Last week, my best friend quarreled with her boyfriend again and told me in tears. The unilateral summary is "He doesn't love me!" "(is it super familiar? )
My girlfriend's little boyfriend is a hard-working medical student. He just graduated from graduate school and is at the bottom of the biological chain. He works long hours and is always on standby. He has to be on duty for an hour or two every week, staying up late to save patients until the early hours of the morning, washing his face and then going to work. My best friend's boyfriend is also my good friend. The poor child told me sadly, "I finally had a weekend." In fact, I just wanted to lie in bed and die, but I was afraid of being angry and blaming me for not being with her for a week ... "
So their arrangement is to meet at noon on Saturday, watch a movie in the afternoon (her boyfriend fell asleep halfway) and have dinner together (any shopping mall and restaurant, with a bad review of five stars and a bad face). After seeing Xiao Xia home, he wanted to go back to sleep and didn't want to stay for the night. The reason is "I really couldn't sleep well (want to cry) on the first night at her house". After enduring the "company" of the walking dead for a long time, Xiao Ah finally broke out: "Good! Then live by yourself. Goodbye! "
After listening to the testimony of both sides, as an unofficial member of the National Coordination Committee for Contradictions between Husband and Wife, I personally understand Xiao's anger. However, straight men are still very wronged. Why is he still angry after being with his beloved girlfriend for so long?
Teenagers, there are really many kinds of companionship. It's not that your physical location is next to mine, which seems to be harmonious and synchronous, but in fact, each of them is doing one thing absently, and that is to accompany each other. Boyfriend's most important mistake is not to put two people's feelings first-yes, two people, because he ignored the double at the same time! Fang! Yes! Feeling and need.
After a tiring week, of course, we should use the weekend to catch up on sleep, which is a matter of course! (The bedridden professional cried with tears of conscience. ) instead of spending the whole day listlessly with their girlfriends, tell her in advance, babe. I am really tired! Let me sleep all afternoon and have a big meal with you in the evening, ok? Reasonable and gentle girl friend (right! We deserve all the best adjectives. How can we say no? How can you gnash your teeth and refuse to say, no! You must come with me! Even if you keep yawning! It's impossible.
Then, straight men didn't pay attention to girls' feelings. Girls' expectations before dating exceed boys' imagination. We will carefully check the wardrobe, take it off and change into several sets, take out a pair of earrings we like in the jewelry box, entangle them in a few lipstick colors that are too light to distinguish, and pick out a perfume according to mood/coat color/hairstyle/weather. Faced with this huge expectation and long preparation, you are a little stunned and distracted, which is a great disrespect for you. We will silently look in our eyes, keep it in mind, and say to ourselves sadly, "Why didn't he listen to me?" Don't you love me? Don't you like me? Maybe he's not interested in me anymore? Wow, the baby is bitter! "In the date with you, my feelings were not taken into account, and I didn't even feel your input and your expectations. How can this be true companionship?
High-quality companies are dedicated companies. Therefore, boys really don't force themselves to spend a lot of time. Objectively speaking, it is "to accompany my girlfriend", but in fact it is only for the sake of companionship. There is no communication between the two (forget it! ), this kind of companionship is just a stumbling block and reluctance.
Accompanying can be that two people laugh until their stomachs hurt because of a joke, and discuss the topic of Pa's debate enthusiastically. It can also be that I lean on your stomach and cook a play, and you fight on the sofa. It can also be that you sleep lazily all afternoon and I dance in the kitchen to prepare dinner for you. The premise is that we communicate each other's feelings and tell each other's needs. Always put your feelings and mine first.
May you and I both have company.