Do as you would be done by. Desire is what you want.
"Shi" is imposed on others.
Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you, from The Analects of Confucius. The famous saying of Confucius, an ancient thinker and educator in China, is the earliest way of dealing with others advocated by Confucianism. Explain that you don't want others to treat your words and deeds, and you should not treat others with that kind of words and deeds.
"Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" means: Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. Confucius emphasized that people should forgive others and advocated the principle of "forgiveness". Only in this way can human nature be revealed. "Forgiveness" is the negative expression of "benevolence", and its positive expression is "if you want to stand, you can stand, and if you want to reach, you can reach people". Confucius' explanation of benevolence is centered on "loving others", and this kind of loving behavior certainly includes forgiving others. As mentioned in The Analects of Confucius, the way of a master is loyalty and forgiveness.
This sentence reveals the important principles of dealing with interpersonal relationships. Confucius said that people should treat others with their own behavior as a reference. People should have a broad mind, not narrow-minded when dealing with people, but generous and tolerant. If you push something you hate to others, it will not only destroy the relationship with others, but also make things deadlocked and out of control. The communication between people should really adhere to this principle, which is the embodiment of respecting others and treating others equally. In this world, we should not only pay attention to our own existence, but also pay attention to the existence of others. Everyone is equal. Do not do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
Do as you would be done by.
People are like a magnet, attracting people with similar ideas and like-minded, and rejecting other heterogeneous people. If you want to make friends with kind and generous people, you must first become such a person, as you sow, so you reap. All your thoughts will eventually come back to you.
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As early as 2500 years ago, Confucius said an old saying: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you." . This sentence tells the true meaning of being a man.
The so-called "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" means pushing others with your own heart; How do you want to live, you think others will want to live; If you don't want others to treat you, don't treat others like that; I hope I can stand up and understand in society, and I will also help others stand up and understand. In short, start from your own heart, push yourself and others, understand others, and be kind to others. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" simply means putting yourself in others' shoes, which is the same as what China folks often say: put yourself in others' shoes.
Why do some people think so well of others?
The real reason is: as you sow, you reap.
Sow an action and you will reap a habit; Sow a habit and you will get a personality; Sow a personality and you will get a destiny; Sow a good thing and you will get a good result; Sow evil deeds and you will get a bad result.
You have the right to treat others unfairly, but your unfair attitude will make you "eat your own fruit" Moreover, further, the consequences of every thought you release will return to yourself. Because all your behaviors and thoughts about others are recorded in your subconscious through the principle of self-suggestion, the nature of these behaviors and thoughts will modify your own personality, and your personality is equivalent to a magnetic field, attracting people or situations with the same personality to you.
To be exact, "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" means: civilization. It is not easy for a person to truly become a civilized person. It is precisely because this is a very high and difficult requirement that our society now always advocates "spiritual civilization construction" repeatedly.
There have been many sages in China, who pushed themselves and others. The story of Dayu's water control is a noble example of "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" and "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". When Dayu accepted the task of water control, he just married a girl from Tushan Stone. When he thought of someone being drowned, his heart was as painful and uneasy as that of his loved one being drowned. So he bid farewell to his wife and led 270,000 flood control people to carry out flood relief work day and night. In the process of water control, Dayu went through the house three times and refused to enter. After 13 years of fighting, nine big rivers were dredged, and the floods went into the sea, eliminating the floods, which made immortal achievements. After that, there was a folk song called "Dayu Harnessing Water":
Dayu has been managing water for thirteen years and devoted himself to solving problems for the people.
Field observation and investigation, unity and diligence to listen to opinions.
3. Stay indoors, forget to eat and sleep.
Rivers were dredged, floods were destroyed, and everyone was happy to irrigate farmland.
During the Warring States Period, a man named Bai Gui talked to Mencius about this matter. He boasted, "If I were allowed to control water, I would certainly do better than Yu. Wouldn't it be much easier if I dredged the river and let the flood flow to neighboring countries? Mencius said to him rudely, "You are wrong! If neighboring countries are used as catchment areas, floods will flow back and cause even greater disasters. People with kindness don't do this. This is the origin of the idiom "beggar thy neighbor".
Judging from the two stories of Dayu's water conservancy and Bai Gui's talk about water conservancy, Bai Gui only thinks of himself, not others. This wrong idea of "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is inevitable. Dayu's efforts to control the water and the sea, though arduous, eliminated the disasters of both his own people and those of neighboring countries. How worthy of our admiration and imitation is this spirit of putting yourself in others' shoes.
The moral feelings of "putting yourself in the other's shoes" have a wide influence not only in China, but also all over the world. It is said that in the headquarters of the International Red Cross, Confucius' famous saying "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" hangs, which reflects the human yearning for good interpersonal relationships.
China has a saying: "Man and everything prosper". Good words and deeds of others are the lubricant to achieve "harmony between people". May all descendants of the Chinese people always push themselves and others everywhere, so that the flowers of the splendid civilization of 5,000 years will bloom more brilliantly and fragrant. The popularization of this point is of great significance to the whole society, thus achieving global harmony and glory through the power of China's traditional culture.
This paper is based on Three Things for Being a Man edited by Mu Ziqing and Life Collection edited by Gao Zhanxiang.
The Analects of Confucius said: Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. It means don't impose on others what you don't want to do. This sentence is short and classic, so it is cited as the motto by many people.
Yes, that's right, but I thought about it. Is it just because you don't want to be done by others? So what you want, can you do it on others?
Everyone has such a habit that they always like to introduce what they think is good to another person. I have a classmate who likes Jay Chou very much, so he put up posters of Jay Chou in his dormitory, and took pains to tell us about his experience, and finally found his classmates' antipathy to him. But he finally said very grievance: Don't you admire such a powerful person? It is true that Jay is famous, but not everyone in the world likes him. After all, there are people who like Andy Lau and Chris Lee. That classmate likes Jay Chou very much, yes. But if this love is imposed on others, it is his fault.
Do as you would be done by. I believe we can do it as long as we exercise restraint. But don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you, which is more difficult to do well. Because what you want means what you like, according to everyone's psychological characteristics, what you like must be good things. Since it's a good thing, what's wrong with sharing it with everyone? In fact, the mistake is here, because what we like may not be liked by everyone. Some people think that money is paramount, and they know that money is dirt and garbage. That's the reason. Sometimes I do such things unconsciously. For example, I have a crush on Wang Chuang, so I recommend my classmates to go to Wang Chuang. As a result, they all thought it was just a very ordinary website and were not interested at all. At first, I was confused. Why are they deaf to such a good website? But now I understand that everyone has different interests. Of course, literature lovers like websites that can publish articles like Wang Chuang's. On the contrary, he hates writing. How can he like it? It can be seen that a person's hobbies are different, his personality is different, and his world outlook is different. So there is neither absolute good nor absolute bad in this world. The key is our own view of it.
The universe, shape * * *. Some people love their country, some love beautiful women, some love wealth, and some love freedom. If you put Bill? Gates gave money to the cynical diogenes? Lartio, I'm sure he'll laugh. Just as we can't accept what we hate, maybe others can't accept our goodness! Do whatever you want to others!
-Hope to adopt.
Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. This is a serious social problem. For example, your garbage should be thrown away (because you don't want it), but you throw it in front of your neighbor's house (this is for others). When the neighbors saw it, they certainly felt hateful. He even threw this rubbish at the door of other neighbors' houses. Other neighbors saw it, and of course they didn't like it. If this vicious circle continues ... it will become a serious social problem.
If you can solve your "unwillingness" perfectly, fairly and correctly, then there will be no "abuse" and there will be no vicious circle.
The key is: how do you treat your "unwillingness" correctly in your life? As long as the method is correct, there will be no "abuse". The method is also very simple: just don't be too lazy, don't covet temporary convenience, and don't take the so-called "shortcut" in doing anything. You must know that "there is no accumulation, no miles." If you don't accumulate small streams, you can't become rivers and seas. "Nothing can be done quickly, but haste makes waste. Finish what you started.
Do as you would be done by. In the next sentence of The Analects of Confucius Yan Yuan, Nakamiya asked Ren. Confucius said, "Going out will make people like big guests. Do as you would be done by. You have no complaints at home or at home. " Zhong Gong said, "Yong is not sensitive, please talk to him!"
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Do as you would be done by. Content with the same meaning is something you don't want to meet, and you shouldn't put these things on others' heads. For example, if you don't want others to speak ill of you behind your back, then don't speak ill of others behind your back yourself.
Do as you would be done by. Do as you would be done by. Confucius emphasized that people should forgive others and advocated the principle of "forgiveness". Only in this way can human nature be revealed. "Forgiveness" is the negative expression of "benevolence", and its positive expression is "if you want to stand, you can stand, and if you want to reach, you can reach people". Confucius' explanation of benevolence is centered on "loving others", and this kind of loving behavior certainly includes forgiving others. As mentioned in The Analects of Confucius, the way of a master is loyalty and forgiveness.
This sentence reveals the important principles of dealing with interpersonal relationships. Confucius said that people should treat others with their own behavior as a reference. People should have a broad mind, not narrow-minded when dealing with people, but generous and tolerant. If you impose what you don't want on others, it will not only destroy the relationship with others, but also make things deadlocked and out of control. The communication between people should really adhere to this principle, which is the embodiment of respecting others and treating others equally. In this world, we should not only pay attention to our own existence, but also pay attention to the existence of others. Everyone is equal. Do not do to others what you don't want them to do to you.
Don't do to others what you don't want, and don't do to others what you don't want, which is correct; The latter is not suitable, because "what you want can help others, but you can't impose it on others."
"Benevolence" is the core concept of Confucianism. The basic meaning of benevolence is love. "The benevolent loves others". Love is closeness, friendliness and kindness to others. Love includes two basic requirements:
(1) Advocacy requirements: "The benevolent wants to be a man, and he wants to be a man";
Persuasion requirement: "Don't do to others what you don't want."
Impose what you want on others. Including the situation of doing bad things with good intentions; It also includes bad intentions and evil deeds. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is a moral principle advocated by Confucius and has its rationality. "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is a wrong principle in dealing with interpersonal relationships and harmful.