Have you ever felt this way?
There are small mistakes in work, and everyone feels that they are abandoning and accusing you and falling into deep remorse;
A careless word, a joke, or someone else's expression, you will speculate in your mind for a long time, draw inferences and sit in the right position;
I want to do something, but I want to try, but I'm afraid I can't do it well. I'm afraid of failure. I'm hesitant and hesitant. ...
Therefore, what really makes people tired is not work, life and interpersonal relationship, but these three kinds of internal friction.
1. I care too much about other people's comments and always doubt myself.
If a person cares too much about other people's comments, he always looks for answers in other people's mouths, fails to see the bright spot in himself, and often falls into the whirlpool of self-doubt, and his self-identity decreases, making him insecure and unable to be himself at all.
Only by exploring inward, evaluating yourself objectively and reflecting on yourself three times a day can we increase our sense of self-identity and value.
2. I am sensitive inside, and I take everything on myself.
Every look and every word of others, you can't help thinking over and over again, relying on yourself. When the leaders mentioned the recent problems at the meeting and attracted everyone's attention, although they didn't name names, some people would think, is it me? Colleagues are very happy to get together and chat, and they are so happy that they are convulsed with joy. When you approach her without opening your mouth, everyone will disperse in a hubbub or suddenly quiet down. You wonder if everyone is talking about me.
When emotions follow the train of thought, difficulties will arise and happiness will naturally go further and further.
3. Doing things back and forth, habitual procrastination
"Internal friction is a person's struggle with himself. Don't wait for others to start, you will be exhausted. " The biggest problem for such people is that they think too much and do too little. As we all know, our brains like things that are easy and don't consume willpower. When they encounter something slightly challenging, they will have rejection, habitual procrastination and anxiety all day.
If you are also suffering from internal friction, you may wish to cure yourself in the following two ways.
1. Accept yourself
Everyone has an independent individual and walks alone. There are advantages and disadvantages, and the advantages complement each other. Because gold is not barefoot, no one is perfect. See more of your own advantages, don't compare others' advantages with your own shortcomings, don't always look at others' achievements, underestimate yourself and accept your imperfect self.
take action
Life is full of troubles, all because of being too idle.
Mr. Jiang Yang has a famous saying: "Your problem lies mainly in not reading much, but in thinking too much." Don't think about anything, read more books when you have time, fill the hole in your heart with words, and cut off the breeding of troubles. When your spiritual world becomes rich, internal friction will be cured.