The person who said this is a woman.

However, I found it impossible.

There are half women in this world, and men will offend women no matter what they do.

Men had better not offend women.

It is impossible for a man not to offend a woman.

What men do will offend women! It means that he is not bad, or that he dare not tell you what he did to you, which means that he cares about you! A hypocrite is hard to distinguish. Such people behave appropriately on the surface, behave correctly, and have an evil soul hidden in their hearts, which is invisible and intangible and extremely deceptive. People are most vulnerable to such people's harm in communication, which is always to be guarded against in career and life.

The real villain is relatively easy to attract people's attention, because the villain is superficial. In the communication between people, some disgraceful little moves will soon be seen through, and the harm to people is relatively small.

For these two kinds of people, the best way is to avoid them, not to associate with them, and not to get hurt. In costume dramas, ordinary people always call officials "adults" and themselves "villains". This title is actually very learned, and it is not what we think of today as an adult or a child, or a gentleman or a villain on the moral level.

This title is related to the patriarchal clan system. In the patriarchal clan system, "adult" is the abbreviation of "big man" and "villain" is the abbreviation of "villain". So what do you mean by big men and small men? In order to explain the problem clearly, we have to digress a little.

Patriarchal clan system is a legal system invented by Zhou Gong, the first great thinker in China. It was the "Constitution" of the feudal dynasty in China, which influenced the 3,000-year history of China and was the cornerstone to ensure the stability of feudal society. Later, Duke Zhou's thoughts were inherited and developed by Confucius and became the basis of Confucianism.

In film and television dramas, officials are usually called "adults" and call themselves "villains". What's the special meaning?

Duke of Zhou

First, the background of the birth of patriarchal clan system

After the Zhou Dynasty replaced the Shang Dynasty, the Duke of Zhou has been considering a problem: how to maintain the long-term stability of the dynasty and avoid the recurrence of the tragedy in Xia and Shang Dynasties.

As we know, after the establishment of the Zhou Dynasty, the feudal system was implemented, and the society was divided into several classes: kings, vassals, doctors, scholars, civilians and slaves. The Zhou Dynasty hoped to ensure the long-term stability of society through strict definition of social structure. That is to say, their ideal society will always be stable according to the above structure, princes will always be princes, doctors will be doctors from generation to generation, and ordinary people will live comfortably as ordinary people. Then Wang Yongyuan will be king and the Zhou Dynasty will be "eternal".

Mr. Yi Zhongtian vividly compared the enfeoffment system in the Western Zhou Dynasty to "the stars hold the moon": the king is the moon, the vassal is the big star, who is responsible for guarding the royal family, and there are a group of small stars around the vassal, who are responsible for guarding the vassal, so they are nested layer by layer.

In film and television dramas, officials are usually called "adults" and call themselves "villains". What's the special meaning?

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But Duke Zhou found that there was a big problem with this structure: every family had many sons. Who will inherit his father's legacy (including political legacy)? If it is evenly distributed, it means that the family property will gradually decrease with the passage of time, that is to say, a Zhou Dynasty will become several small dynasties, which is obviously not conducive to the continuation of the dynasty, and even to social stability.

We must try to make a law to unify social ideology, so as to ensure the long-term superiority of the family, and thus achieve the goal of stabilizing the social structure and the eternal dynasty. This is the historical background of the birth of patriarchal clan system.

Second, the main content of the patriarchal clan system

1. According to the patriarchal clan system, marriage is monogamous.

In film and television dramas, officials are usually called "adults" and call themselves "villains". What's the special meaning?

Duke of Zhou

Many people will be surprised to see this place. In fact, since the Western Zhou Dynasty, China has been practicing monogamy instead of polygamy, except for a few words: monogamy.

Don't underestimate these words, they define that the status of "wife" and "concubine" in the family is very different. "Wife", also called "the first wife", is the only hostess in the family, and the son born to the first wife is called "the eldest son"; "Concubine", also called "ordinary wife", is not the head of the family, not even the master, but the property of the master, and the son born of ordinary wife is called "illegitimate child".

Usually, we call the branch of the first wife and son "lineal", and the branch (or branches) of the ordinary wife and illegitimate child "ordinary branch". Immediate family members are the legal heirs of a family property, and ordinary branches have no inheritance rights. It can be seen that the difference between "local books" is not generally large.

"Direct line" is also called bulk, and bulk people are called "adults"; Ordinary sects are also called small sects, and people in small sects are called "villains". It has nothing to do with adults and children, or gentlemen and villains that we usually understand.

In film and television dramas, officials are usually called "adults" and call themselves "villains". What's the special meaning?

The Analects of Confucius

2. According to the patriarchal clan system, the family inheritance is directly inherited by the eldest son.

In order to ensure a large number of long-term advantages, the patriarchal clan system stipulates a strict inheritance legal system. The first is that only bulk can inherit; Article 2 stipulates that the eldest son has the priority of inheritance. In other words, this law first ruled out the inheritance rights of small clans, and then stipulated the priority order of sons' inheritance.

Third, the evolution of the meaning of "adult" and "villain"

Confucius has a famous saying: only women are difficult to raise. For a long time, people thought that Confucius compared women to villains, which was a kind of moral discrimination. In fact, after understanding the meaning of "villain", we find that Confucius' sentence is not moral discrimination at all, and the word "villain" has no moral meaning at all. At best, his sentence was sexist.

Let's get back to the question. Why do officials call themselves "adults" and "villains"?

In film and television dramas, officials are usually called "adults" and call themselves "villains". What's the special meaning?

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We know that "adults" have inheritance rights, while "villains" have no inheritance rights, that is, they have "destiny takes a hand" social status differences. Since then, "adult" has gradually evolved into synonymous with "adult" and "villain" has become synonymous with "meanness".

People call officials "adults" and themselves "villains", which shows that you are more distinguished than me!

This is the evolution of an "adult" and a "villain". Another meaning of evolution is that "adults" refer to people who have great ambitions and do great things.

This evolution is embodied in the Four Books and Five Classics. There is a chapter in the four books about "University". This university refers to "adult learning", that is, the learning of people who have great ambitions and do great things.

To sum up, ordinary people call officials "adults", which means "you are a very ambitious and important person!" Calling myself a "villain" means "I am a worthless and humble person."