Chicken Soup for the Soul, as the name suggests, nourishes the soul, rejuvenates people and rekindles their fighting spirit. In relationships, there are all kinds of chicken soup for the soul. When we were ignorant, in love, or in love, we were inspired and encouraged by these words. We even used them as mottos and regarded them as the motto of life. It wasn't until I reached a certain age that I suddenly realized that the words I believed in at that time had deceived me.

1. Before the age of 20, "I would rather laugh on a bicycle than cry in a BMW."

When I encountered this sentence at that age when I was desperate for my own safety, it seemed like Just like our great love. For love, we can do anything. Talking about material things seems to insult the word love. Many girls think that they are born great and for the sake of their lover, we can abandon everything, even our parents. In the end, what did you get?

We thought we could laugh for the rest of our lives on a bicycle, but after we got married, we realized that love without material protection is not as comfortable as crying in a BMW. Poor and humble couples suffer from everything. This sentence has become a wise saying. What is love without bread?

2. Around the age of 30, "Don't get married for the sake of getting married, don't get married just because you're old enough."

I often hear people around me telling older unmarried young people not to get married just for the sake of getting married. , don’t get married just because you got the annual income, don’t get married because your parents are urging you to get married. We are always accustomed to combining our own life experiences to persuade others to encounter love because of our own unhappy marriages. I used to think the same way. If I couldn't find love, I would rather be single for the rest of my life. Later, I realized that there was actually nothing wrong with my parents urging me to get married.

We always dream that one day the person we like will come to marry us on a white horse, but fantasies are still fantasies, and we have to return to reality. Especially for women, the experience of the older generation does not seem to be a big problem. My grandma told me, don’t wait. After waiting until you are 30, it will be difficult to meet the right person. Who can raise a good child to such an old age? The good ones would have been picked away early.

Grandma’s words may not sound good, but I think they are rough and unreasonable. Think about it, when we fall in love, who is not picky? For those who advise you to wait for love, first see if she is married. Did she wait until she is this old? Don't wait until you never want to fall in love again. Don't wait until you want to get married but can't find the right person to marry.

Marriage is never about waiting, but about taking the initiative to meet someone. It is not about getting married because you are old, but because you are old, and you should actively welcome the person who is looking for marriage.

3. "Don't take it easy in life. Divorce is no big deal." "For the sake of your children, just endure it if you can."

These two sentences may seem contradictory, but one advises you. Don't wrong yourself and pull her down as soon as possible if your life is not going well. One advises you not to divorce easily because you care about each other. In fact, there are misunderstandings in these two sentences. Marriage is never just that, and it is not something that can be ended with just one word.

The old man said that he would rather demolish ten temples than one marriage. Marriage is not a house, and divorce is not a simple two words, nor can it be summed up by the same chicken soup. Every family has its own circumstances. We do not advise people to be patient all the time, nor do we want people to make impulsive decisions without careful consideration.

Divorce is indeed not a big deal, but I have seen children whose lives were ruined by divorce. That child was once a good child with excellent academic performance, but due to his parents' improper handling of marriage, he became a mentally disturbed child.

Just take a look at a lot of chicken soup for the soul. Their experiences may not necessarily apply to us. What we need is to repeatedly summarize our past selves and find the way forward. Instead of believing in chicken soup, it is better to believe in yourself.