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"Failure is the mother of success" is a famous saying, which means that as long as losers learn from failure and work hard, success will follow. For many years, it has given confidence and strength to losers and people in adversity and has become their motto.
However, if you think about it carefully, isn't there often a shadow of "failure" lurking in "success"?
Through their own efforts, some people have made great achievements in their careers, accumulated great wealth, and even held high positions and won various honors, which can be described as "success." However, after their success, some "successful people" don't strive for progress, or even get carried away, or sleep in the credit book, or take pride in taking credit for it, and regard law and morality as trivial matters, and eventually become losers or even prisoners. They succeed first and then fail because of success.
It is an inherent enterprising side of human nature to lie on one's laurels and try to win in adversity. There are many such examples in ancient and modern China and abroad. If you win, you will be lazy, if you win, you will be arrogant, and if you succeed, you will be slack. This is the inferiority of human psychology. Such examples can be seen everywhere at home and abroad. Failure often becomes a kind of strength and tonic, while success is sometimes a burden and anesthetic. Losers can't turn defeat into victory if they don't learn from their lessons and work harder. If the winner is not alert and sober, he will turn victory into failure. It is not easy to win in defeat, and it is even more difficult to be invincible after success. The winner's smug expression is sometimes worse than the loser's depressed expression.
As the old saying goes, "Learning is like sailing against the current. If you don't advance, you will retreat. " "Learning" is like this, and so is other aspects of life. Zhu also said that "mortals will retreat if they don't advance" and "there is no reason to be neutral and retreat if they don't advance". In today's information society, even knowledge is "depreciating" at an alarming rate. Only by constantly updating our knowledge can we keep up with the pace of the times, otherwise the times will throw us further and further. The competition in today's society is extremely fierce. Only by perseverance, perseverance, can we keep moving forward and be invincible in our studies and careers. Only by winning without laziness, winning without arrogance, unremitting efforts and continuous pioneering and enterprising can we enter a new realm of knowledge, career and personality.
It can be seen that if "success is the mother of failure", although it is a bit of a word game, it is also a warning.
The "success" mentioned above is only focused on career and study. If the package is extended to the "life" level, the basic principle is the same, but the situation is more complicated and the levels and steps are different. Some people divide life into three levels: survival, life and life. The so-called career success, wealth accumulation and career promotion are mostly just successes in the sense of "survival". Living in a bigger house and eating high-grade and exquisite food looks more beautiful on the surface and attracts more envious eyes. It is still "survival". There are more immaterial factors in "life" based on "survival", such as love, family ethics and friendship. Some "high officials" and "rich Jia" only focus on the promotion of "survival" such as promotion and wealth, but pay the price of "life" because of the breakdown of family and friendship. If it rises to the level of "life", every life comes to this world, which is unique and has its own life texture different from others. Whether it is "great beauty" or "poetic dwelling", it is the real demand of life, the balance and transcendence of each individual's own "survival" and "life", and all of them need great wisdom. If blinded by the secular "success theory", success at the level of "survival" is likely to bring failure at the level of "life" and "life". In an instant, you need to be cautious about success or failure.
There is no need to feel sorry for "failure" and don't say "success" easily. Life inevitably has several ups and downs. Only by properly handling the transformation of success or failure in the heart can life be more brilliant.
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Zhang Jian was a scholar in the late Qing Dynasty and a famous industrialist and educator in modern China. Zhang Jian was born in a poor family. In order to get him out of poverty as soon as possible, the bullied parents let him learn from the prestigious Song Puzhai from an early age.
Zhang Jian is not very talented and doesn't study very hard. Song Puzhai, who has always been strict, was very angry and called him to the front: "Do you know how the exam went?" What are your plans for the future? " Knowing that he had failed in the exam, Zhang Jian hung his head and dared not go out, waiting for the teacher to punish him.
After a long time, Mr. Song hit the nail on the head and said, "If you want to be an individual, you have to work hard and sweat thousands of times more than ordinary people." You should always remember that if there are 1000 candidates and only 999 candidates are accepted, you should consider yourself the only one who failed on the list. Only diligence can change the crisis. "
After listening to the teacher's instruction, Zhang Jian was filled with remorse. At home, Zhang Jian met his exhausted mother and came back with a bundle of firewood. The firewood like a hill pressed her back very low. In the sun, my mother's dry and messy hair looks like a layer of frost. Zhang Jian couldn't help crying, his heart was like a cone.
When he got home, Zhang Jian immediately picked up a pen, ink, paper and inkstone, wrote the five Chinese characters "999" and hung them in the most eye-catching place in the room. He should always remind himself that the only way to change the crisis is diligence. Since then, Zhang Jian seems to be a different person, hanging his head and tying his legs, studying hard all night.
For decades, Zhang Jian has worked hard to conceive the seeds of dreams with amazing perseverance and suffered a lot. Twenty-seven years later, at the age of 42, he finally realized his dream of being the top scholar.
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Peggy Pitt is a professor in the Department of Communication at Marcel University. At the age of five, Peter lost 97% of his sight. Although he was almost blind, he refused to enter a school for the disabled and won the opportunity to study in a public school. When he joined the softball team, he served as the first baseman, trying to catch the ball with the sound of softball whistling on the grass. When he plays American football, he acts as a second-line interception; When he was in college and graduate school, he often asked his classmates to read it to him. When he became a university professor, he won the reputation of being an excellent professor.
One day, a bold student asked Professor Peter, what is the most serious disability, blindness or deafness? Missing hands or legs, or what? At that time, the field immediately filled with a stagnant, ominous solemnity. After that, Pete said seriously, "None of this. Being lifeless, irresponsible and lacking in desire is the real disability. In this lesson, if I don't teach you anything, but I can make you understand something closely related to life-accept and affirm yourself, and don't say impossible to yourself-this lesson will surely achieve great success! "
Mr. John Curtis is a disabled person with cancer. He can dive without legs and drive without feet. A number of sports events champion, won the national second-class coach honor.
Although John Curtis has no feet, he has walked a longer and more difficult road than others. Although John Curtis is not as tall as others, he has reached the peak of his career that many ordinary people can't reach. He is full of love for life and treats life with all his love. Many people are moved by his strong and unyielding will and can't help but ask curiously: Your performance is incredible. How did you succeed? John Curtis replied: Never say impossible to yourself! It is this belief that contributed to the success of John Curtis.
Many years ago, a 4-year-old boy named MacFarlane was playing in the Woods behind his farm. Suddenly, a wild boar appeared not far away, and the boy's eyes widened with curiosity. However, before he could look closely, he felt a sharp pain in his face. The child next door hit him in the face with an extremely hot welder. Suddenly, his world became dark. After examination, the boy's left eyeball was broken, and six weeks later, due to severe sympathetic ophthalmia, his right eye also lost his vision. From then on, he can only learn to touch things with his hands and measure the distance with his feet. Soon, he can pick those big and soft fruits among the orange trees; You can walk to your bed accurately from the outside; Later, he entered a school for the blind and learned a lot. ...
Even so, he is still unhappy. He felt that what he lost was the most important thing, so he became inferior. Aware of his son's mind, the father, who has always been strict, said to MacFarlane, "Son, your heart is your eyes. You should use your' mind' to accept and affirm yourself, and don't say impossible to yourself! Only in this way can you enhance your self-confidence and be full of energy! "
His father's words inspired him. McFarlane stopped complaining, but made up his mind to use his "eye of the soul" to guide his life. He began to learn wrestling and won 20 games in a row. He began to learn swimming, sprinting and javelin, all of which won gold medals in the competition. He learned to play clarinet, piano and trumpet again. In middle school, he won 6 gold medals in Canada 1 1 national musical instrument performance championship and international sports championship. Later, in the first American blind water skiing championship, he won the championship again and set a new world record. At 1980, he became an adviser to the "Health and Sports" Committee directly under the President of the United States. At this time, he has won 103 medals. At the 1984 Los Angeles Olympic Games, he became one of the outstanding athletes who carried the flame from new york to the venue.
People can't choose whether they are congenital or acquired with appearance defects, but their inner state and spiritual will can be determined by their own strength. "Since God has given talents, let them be employed!" As long as you can beat yourself in today's complicated world, you will certainly realize your value. Please remember: don't say impossible to yourself.