gesture of wearing a seat belt is ignored. We may not put ourselves in the threat of death because of lack of time, but this kind of voyeurism is very common in our daily life. Moreover, firemen's time emergency may only be for a period of time when they are performing their tasks, but "poverty" and "busyness" are often persistent, which will lead to important things outside the "pipeline" being ignored for a long time-people with insufficient money may struggle to buy a dress all day, but they can't find the idea of making financial plans to increase revenue and reduce expenditure. People who don't have enough time are scrambling to catch all kinds of deadlines every day, but they don't have time to think about whether their work arrangements are reasonable. Busy people know that "health is the capital of revolution", but even going to the gym once a week is hard to stick to. Therefore, the lack of psychology not only often wastes our "psychological bandwidth", but also makes us short-sighted. On the other hand, for people who are relatively calm and have room (whether in money, time or other aspects), it is easier to make and stick to some long-term plans that are beneficial to life because there is no immediate interference. In the long run, the Matthew effect of "the poorer the poor, the richer the rich" will be formed. The picture below represents two different mental states, and the brain is limited. If you want to save some flowers, how can you get rid of this vicious circle of "the poorer you are, the stupider you are, the poorer you are"? The two authors gave a very practical prescription-1,to be alert to the danger of scarcity, and always leave room for yourself. No matter in personal management or organizational management, never make the plan too full and maximize the load. Because the "fire fighting" state must be inefficient and even dangerous. 2. Pay attention to bandwidth management, save your mind, realize the existence of mental bandwidth, and pay attention to daily bandwidth management. For example, you can turn many things that need to be reminded many times into an action item. It is difficult to keep exercising. Please hire a fitness instructor at a fixed time. Remind yourself that it is difficult to save money every month, and consider joining an automatic savings plan. It is easy to be neglected to accompany your child, so sign up for regular parent-child activities with your child. 3. Learn to act when you have money to prevent scarcity. Many times, we are short of money because we like to splurge when we have money. There is not enough time because we dawdle before the deadline. Taking action when you are rich will also help you avoid the scarcity trap. For example, set the time of automatic deposit as payday, because there may be no deposit at the end of the month; For example, store some healthy food at home when you are in a good mood, otherwise you will find junk food particularly attractive when you are stressed. 4. Make room for important things and make plans. Most importantly, no matter how busy you are, you should take a step back and look at yourself. Is there anything important but not urgent that has been postponed indefinitely? If so, please pull them into the "pipeline". What is the essence of the poor? What do the poor lack? Seeing this problem, many people's first reaction must be that this is not nonsense. What the poor lack is definitely money! In fact, the lack of money for the poor is only superficial. What is really lacking is the thinking and ability to make money. Here are eight things that the poor lack most and the rich have! Money is not among them. How many are you missing? First, what is essentially lacking is ambition. "Ambition" is a core word to get rich, and it is an extremely precious thing that is incompatible with the poor. If a person has made up his mind to get rid of poverty, he should not only clean up all the "stains of poverty" in dress, gfd and attitude, but also show a kind of power and "explosiveness" that he will never stop until he reaches his goal, and show his strong possessiveness and irresistible desire for wealth in action. Second, what I lack most in my mind is that the concept of the poor is mostly outdated and my thinking inertia is great. There is a huge psychological gap with the times. Although high-tech products may be used, the concept may be more than ten years ago or even the last century. The old adage "Poverty leads to change, and change leads to communication" has not been penetrated by the poor. They are used to living a pale and mediocre life with those old and self-righteous ideas. Third, the "heart" that is most lacking in doing things is actually not weak. At least from their ability to adapt to life, the poor are strong. They can survive tenaciously in any dirty, bitter, poor and tired environment. However, what they desperately get is nothing more than mixing food and clothing and solving their livelihood. What is the reason? It is because the poor do things without "calculation", do not like to use their brains, and do things blindly and stupidly, so the poor sweat the most and often get the least. Fourth, lack of courage in the bones is pitiful. Actually, it's not scary at all. What is terrible is the fear of poverty. Once they are afraid of poverty, it is difficult for the poor to summon up all the courage to break through the status quo, and it is easy to think that they are destined to be poor. Poor people who lack the courage to change poverty will surely die of old age in poverty. Fifth, what the world lacks most is connections. As the saying goes, "Nobody asks you if you are poor in downtown, but you have money and distant relatives in the mountains." It is undeniable that modern people's communicative psychology has a strong utilitarian color, but who doesn't want to make friends with people who are more capable and richer than themselves? So it is understandable that the poor lack connections in the world, but the poor can't let it develop. To paraphrase Shakespeare's famous saying: "You have the right not to approach me, but you have no right to stop me from approaching you." In the final analysis, whether you can have contacts depends on the poor people's own hearts and whether you are brave. 6. What change lacks most is action. All dreams must be realized through action. The dream of making money and getting rich also depends on action. Without action, everything is meaningless. Of course, this kind of action should not be reckless, but planned, concrete and feasible. 7. What is lacking most in speaking is skill. If you pay attention to the observation, you will find that the poor and the rich speak in completely different ways, so some people say that "the poor and the rich decide the tone", and conversely, "eloquence can also decide the poor and the rich". A very important reason why the poor can't get out of the circle of the poor is the lack of speaking skills: some poor people are too absolute, some poor people speak bluntly and hurt people everywhere, some poor people are outspoken, and some poor people promise everywhere but it is difficult to achieve ... Eight, what they lack most in their careers is that they often have small ambitions, but they lack big ambitions. They focus on trivial daily life and spend their energy and passion on too specific things for a long time.