"Don't worry, people's life rhythm is different. Some people soak noodles for three minutes, some people cook soup for three hours, some take-out has been delivered, and some people have just cut garlic moss and meat. "

Everyone is busy in their respective fields of life. You don't know my pain, and I don't understand your busy. Life is naturally different with different rhythms.

We don't need to envy others or regret ourselves. Just be yourself in your own time zone.

Maybe not what you want now. Don't be anxious or afraid. There will always be some storms in your life to see the rainbow.

0 1. Anxiety often comes from inner fear.

My friend Coco has been busy preparing for the exam recently. I study day and night every day.

Yesterday, Coco suddenly found me and said, I'm so tired and scared. I'm afraid that if I fail in the exam again, others will read my jokes. If I don't pass the exam, how can I live up to my parents? What should I do? What should we do?

A series of "what to do", I know she is too nervous and anxious.

I said: Coco, don't be so anxious, you work so hard, don't think the result is so bad, you should have confidence, make plans every day and prepare for the exam with peace of mind.

The more you care about things, the less confident you are, and you are always afraid that the result will not be satisfactory.

I always imagine what others think of me, and when I have no bottom, I will think more and be more afraid, and over time I will begin to deny myself.

If there are too many negative voices, you will be overly anxious and let yourself get stuck in it.

In fact, I think too much and add fear to myself.

Someone once asked Zen master Huihai: What's different about you?

The Zen master said: Yes.

The man asked: What is it?

Master Huihai said: Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are sleepy.

The man said: What's the difference? Everyone is like this.

Master Huihai said: Of course not. Many people think about other things when eating, and they can't eat well; I always dream when I sleep, and I can't sleep well. I want to eat, sleep, eat well and sleep well, which is what makes me different.

I'm impressed.

Don't reinforce your cage. If you are trapped in it, you will only become more and more afraid and anxious, and the consequences are self-evident.

Roosevelt said: I think the best way to overcome fear should be to face what you are afraid of and do it bravely until you succeed.

Give yourself a break, face up to all kinds of obstacles you encounter, live every moment well, put your heart down, and the coming will come naturally.

02. Face your inner fears and be your own healer.

Dong Qing first entered Beijing, joined CCTV Western Channel and became the host of Charm 12. But I just accepted this program, but I feel at a loss.

This program shows western culture. Dong Qing, who grew up in the south, can't tell the difference between Shanxi folk songs and Shaanxi folk songs, and he doesn't know the difference between flowers in Inner Mongolia and flowers in Ningxia.

Dong Qing can only work hard behind his back, spending a lot of time and energy to look up information and make preparations.

However, the harvest is not obvious.

Facing the strange audience and the loneliness after recording the program, her heart is also extremely tormented, fearing that tomorrow will be the same.

No matter how anxious you are, the things you face will still occupy your heavy heart.

Dong Qing said: "People sometimes need a little Q, otherwise there is no way to survive."

Dong Qing still goes all out, but will adjust his mind.

Will not live up to every program, proofread and recite manuscripts over and over again;

Live up to every day, with exquisite makeup and bright smile.

As she said, "quietly waiting for new opportunities, but waiting for a flower to bloom."

Until 2005, Dong Qing finally got the chance, stood on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala, and became the master of CCTV, Hua Dan.

Tagore has a saying that difficulties are like rushing rapids struggling on a steep cliff. You should jump into that boundless and unknowable destiny and then overcome it with fearless spirit, no matter how many difficulties there are before you.

When difficulties come, most people are always afraid, always preconceived to expand, so they lose the courage to face them directly.

As everyone knows, what you are afraid of is just like a villain. You are strong, it is weak. If it is strong, you are weak. That's how you bully people, afraid of hard work.

That's the truth.

It's better to face it and follow your own rhythm. We should learn to talk to ourselves and become our own healers.

03. Learn to live in peace with anxiety.

The joys and sorrows in life will always make us feel anxious, which will affect our lives more or less. If we care too much, we will be embarrassed. If you deliberately avoid it, you won't solve any problems.

How to deal with anxiety?

In Coping with Anxiety, there are some practical and effective ways to help you overcome anxiety:

1. Relax.

Jacobson said: When the body is relaxed, the mind will not be anxious.

When anxiety strikes, let yourself lie flat and don't put any burden on your body, such as watches, jewelry, glasses, etc.

Don't think about anything that worries you, try to relax and hint to yourself that I want to relax and let the tension disappear.

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For most people, it is difficult to get rid of ideological entanglement and simply feel the present.

Meditation can completely calm us down, put aside all thoughts related to the past and the future, and focus on the here and now.

Sit on the ground with your legs crossed, listen to the background sound of the waves, choose a focused goal, and don't try to do anything while meditating. The more relaxed you are, the deeper you meditate.

Face your fear

Say something encouraging to yourself, don't say "I'll never do it" or "It's absolutely hopeless".

With the help of supporters, supporters can help you eliminate fears and doubts and give you a sense of security and comfort.

Reward yourself for your little progress. If you are better than yesterday, reward yourself with an ice cream, buy flowers or go out for a good meal.

Take care of yourself

Busy every day, we will feel tired, nervous, anxious, and worse, sick. But if you are too idle, you will feel bored and have nothing to do.

It is particularly important to determine the pace that suits you.

Start your day by going to bed early and getting up early, full of energy and energy.

Let yourself rest for 5~ 10 minutes every hour or at least every two hours, stretch, have a cup of coffee and take a nap at noon.

Make a list of tasks, complete one, and finish what you can do today.

Dinner should be light and don't burden your stomach.

Take a hot bath, read your favorite books before going to bed and go to bed early.

04. Write it at the end

Life is our own, and there is always its unhurried rhythm.

What we have experienced may surprise us, and the feeling of being hit hard is really worrying. We will be in a hurry, but we will never get out of its spell.

Teacher Zhan said that action can cure anxiety.

At this time, we can't think in our own small world, we need to take action to resolve our anxiety.

Never let anxiety drag down your life.

Taking family and children with you on weekends, getting close to nature, smelling the flowers, and the sky is high and wide will always make you feel better. [Sun] [Sun]