People will meet many people in their life. Some people will be deeply impressed when they meet them once, while others will forget that people who are "close" to themselves will always occupy an irreplaceable position in your mind, or parents, brothers and sisters, lovers or confidants. They are all people you should cherish all your life.

The people closest to us are "the closest, safest and most stable" people, and it is worth our life to manage and care, and it depends on whether you can manage or not. It is comfortable and reliable to get along with each other forever, which is a real "family" or "friendship" and worth remembering.

If there is love, there will be hate, and if there is affection, there will be estrangement. All these are related to cause and effect, and they will be dealt with and modified, and hate will be transformed into love, so it is difficult to take root.

The closer you are, the higher your requirements, expectations, concerns and hurts you more. This is the truth of the world. After crying, thinking and laughing, the family relationship will remain unchanged.

My friend Xiaoman told us his own story: Xiaoman's brother had a sum of money in his hand after graduating from college for several years, so he opened a processing factory and became his own boss. At the moment, he didn't find anyone to take care of the money, so he called his sister who worked in Beijing to help take care of the financial work. Xiaoman, who had no professional training, bought accounting learning materials for his brother and his own company and taught himself.

Then he officially took over the financial work. In the first year, Xiaoman said that my brother could accommodate and tolerate some small mistakes he made in his work. As time went on, he no longer tolerated her like that, and he demanded more and more from her. If he didn't do well, he was criticized. After being said several times, he didn't have the energy to do it. Later, he thought that it was his own fault and his own ability was not enough.

Afterwards, my brother patiently explained to her, "You can't even do a good job of giving you a chance to exercise. I am strict with my own people and have high expectations. My own people should be better than others."

The higher the expectations and requirements, but the starting point has not changed. Because I am one of our own, I don't have high requirements for myself, and the starting point is very low. Naturally, I lag behind others, and my expectations turn into disappointment. It is inevitable that "I hate iron and don't produce steel", and the rest is cursing, blaming and complaining, which is the harm of words, so as to cause psychological harm.

little man is speechless, and he will continue to be wronged again. Xiaoman finally understood that the closer people are, the higher their demands and expectations are, and only after their own personal experience can they know that this is the reason.

Li Juan and Li Na are sisters. They often like to wrangle. You talk about the east and she talks about the west. They always argue and disagree. If they are not careful, they will get hurt.

to give a very simple example, Li Juan said that "a cow falls" (something made of wood around the neck of a cow) can be rolled. My sister knows that what she said is absurd, so can something that is so curved be rolled? The two men argued endlessly and didn't talk for several days. You ignored me and I ignored you. In many small things in life, there will be disputes, different ideas, different opinions, fighting and arguing, unhappy and disheartened, and finally silent, too lazy to talk, hurting feelings, angry, sad and self-blaming. What is the reason?

This is because of "closeness" and "familiarity", hurting one's own people requires no cost, no worries, no excessive thoughts, no consideration of the other's feelings, and whether words should be said or not, and whether others can accept or not. These are the reasons for the "dispute".

The closer I get, the more I care about you, the more I like to argue with you, and the more I hurt you.

It is because of closeness that I care about you. When Li Na saw Li Juan lying in the hospital bed, her heart was very distressed, and her brow was so anxious that she couldn't wait to suffer for her sister. That's why.

When people get along with each other, they should always know how to keep their distance from each other. If they get too close, it will become a disaster, which will affect their communication, hurt their feelings and keep them from each other for the rest of their lives.

ordinary people get along like this, especially those who are "close".

remember, never walk too close. Being too close is a disaster.

Everyone has his own "bottom line" to get along with. Just like a hedgehog, he is covered with thorns to protect himself. In case of danger, he will not hesitate to erect all the thorns to protect his own safety, avoid disasters and achieve the purpose of escape.

people are the same, just like hedgehogs, they must know how to protect themselves with their own thorns at critical dangerous moments. If you say something and do something beyond his "bottom line", at this time, the people closest to them will "deny their relatives" and will "severely" fight back and challenge you in turn. "Sharp words" will definitely make you experience ". It has brought "fatal" harm to people. If you are angry, it is what you have been patient for a long time. Can you bear it? Only you can experience it, and only you can taste it. The "heartbreaking" injury deeply stung the two closest people. The next time is for both sides to bear it silently, digest it silently and heal their scars silently.

After the calm down, some of the closest people will change their way of doing things, understand the truth that "distance produces beauty", and get along more and more comfortably. The "closest person" who doesn't know that "distance produces beauty" is afraid to expose the "scar" again, but "away from you" and "isolate yourself". Over time, love produces hatred, emotional alienation, and even no contact, which is not good. On the contrary, it is necessary to know how to "cherish". A person's life can last for decades and time flies.

besides parents, brothers and sisters, lovers and closest friends, a "bosom friend" is also your closest friend. Often, when you are worried and unhappy, the first person you will think of may be your "confidant", and the object you most want to share your "pimple" or "happiest thing" is your "confidant" to dispel doubts in your heart. This desire is even better than that of your parents, brothers and sisters, and you can open your heart and pour out your worries and thoughts to your "confidant" without reservation to achieve "confidence"

Nan and Xiaoqing are very good colleagues, friends and confidants. Their friendship has remained unchanged for more than 2 years. Except for their blood relationship, they get along exactly like their closest relatives. They know how to share their happiness and pain at any time. They are very rare "confidants in distress".

More than 2 years ago, Nan was a business, and Xiaoqing was a kind girl. She worked in the same company and got along well with each other. The ideal of * * * enabled them to establish a deep friendship. They got wind of their work and were valued by the company. Nan had an accident at work and was hospitalized from beginning to end, taking care of Xiaoqing and her sisters. Nan later set up a company on her own, and each of them got married. Xiaoqing's marriage was not good. When she was in conflict, she would ask Nan to complain, and Nan would help her analyze and explain until her heart was free of resentment and doubts were lifted. Until now, if Nan has problems in the company, Xiaoqing will take Nan as his younger brother and try his best to help him.

Both of them regard each other as the most important people in their lives. As long as they encounter difficult things, they will join hands and solve them together. They really see the truth in adversity, and they are the best "bosom friends". People who know them are envious, because "bosom friends" are hard to find, and they may not meet someone who knows them all their lives. The closer they are, the more they like to share them with you.

When Nan is chatting, when talking about Xiaoqing, it is inevitable to say, "You know me, Xiaoqing is also". It can be seen that "bosom friend" is a noble person in one's life, and it is also the "fate" of one's life, which should be cherished.

However, once you lose your friendship, you will turn against each other. The deeper your feelings are, the more serious your injuries will be. You must take good care of it, so that you can keep fresh for a long time like a marriage and experience the joy and sweetness brought by your friendship.

People often say, "The higher you lift, the heavier you fall". The same is true of love and marriage, and it is also applicable to lovers. "The closer you get, the deeper you love, the heavier you hurt, and the harder it is to get rid of the harm of marriage.

Look at the feelings of people who have experienced love and are hurt by love. The first lady:

The second lady:

Both of them are experiencing and introspection after experiencing emotional injury, and both of them have been hurt all over.

because of love, because of understanding, because of familiarity, I know her weakness, grasp her weakness, and know her pain points; The closer you get, the more you poke the pain point and poke the key; The deeper you love, the heavier you hurt, just like a sword, which goes straight to your heart.

I loved one, hurt one and hated one.

I have paid the price of love and tasted the pain of gouging out my heart. The person I love most is often hurt more and more, and it is difficult to get rid of the harm of marriage.

For people who are happily married, you should know how to cherish that love and cherish each other's fate. Mutual tolerance and understanding in life will make your marriage happy and long-term, and avoid emotional harm.

People who are close to you are nothing more than parents, brothers and sisters, confidants and lovers. The closer you get, the more you love, and the more you hurt.

To understand this truth, because of "closeness", the higher the requirements for you, the higher the expectations; Because "close", the more "care about you", the more I like to "argue" with you; The closer I am, the more I like to share with you, and the more I care about your emotions.

Because of "closeness", we should know how to "keep our distance" from each other, and don't go too close, which is a disaster.

People who are "close" sometimes arouse great contradictions because of some trivial matters. Some of them have a stiff relationship, and no one wants to talk to anyone. Some of them have caused "physical violence", "fishing for bones" and "mending the old friendship" after several years. In the meantime, they are inevitably hurt. Because they can make sense and are too close in their bones, they will give up their "personal enmity" and let it go.

Therefore, the closer people are, the deeper they often hurt you. People will live for a lifetime, and it will be only a few decades. Grasp the "degree", enlarge the measurement, forget about it, cherish this feeling and cherish the time together, because they are the noble people in our life and the people worthy of cherishing in our life.