Good people are late-ripening, and others are ripening them. -Mo Yan

There is a saying in Buddhism to persuade people to mend their ways: "The sea of suffering is boundless, and turning back is the shore." This is because we usually think that an unscrupulous person will be condemned by his conscience and turn over a new leaf, but the reality is that a bad person will never feel that he is a bad person, just as a poisonous snake never knows that he is poisonous.

For good people, doing good is their own code of conduct, but for bad people, doing bad things is a normal thing. They never feel that what they do is wrong. Even if their actions are exposed, they will try to shirk their responsibilities in the face of public accusations. The next time they do something bad, they will learn from it and try their best to be perfect without exposing flaws.

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Some people are kind at heart and occasionally correct their mistakes, but most bad people will never correct them. The education they received from childhood and the environment they experienced are there, and it is difficult to correct their three views. They also have their own logical system to seek theoretical support for their unreasonable behavior and rationalize their behavior.

When I was a child, the old man often told us, "Good people get what they deserve and bad people get what they deserve. It's not that you don't report it, it's not the right time. "But in reality, this is not the case. Many good people and kind people live very tired all their lives, while many bad people and wicked people live very comfortably, without being punished as they should, and don't care what others think of them.

Compared with good people, bad people are stronger inside, and they don't feel anything wrong with their actions. They even think that the behavior of some kind people is stupid, so even if they do something bad, they won't feel guilty at all. Moreover, in the eyes of bad people, only their own interests are the most important, and the interests of others are irrelevant and do not need to be respected.

Human nature is very complicated. When we look at a person, we should not always look at it from our own perspective. Many times, we can't understand some people's ideas, because it is reasonable to consider something from their perspective.

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Compared with bad people, the life of good people in real life is much more sad. There is a simple reason. Because they worry too much and always think of others, those bad guys have no burden. They can do what they want according to their own interests, regardless of other people's opinions and their own face.

If you always fantasize about exchanging your sacrifice for the goodwill of the other party, then you will definitely get the opposite result. A lot of people do. It seems that he is always considerate of others, always ready to sacrifice his own interests to safeguard others' interests, but the result is that he has neither pleased others nor wronged himself. No one in this world owes anyone, even parents, nothing to their children. If you want to be nice to others at the expense of sacrifice, it's unfair to you.

Oversacrificing yourself to help others will raise a bunch of baiwenhang. Whether in life or at work, we have encountered this phenomenon, that is, those who embarrass themselves, even if they are used to it. Therefore, kindness should also have a bottom line. Our kindness should be given to those who deserve it, and should not be wantonly consumed by some villains and villains.

True love is not blind dedication, but mutual benefit and mutual inspiration. Each of us is an independent individual. Only by caring about your own personality and dignity can you get respect and love from others.

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True kindness is not to help others blindly, but to help selectively after really determining the object to help, otherwise it will only encourage the arrogance of the wicked and hurt the good.

If a person wants to be respected by others, he must first respect himself. You don't even consider your feelings, and neither will others. Only those who love themselves will be loved by others.