Loneliness is a kind of courage to live the best of yourself.
I still remember that in the first month of college, I had the same dream for several nights in a row. I dreamed that I returned to the college entrance examination room, filled out the answer sheet, and found that I forgot to bring my pencil. I woke up in a hurry, only to find that the world was safe. After this period of youth, I understand that this is completely unnecessary. The reason why the college entrance examination makes us feel at a loss, even in a trance, is because we have not handled ourselves well and have no correct understanding of ourselves and the college entrance examination.
Like all rescues, external force is only an aid, and only one can save himself from the college entrance examination. Anything, including college entrance examination, love, career and life, no matter what the meaning is, it is very terrible to impose the meaning of others on yourself. Meaning must be found by yourself!
Aren't many factors of the tension and anxiety brought by the college entrance examination imposed on you by the outside world? In this sense, every candidate is lonely. Jiang Xun said well that the discussion of loneliness must return to itself. We should also have an independent perspective on the significance of the college entrance examination. I think the starting point of this angle should be self-growth and self-education. If senior three is a 360-degree circle, as long as you are more mature and progressive than the previous scale in every scale, and you can write most of the answers you know quietly and calmly when you go to the examination room, it is the greatest success. At this time, there is absolutely no need for you to consider others, competition and scores. Many failures have similar excuses for not playing well. Psychologically speaking, they are mainly disturbed by the outside world, and their ego has not yet stood firm.
It is not easy to stand firm and live the best of yourself. It takes great courage to face loneliness. In youth, the most lonely moment may be talking to parents, because they can't understand what you are saying. I know a senior three student whose grades have been unsatisfactory for two reasons: he is a long-distance runner and wants to run to and from school every day, but his parents disapprove. He advocates picking up and dropping off to save time; Reviewing at night, the door is always open, and my mother is always worried about what will happen to him. At my suggestion, parents gave up their insistence, let their children choose their own learning style and give them an independent learning space. As a result, two months later, the student's ranking actually rose from the last quarter to the first quarter. This is a successful case of coping with self-improvement after loneliness. You know, even maternal love, a selfless external factor, sometimes can't enjoy the lethality of loneliness and growth, not to mention other external interference?
For youth, loneliness is a desire to talk to yourself. In the busy review, what's wrong with running in a busy city, riding a bicycle to see the afterglow of the sunset in the wild, or reading a novel quietly? Who can say that physical exercise and spiritual cultivation are not necessary conditions for learning? We should summon up the courage to go forward alone, give ourselves a lonely space and time, encourage ourselves, know ourselves and manage ourselves. When you really end this loneliness, you will understand that it will not be difficult and painful for you to get what grades you get, what university you get into, which major you choose, and which city you choose, because whatever the outcome, that is what you want and what you can accept.
Loneliness is a kind of wisdom that stimulates unlimited creativity.
Senior three must have a similar experience: the countdown to the college entrance examination is XXX days, which is updated by the students on duty every day. There is Nietzsche's famous saying on the blackboard, that not dancing every day is disappointment to life, and there are also students' own ambitions. According to Tsinghua, who is it? Dominate rivers and lakes, call the wind and call the rain, unless you learn it, you think the college entrance examination is like a battle that you have to do your best all your life, and it is also like a youthful and gorgeous gamble. Perhaps the most tragic part of senior three lies in the single choice: the college entrance examination is the ultimate destination. Therefore, there are many parents' promises, and there are also many commitments of their own: after the college entrance examination, where to travel, watch novels and movies for a month, and play online games for a day. Youth seems to be a kind of loneliness forbidden by the circle, a kind of pain that I don't want to think about today and tomorrow, and a feeling mixed with tragedy. In fact, the college entrance examination is not the whole of youth. Life is a marathon, where is the examination room of life? A truly motivated person should be prepared for a lifetime exam.
The college entrance examination, as the deepest imprint of youth, should be like a magnificent poem. The singer of this poem should be a wise man who is full of wisdom and can properly handle his own problems. You should learn to appease your loneliness. Loneliness is the beginning of thinking, and thinking in senior three is the most active. This depressing time is just the perfect moment for us to taste loneliness and cultivate strong thinking ability. The loneliness and creativity of young people should be manifested in daring to break away from the language of the masses and express doubts and different ways of thinking. Compared with the conclusive dogma of Confucianism, Zhuangzi offers more speculative possibilities. Zhuangzi is a playful person with strong speculative ability. This enlightens us: in the face of college entrance examination, we should have a serious attitude and the spirit of game, and combine hard work with flexibility.
Loneliness can refine wisdom, which is the most precious wealth in life. With this wisdom, you can at least find a review method that suits you now. In the third year of senior high school, students who are backward in learning should not use the review method of the students with the best academic performance to review. Instead of mock exams and sea tactics every day, it is better to simply take out the textbooks, read them over and over again, practice them over and over again, practice the basic skills well, and stop thinking about anything profound. So you won't lose yourself again, and you won't be led by the nose by top students. Of course, you must give up the fear of not reviewing well just because you are different from others. If you have the spare capacity to study, you can look at things other than review materials, read newspaper abstracts, listen to English news, and read Tang poetry and Song poetry. Maybe you don't take the exam, but why do you have to be too eager for quick success?
Loneliness is a kind of tolerance, which precipitates a quiet mood.
One of my high school classmates ate a bad stomach the day before the college entrance examination, went to the hospital for infusion overnight, and went to the examination room with a high fever the next day. The result was unexpected. She ranked first in the college entrance examination. I think she must have been lonely because of illness that day, but this loneliness calmed her down and tried her best to play it well. On the contrary, she got good grades in the exam. This classmate usually likes to say: a good mood needs to be created by himself. This is a strong psychological self-control. On the other hand, some students often feel depressed and confused because of inefficiency, physical discomfort, ranking fluctuation, family influence and other reasons, and easily fall into their inner position and feel anxious about external interference.
Therefore, there is something very substantial in loneliness. There is nothing wrong with loneliness. Loneliness is bad because you are afraid of loneliness. Trying to break loneliness quickly is the cause of great anxiety. Loneliness is the beginning of not being lonely. Once our hearts stop grasping at straws to fill loneliness, we will feel ecstatic. I believe that people who can handle loneliness properly will never panic when they enter the examination room. On the contrary, a life whose mind is influenced by external factors is most afraid of loneliness, and it is difficult for them to accomplish what they could have done.
Loneliness is a kind of tolerance, like liger Falcon, like a king. This is a manifestation of self-improvement and self-composure. There can only be one first in an exam, but it doesn't mean that the people behind you are complete losers, because this tolerance tells you where your unique value lies. There are standard reference answers in the exam, and the answers in life will be much richer. Standing in the preparation team, you have to look further.
The lone wolf heading for the wilderness in Jia Pingwa's Missing the Wolf is the last noble quality of human beings, which is not environmentally friendly, domesticated or tamed. This tolerance is a valuable quality of self-conquest and self-challenge.