What is comprehensive development? Many parents encourage their children to attend more special interest classes, hoping that their children will be proficient in all aspects of "music, chess, calligraphy and painting", but this does not equate to all-round development.
Children’s development includes knowledge learning, specialty development, self-care ability, communication skills, safety awareness, etc. These are important parts that cannot be ignored for the overall development of children. Children's development should be healthy, happy, harmonious and sustainable.
Susan Stiffelman, a well-known parenting expert who has written the best-selling books "Parenting Without Confrontation" and "Growing Together, Becoming a Better You Together with Your Children" said: " As parents, we must actively help our children build self-confidence, develop learning abilities, and guide them to burn their passion for life, understand and achieve their goals.”
If we want our children to develop in an all-round way, we will have a better foothold in the future. In society, parents have a great responsibility. Parents must pay attention to the following six aspects.
1. Discover and cultivate children’s strengths
Every child is a unique existence with its own strengths and weaknesses. Parents can observe and discover them in daily life and school environment. Children's unique gifts and talents, and based on these advantages, cultivate and develop children's interests. Parents should also actively develop their own hobbies. When your child sees you trying new things, it will motivate him to do the same.
2. Praise and encourage children correctly
When a child completes something well, many parents will praise: "Wow, well done, you are so smart." ! "In fact, this way of praising and encouraging children is wrong.
Carol Dweck, a professor of behavioral psychology at Stanford University, has confirmed in research that praising children’s talents and abilities is harmful to children. Professor Dweck suggested that parents should not label their children as "smart" or "genius" when praising them, but should focus more on recognizing their children's dedication and efforts.
The correct way to praise is: "Wow, well done, you must have worked hard before!" Because after parents label their children as "smart" or "genius", they will form a fixed mentality. , believe that their achievements come from their innate abilities and are unwilling to accept more challenges.
If parents praise their children for their dedication and hard work, the children will become people with a growth mindset, and they will be more willing to face more difficult challenges by learning new skills.
3. Respect children’s different learning styles
Each child’s learning style is different. Some children are visual, and their main channel for acquiring knowledge is watching. Parents You can use colorful pictures to stimulate, attract their attention, improve their interest in learning, and strengthen the learning effect.
Some children are auditory, and the main channel for them to acquire knowledge is watching. Therefore, parents should mobilize their listening ability and improve their enjoyment of learning by playing recordings and explaining.
There is also a type of child who is tactile. This type of children likes to do hands-on operations, learn knowledge and develop their thinking in the operation. Parents can give these children hands-on opportunities to learn by doing.
4. Encourage children to read more books
When you pick up a book and tell a story to your child, the cultivation of your child's emotional intelligence begins. Even if your child is still very young and cannot understand everything you say, he will pay attention to the rhythm of the language and slowly learn to understand some listening vocabulary.
Parents should encourage their children to read more books. This can improve their reading skills, learn to communicate using language, and make it easier for them to succeed in school and society in the future.
5. Eat meals together with your children
Recent statistics in the United States clearly tell people: children who sit at the same table with their families to eat will be healthier and healthier. If they are happy, their academic performance will be better.
Research has also shown that the more frequently family members eat together, the less likely their children are to smoke, drink alcohol, take drugs, be depressed, have eating disorders and commit suicide.
However, in today's fast-paced modern life, many families are busy with work and cannot accompany their children to eat. You must know that a meal can also allow children to receive education and gain something.
Children who eat at least five meals a week with their families are more likely to achieve higher grades in school and are less likely to develop eating disorders, according to a study conducted by Columbia University.
6. Give children a warm hug
The famous American psychologist Dr. Herod Fus found that hugs can make people younger and more energetic. Bringing people closer together. Children who hug their parents frequently have much higher psychological quality than those who have a tense relationship with their parents.
Research shows that children who suffer from a chronic lack of emotional warmth face chronic stress, which may cause them to be unable to concentrate on learning and thinking.
When families hug their children, the child’s brain will receive benign stimulation, and these stimulations can promote the child’s intellectual and emotional development. Warm hugs can also give children a sense of security, relieve their tension, and promote their healthy growth.
“If you want to improve your child’s abilities, you need to work hard and persevere.
"Michele Borba, an American parenting expert who has won the National Educator Medal, said.
Children are the hope of the family and the future of the country. Only through comprehensive development can they adapt to the development and progress of society. , parents must be persistent and consistent in the process of raising children.