Just like applying for a job and submitting a resume, you can't talk too much about pessimistic experiences and bloody experiences. No one will increase your goodwill because of your failure, only reflect on whether you are incompetent or not, even if you are a general who often loses.
It is better to be meaningful, change yourself and face life experiences more positively. Even if it is an interesting trip, where to teach, K skills are good, basketball skills are good, and articles are great. You can attract each other invisibly by showing your advantages.
I can't help but say a little shortcoming. You are not a saint. It is easier to give people a real feeling with a little trivial shortcomings. It is sincere and true, and you won't feel fake. For example; Do things too seriously, or care too much about others and ignore yourself.
Memories are the most beautiful things, my own memories, interesting things in my school days, and the struggles when I first entered the workplace. It is best to have happy and interesting memories. If you don't want to develop into so-called friends, you should avoid the importance of emotional history and downplay it. You like to talk about your beautiful love memories too much, which can only make the other person feel that you can't forget another person and don't want to pay attention easily. Let bygones be bygones
(2) Talk about the same topic with friends and work.
Most blind date targets are people you know, even referees, friends at work and classmates at school.
Big cities can talk about their similarities in work. For example, if the other party is Coca-Cola, you can say Coca-Cola and then extend it to Pepsi. It is best to know more about their tastes, market positioning, love for people, creativity, and more importantly, always observe whether the other party is interested. Don't talk in the sea unless you are interested. That's casting pearls before swine. At this time, you should change a new topic quickly.
In such a big town, we are all acquaintances when we go out, so there should be a lot of intersection between * * * and * *, so there will be more * * * on the same topic, and chatting with friends is a big field. However, when a disaster comes from your mouth, don't be outspoken, let alone speak ill of your friends. First, you don't know what the other person has to do with friends. It is the villain's behavior that speaks ill of you behind your back, which will leave a bad impression on the blind date, thus denying you, or saying something interesting, praising your friends more, and passing it on to this person's ear will add a lot to your interpersonal relationship.
3 Explore hobbies.
This is the best time to get to know each other, and you can get to know each other's negatives from different aspects.
Because there are great differences between men and women, one is rational and the other is emotional, and there is not much overlap and similarity. Of course, this is not absolute, because some people will still speak more speculatively, and they still need some similarities, and they will develop better and have more language points in the future.
For example, reading a book is the same. Men look at economic philosophy, while women look at romance and crossing. How can we talk about this together? If you want to have something to say and enrich yourself, it will be better to make up lessons. You can try if you don't believe me.
The biggest similarity between men and women is that men like to talk about women behind their backs, while women like to talk about men behind their backs. This is an inherent attraction. Do not deny that there will be more or less.
In addition,
Men are interested in: sports, such as football, NBA (choose a few popular teams to pay more attention to, you will find it very interesting), military (know the latest national military weapons, you will find the new weapons very shocking), war (know the Korean War, Vietnam's border harassment, Gaddafi), news (care about national affairs), economy, stocks, at least know who Buffett is and who Soros is. I'm not asking you to learn, learn a little and understand a little. Good for yourself, bad for others.
What women are interested in is: to tell the truth, I really don't know what hobbies the beautiful women around me have. It seems that the theme is beauty, even if it is both internal and external, tears are flowing down. . .
Shopping (a major feature of women's hobbies, most of them love it), makeup (not the most beautiful, only more beautiful), manicure (making nails beautiful), fashion information, musical instruments, cooking, and some collections, such as stamps, ancient coins, sports (swimming, badminton), watching movies, and most of them also like to read novels and romances through inspirational economy, as well as food and delicacies. . .
Too many, after all, people are different, one can't think too much, and those who are interested can add. I can only think of so much for the time being. Find more hobbies, which will be better extended in the conversation.
Share recent life, fresh and interesting things.
This can be met on the way to work or seen online, but it was carefully collected before. As long as it can bring happiness, it is a good thing to share. Interesting things, classic metaphors, philosophical quotes, and attraction must always be different and attract each other's interest. What's more, eat? What are you doing? It will be boring.
⑤ Pay more attention to recent hot topics.
You can stay at home, but you don't like going out, but you can't derail with the outside world. You don't know the online buzzwords, and you don't know the latest hot topics. How can such a person with no freshness keep your feelings fresh?
When you know the latest hot topics, you can tell them. TA will think that you know a lot, which is very beneficial to your development opportunities. If the other party knows, it will be better, the topic will become more speculative, the feelings will deepen and the development will be better. Although this topic is not deliberately created, in Kan Kan we can only talk about it with books, ink and real materials.
Take Brother Chuan for example. Because he knows a lot, astronomy, history, geography, Buddhism and Zhouyi are more likely to attract each other when chatting. If you don't know everything, how can you go on better? You can't go on just by your face. Mainly talking and communicating.
Talk to each other about future plans.
After a period of understanding and contact, feelings will heat up, and there may be nothing to say at this time.
What about now? It's best to talk about your respective future plans and plans. This is very beneficial to the man. You may be ugly, you may not be rich enough, and you may not be Gao Fushuai. However, you have a good career plan, you have the right direction, you have an enterprising heart, and you have the determination and perseverance to create a happy life for each other. At least, you can be a potential stock in the other person's mind, although you are not a blue chip, so you have a better chance to give yourself to you. Enterprising men are very attractive. Consider making a plan.
This era is not only the time when men are in charge, but also the time when women are in charge. A woman has economic, personality and emotional abilities. Therefore, beautiful women should not only rely on men, but also have a plan for themselves. When you get old, your career will support you. Women who have plans for the future are charming. You can be smart or beautiful. You can't ignore yourself and give up your wonderful life.
Through these understandings, you should know whether the other person is the one you are looking for, so try to run in and join hands. As long as your goals are harmonious and your plans complement each other, you are the most suitable couple and should really walk together.
The last killer's trump card is that no topic is a topic in itself.
What if two people really hit it off, are both introverted and really can't find a common topic? If there is no topic, it is a new topic. Two people have no topic and can talk and communicate. Why don't we have a topic? Why is there a topic? What did the others say? Thereby continuously extending the topic.
Most blind dates have no topic for psychological reasons, and sometimes they are excluded because of nervousness. People you don't know and people you don't know well should contact each other on the premise of marriage and on the basis of prospective male and female friends. Ordinary people can't accept it, and there will be pressure invisibly. Now that you have chosen, you must accept it, or find it yourself.
Wish LZ all the best! ~