Being hated by many people and respected by others, in interpersonal relationships, the principle of "action and reaction" applies, that is, how you treat others, others will treat you. We often say that "a slap can't make a difference". Treating each other with indifference and hostility will only further "push" the other party into a position of opposition. However, if you try to retaliate with kindness and treat each other with gentleness and friendliness, "Reject", the person who "rejects" you will gradually feel your kindness, the ice will gradually melt, and it will be easier for you to establish a healthy interpersonal relationship that is "appropriate to the problem but not to the person" when encountering problems.

Respect and dislike, you must realize that the magnanimity of making friends with others is to achieve yourself. In the current economic society, almost all people are likely to deal with people they don't like or who are difficult to deal with. The final beneficiary of such dealings must be ourselves. When we look at problems from this perspective, we will have psychological and emotional changes when interacting with this type of people, and our interactions will naturally become smoother.

Third, we often say "you will reap what you sow", and Buddhists often say "what you sow will reap what you sow". This is reflected in interpersonal interactions: with what kind of mentality and behavior you treat others, others will also treat you with the same mentality and behavior. So I say that a smart person should first open his mind, make friends, and be good at getting along with people who have different personalities, temperaments, and behaviors. I believe you are a smart person, so from now on you must learn to understand others, respect other people's thoughts, habits and hobbies, seek common ground while reserving differences in dealing with others, and be good at cooperating with others, so that you can advance and retreat freely in your future work and life. A big undertaking.

Fourth, there is a little principle in psychology. If you don’t accept a certain characteristic of others, it’s actually because you have similar things in your own subconscious. That’s why you don’t accept yourself. Not accepting others. For example, if you "feel that others are provoking and disrespecting you", on the one hand, it is likely that you have been strongly suppressed by a relative in your childhood, and you are angry at this relative, so you unconsciously treat your relative Your emotions and attitudes are transferred to people with similar characteristics, and people with similar characteristics become a "target" for you to unconsciously vent your anger towards your loved ones; on the other hand, it may also be that you are very eager to get the love and love of more people. Pay attention, it's just that you have been deeply suppressing this desire, and you have shown the behavior of "feeling that others are provoking and disrespecting you". If you truly understand these reasons before dealing with others, your mentality will be relaxed and transformed.