Moreover, this kind of thinking has formed a hierarchical system, which divides people into three classes according to whether they can lose their temper or not, quite like the Indian caste system: there are third-class people in the world, those who have no temper are third-class, those who have a small temper are second-class, and those who have no temper are first-class
When I first heard this, I thought it made sense. So I suddenly felt ashamed, and took out the humble attitude of three provinces to reflect: it seems that I often lose my temper inexplicably:
I am very unhappy that someone changed lanes and got stuck in traffic while driving. It seems that there are always many excuses for friends to borrow money, which makes me unhappy. Even if the delivery man forgets the order, it will make me hungry for an hour and I will be unhappy.
Combined with my deteriorating situation at that time, I couldn't help thinking deeply: I should exercise well and be a person with high emotional intelligence, otherwise, maybe I really can't be a very powerful person. ...
During that time, I met a new partner. To tell the truth, this brother is a man of temperament and is particularly frank. It is never difficult to discuss problems with him. He can always speak his mind to the point. This straightforward personality allows us to communicate without worrying about anything, just expressing our thoughts truly.
But later, I found out that when this senior encountered problems, he always vented his anger honestly and frankly, regardless of his subordinates, irrelevant staff or even his own leaders, he dared to lose his temper.
Unfortunately, I met several times later, the most serious one, because my understanding was different from his and the drawings did not meet his requirements. As a result, as soon as he got it, he shouted: You have been working for so long, how can you have such a low-level problem?
After I explained, he remained firm: If you have any questions at first, please tell me at once. It's okay now. The deadline is about to play with you? What should I tell you?
To tell the truth, his attitude made me feel wronged and I was full of anger. Because it's not that I didn't remind him, but that the statement he gave me at that time only needs to be worked out first and then adjusted. Besides, we are just new partners, and I'm not your subordinate!
But I still held back, just because I thought of the famous saying: successful people have high emotional intelligence and losing their temper can't solve any problems.