The third ability, self-motivation ability.
The fourth ability, the ability to know other people's emotions. We should not only control our emotions, but also look at others' emotions. This is called taking care of him, taking care of yourself and looking at others. Look at people's emotions and look at them from left to right.
Fifth, interpersonal skills.
Friends, a great nation and a great people should be educated and cultivated, and people with high emotional intelligence should also be educated and cultivated. There are many training methods for high EQ, five of which are outstanding. First: train emotions and emotions. Train your emotions and emotions. How to train? I think there are several suggestions. First, cognitive emotions. I just talked about recognizing emotions, then analyzing emotions, and then evaluating emotions. It depends on your emotional shortcomings. What are the disadvantages? Next, control emotions and mediate emotions, emotions, emotions. Don't have ups and downs, don't be moody, keep an emotional stability, and don't get carried away when times are good. Don't become dejected and despondent in times of adversity, but take it calmly when you are hit.
Several specific suggestions: First, we should control anger. In fact, emotions are human nature, and anger is the expression of intense emotions. There can be some benefits. People can be angry, but often being angry is not good, which will affect study, work, life, interpersonal relationship, health and so on. Anger hurts the liver, so we should strengthen psychological control and improve our self-cultivation. When anger is out of control, a little trick is: procrastination, procrastination; Transfer method, transfer it.
Second, we should overcome tension, pressure, contradictions, conflicts, risks and crises, which can easily make us nervous. Excessive tension is not good for work, health and life. So what are the emotional methods to overcome nervousness? Having a correct goal, communicating and coordinating, learning to enjoy, taking part in some civilized entertainment activities, walking, reading, listening to music and so on are all good ways. Third, to avoid impatience, we should cultivate our patience, aim appropriately, relax moderately, be calm and learn to deal with it coldly.
Fourth, we should get rid of negative emotions, cultivate our own positive emotions, enthusiastic mentality, open mind and sense of accomplishment, and have fun by ourselves.
Fifth, vent reasonably, because the pressure is too great, you will explode if you can't control it, so you can vent appropriately. Use words and actions to vent bad emotions in your heart and keep your mind balanced. This is also the way, what should I do? Go to an empty mountain, shout at the mountain, vent, do exaggerated actions when shouting, relax and vent. Sixth, learn to relax. Humor is a very important way to relax oneself. Humor can especially relieve mental stress and psychological stress. Humor is a relief. Humor will be changed, and it will be easy to change it. Friends, don't forget to give humor as an advanced gift to others.
Seventh, we should take care of other people's emotions, not just our own, especially our primary and secondary school students, and we should focus on training in this area. Some people will hurt others with their hands when they are emotional, but they don't care about other people's emotions.
Eighth, we should create an emotional environment. Students' emotions and feelings, as well as those of our descendants, are largely cultivated and trained by their schools and families. If the family is harmonious, the teachers are kind, the classmates cooperate and the society is harmonious, it will have a great influence on the students and our young people. This is an invisible training, silent training, and extremely important. Although he is invisible and silent, the Tao is invisible, but it is tangible, and more is told in silence than in their voices. Second: learn to deal with interpersonal relationships. Friends, dealing with interpersonal relationships is a thick gobbledygook. When some of us come to the end of our lives, we haven't finished reading this book completely. How to deal with interpersonal relationships? First, be tolerant of people, tolerance is better than a million soldiers; Second, we should put ourselves in different chairs. Third, learn to care; Fourth, full of love; Fifth, be compassionate; Sixth, communication and coordination; Seventh, be honest and clean; Eight must be good at cooperation; Nine should be willing to suffer; Ten must make sacrifices. Third: learn to be optimistic and open-minded. Optimistic and open-minded, asking for trouble, asking for trouble, what is your mood, optimism or pessimism? This is an important aspect of emotional intelligence, and it is also an important factor to obtain emotional intelligence, so some people say that optimism will turn defeat into victory, while pessimism may turn victory into defeat. Friends, here is half a glass of water. If I am pessimistic, I will say, Oh, no, only half a glass of water. What should I do? What would I say if I were an excellent person, optimistic and open-minded? Wow, there's still half a glass of water. Great. After all, there is still half a glass of water, which is also half a glass of water. My opinion is different. Then someone said, where is happiness? Where did I find happiness? Did I find happiness? There is a cat Mimi, an old cat, worried and unhappy all day. He thinks he is the unhappiest old cat in the world, but occasionally he sees a kitten spinning on the ground and biting its tail. He was overjoyed. The old cat said, kitten, why are you so happy? The kitten said, I have happiness on my tail. The old cat came home, biting its tail and circling, biting, biting like a kitten. Really happy. Later, he understood that happiness lies in his tail.
This is a joke, which shows that happiness really needs to be found by yourself. We can base our happiness on the development of our unit, the prosperity of our whole country, the success of others, our own success and my success in helping others. That's all, we might as well change our perspective. Maybe unhappiness has turned into happiness. Change your mind and turn unhappiness into happiness.
There was an old lady who was worried and anxious because she had two sons. The second son sells umbrellas and the eldest son dyes cloth. It's raining, and she is anxious: What happened to the eldest son's cloth? It's sunny, and she's anxious: how much is the second son's umbrella? She was anxious when it rained, and she was anxious when it was sunny, and she was exhausted. One day, a wise man said to her, change your mind, you are happy when it rains, and my second son can sell his umbrella; I'm glad the weather is fine. My eldest son's clothes are dry. From another angle, I am happy when it rains and when the sun shines. Isn't this a high emotional intelligence? .
French writer Mo Bosang famously said that people live in hope. Hope may be positive, even if it is a dream, a nation that can't even dream is a hopeless nation. Every one of us is dreaming, so dream well. Weave a beautiful dream, work hard, dream, dream and fight for it. When my dream is shattered, I will make up another dream to dream, realize it and continue to dream, crush, dream and realize it. Life is like this, full of hope. Fifth, be kind to life opportunities. Some people say that people with high IQ will find opportunities, people with high EQ will seize opportunities, and people with high adversity will not give up opportunities easily. It should be said that to train your emotional intelligence, you should be kind to life opportunities, especially to give one more chance to succeed.
Stand up one more time than fall, and you will succeed. Giving him a few more opportunities, one more opportunity, is actually a deep affection for us.