the spirit of landing, the energy of manifestation

Although language is invisible and intangible,

language itself has great energy.

language can kill people, do you believe it?

At least, it just killed a potted flower,

and let the whole world witness it.

The terrible energy of language ...

Recently, IKEA in the United Arab Emirates conducted an experiment, which was not impressive at first, but the result of the experiment shocked the whole world ...

I was particularly surprised after reading it, because it reflected a potential killing in modern society (.

although this time, it didn't kill people.

However, most people may not know all their lives that this method can really kill people ...

Let's take a look at this strange experiment, How big is the energy of human speech?

it happened in IKEA, UAE. They picked out two plants in their own shop, which look almost the same.

put a transparent cover on the potted plants and put them on the GEMS campus.

Give them the same fertilizer and water every day, and bask in the sun.

However, it can only be said that "the same tree has different lives"

If you zoom in, you can see that the pot on the left says "This plant was bullied"

On the right, it says "This plant was praised"

How can a plant be bullied? Do you want to beat it again?

don't think too much, the experiment is not so violent. The so-called "bullying" is a "language attack" on it

They found a lot of students, recorded the audio in advance, and then played the audio circularly in the plant's ear.

as for this swearing, it is also very cruel, but it is a common "verbal violence" ...

"You are a waste, you are nothing!"

"You are not green at all!"

"You look like you're rotten."

"You're not likable at all. What's the use of asking you!"

two identical plants listen to two completely different languages every day.

"tell the truth, are you still alive?"

I feel sorry for this plant for one minute here ...

In comparison, the treatment of this plant on the right is the palace level.

The words of "affirmation", "praise" and "praise" are circulated around it every day:

"I like the way you are"

"I am very happy when I see you"

"You are really beautiful!"

"The world has changed because of you"

"You are great!"

On the one hand, it was insulting by verbal violence, and on the other hand, it was warm-hearted praise and praise. In this way, the experiment lasted for 3 days.

The final experimental result can be said to be unexpected, but it is reasonable.

The plant on the left that has been humiliated for 3 days is called "withered" alive.

and the one on the right that praises every day grows well and is green.

It can be seen that the power of language is terrible!

even the children have realized that if plants can be affected, that person will certainly be! Moreover, it may be more affected!

According to statistics, about 246 million children and teenagers suffer from verbal violence and bullying every year.

But verbal violence and bullying are not just on campus! It may be around us everywhere.

sometimes, it only takes one sentence to defeat a person.

and if it hurts people, it comes from your own mouth, and the injury is likely to be devastating.

Waste, shame, rubbish, uselessness, pig brain, why don't you die ...

Under the attack of language violence, many children choose to self-harm and commit suicide.

Someone in Zhihu asked: What is the experience of being scolded by your parents and wanting to commit suicide?

there is an answer: when I was so sad that I cried myself to collapse, my parents looked at me and said, what's wrong?

the despair in my heart is unimaginable.

Some children will choose to harm others, and then ruin their lives ...

According to a survey, more than 6% of juvenile criminals have been hurt by their parents' language.

An educational short film entitled "How much harm can verbal violence do" is frightening to watch.

Six juvenile offenders in the detention center told their stories:

My parents divorced when I was 12 years old, and my mother scolded me every day and often told me to die. My parents call me useless and a loser every day.

I have never been praised. The people who scold me the most are pig brain, pig brain and pig brain.

They always say that I know that eating, humiliating and being human are better than me. They always say to me, "Why don't you die!"

Finally, they turned these languages into criminal weapons: guns, axes, fruit knives ...

Mental abuse in childhood is an important reason for these teenagers to commit crimes.

Children who are constantly humiliated, denied, satirized, sarcastic and despised have a big hole in their hearts, which contains ruined souls, forcing them to vent their trauma and humiliation in extreme ways.

Language has great energy

Language violence hurts people invisibly

Scientists have found that stress language injury will cause some permanent changes in the developing brain, and human bodies and cells have memories.

Those negative emotions and memories have far greater influence than expected. But how many parents often reprimand and insult their children because they can't control their emotions, but say it's because I love you.

there is a beautiful saying: beating is pro, scolding is love.

your mouth is full of love, but your face is ferocious!

as the saying goes, a good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is frost in September.

Language has a strong vibration wave, especially when we are angry and resentful, and it has a strong energy. Through negative vibration waves, the results are often unexpected.

The poet Angelo also talked about the power of language. She said:

Words are like small energy bullets, which shoot into the field of life invisible to the naked eye. Although we can't see words, they become a kind of energy, which is full of room, family, environment and our hearts.

It shows that language is alive, and

it has the ability to create and destroy.

Many parents will transmit their negative emotions to their children, making them slaves and victims of their emotions.

Many couples also turn negative emotions into words to attack each other. In the long run, the whole family relationship will be in a mess.

So, what we need to do now is to change our thoughts and lives by changing the language.

Law of Energy and Attraction of Language

Thought has energy, and language is a vocal thought, so language has a strong vibration wave.

When we speak some negative energy language, you are already sending out vibration waves. More clearly, you are attracting events on the same channel, which is why crow's mouth is particularly effective.

In the same way, when we praise a person, we will attract more beauty to us.

We should constantly learn to use the power of language to

create the beauty in life.

When we are in the state of appreciating each other,

When we praise from the heart,

Our whole inner world,

will change accordingly and

get a great healing power.

On the contrary, bad words and malice

will do harm to yourself and others.

We are the creators of our own destiny, and what we see externally is the presentation of our inner world.

Milton, an English poet, famously said in Paradise Lost:

Heart is in its place, only in a moment; Heaven becomes hell, and hell becomes heaven.

Don't underestimate a small idea. Any idea you have may change the whole world.

when we begin to look at everything around us with appreciation, our hearts are a state of appreciation, which will provide us with positive energy, and positive energy will make us choose a positive life.

What we say will be sincere encouragement and praise to others, thus forming a positive and positive cycle within us.

Use five methods

Treat people around us better

When we treat people around us, please give more encouragement and praise, and you will find that many things begin to become different.

1. Positive encouragement

I believe you, no problem!

give it a try, it doesn't matter whether you succeed or not!

do it a few times more, and it will get better and better!

2. Give respect

Since you have thought it over, I support you!

I respect your choice.

3. Empathy

I know how you feel, and I've been there.

if you want to cry, don't hold it, cry for a while!

4. hand over the right to choose and decide

this matter, you can decide.

You can choose … or ……

5. Give pertinent advice

I love you, but I don't like it.

if you are a little more patient, I believe it will be better!

In family or career, the above five suggestions can be applied to couples, children's education and communication with friends and colleagues.

if you want to ruin a person, you can criticize, judge and deny TA as much as you want;

if you really love someone, please let the words in your mouth stop being a sharp knife on the other person, and use the most beautiful words to help TA become a better person. Bless you