During the war between Cao Cao and Zhang Xiu, his eldest son Cao Ang died in the battle, and his first wife, Mrs. Ding, was so sad that she died. Because Mrs. Ding was Cao Cao's official wife, she was sterile. Cao Cao's concubine gave birth to his eldest son, Cao Ang. After he was born, Cao Ang's mother died. His biological mother passed away, so Cao Ang was given to Mrs. Ding. Mrs. Ding regarded this son as her own son and had very deep emotions. The reason why Cao Cao defeated this battle was because he was so complacent at the time that Zhang Xiu surrendered without much fighting. After the surrender, Cao Cao not only recruited Zhang Xiu's troops, but also Zhang Xiu's aunt. Zhang Xiu's aunt was a beautiful woman. Cao Cao was a very lustful person. He wanted to recruit some beauties wherever he went, so he recruited Zhang Xiu's aunt. Zhang Xiu couldn't lose his face, and due to other reasons, Zhang Xiu later rebelled against him and launched a surprise attack on him. In this war, Cao Ang also died, Cao Cao's nephew Cao Anmin also died, and Cao Cao's favorite general Dian Wei also died. Mrs. Ding was unwilling, so she cried and asked Cao Cao for a son. Please give me back. Son, where have you done my son? And it's you who spends all day picking up girls, causing my son to die, and you won't let her go. If Cao Cao is annoyed, get out and go back to your hometown. Just leave. I'm going back to my parents' home. If I don't live with you, I'm really going back to my parents' home.

After half a year or a few months, Cao Cao regretted it, and then he drove his car to Mrs. Ding’s natal home to take Mrs. Ding back. This thing is common among us today. When a young couple quarrels, the wife runs back to her parents' house, but the husband just smiles, says something nice, and takes the wife back. It's not easy for Cao Cao to do this, right? If you think of Cao Cao's temper, he did the same thing and went to pick up Mrs. Ding. What was Mrs. Ding doing at home, weaving? When Cao Cao came, she didn't stand up to greet him or pay attention to him. Cao Cao was very bored and walked over in a nonchalant manner: Where's the weaving? ...Stop knitting and come home with me. ...Cao Cao walked over and touched Mrs. Ding's back with his hand: Oh, don't be so petty, honey, can you come home with me? Shall we take the car home? It is very important to know this action. This "stroking her back" is a man's love gesture towards women. Mrs. Ding continued to click and click. Cao Cao was very bored: Aren't you going to reply? If you don't go back, I'll leave. "Click" "Click". Cao Cao just walked around and walked out. When he reached the door, he turned his head again: Stop making trouble and come home with me, okay? "Click" "Click". Alas, it seems that our fate as husband and wife has ended, forget it. Then I found my father-in-law: Father-in-law, I am sorry for your daughter, but she refuses to go back with me. Let's do this. She is still young, so don't let her guard you. Marry her and let her remarry.

With Cao Cao's iron heart and temper, it was very, very difficult to achieve this step, which shows that he is very affectionate. Of course, in the end, Mrs. Ding’s father did not dare to marry off Mrs. Ding. Mrs. Ding did not remarry, and she did not remarry in the end. It is estimated that my father-in-law would not dare to marry, nor would Mrs. Ding, and no one would dare to marry. Who do you think would dare to marry the ex-wife of the King of Hell? Aren't you feeling uncomfortable? Cao Cao has always been worried about this matter. When Cao Cao was dying, he said this: I have done good things and bad things in my life. There are successes and mistakes. I don't care. There is only one thing. , that is, when I went underground and to Jiuquan, Zixiu - Zixiu is the word for Cao Ang, and the word Zixiu for Cao Ang means Cao Ang - said that if Zixiu cried and made trouble and asked me for a mother, I didn't know how to answer. Cao Cao made so many mistakes in his life, but he actually thought that his biggest mistake was this, which was to make his wife angry and drive her away! It shows that Cao Cao is a passionate person, a person who loves his children, and a person who values ??emotions. This is Cao Cao's warmth.

4. Vicious. But if you think Cao Cao is so gentle, you are wrong. Cao Cao is very cruel. It can be said that he doesn't recognize people even if they fall out with each other.

For example, Xu You played a key role in defecting to Cao Cao, so Xu You was also very proud. Xu You often said to Cao Cao, "Hey, Ah Man, don't call him Cao Gong." He called him by his nickname, such as Ming Gong or Prime Minister. Cao Cao has two nicknames, one is Ji Li and the other is Ah Ma. Call him by his nickname: Ah Ma, if it weren’t for me Xu Xu, you wouldn’t be where you are today! Cao Cao could only say with a smile, ah yes, yes, Mr. Xu is right, I would not be where I am today without your help. But Xu You kept saying, this is very annoying, isn't it? It's like saying you gave me this dress and it looks beautiful when I wear it. Of course I am very happy, but you have to stand up every time I wear this dress. He said to everyone, "Look, guys, I gave him this dress. If I didn't give him this dress, he would have nothing to wear." Can I be happy? What about Cao Cao? One time when Cao Cao captured Yecheng, Xu You said to everyone there, "Look, if it weren't for me, the Cao family would not be able to enter this gate." Cao Cao couldn't bear it anymore and killed Xu You. This was Cao Cao's cruelty.

5. Tolerance. Cao Cao killed Xu You who was kind to him, but spared many people who were sorry for him.

For example, there is a man named Wei Zhong, who turned out to be Cao Cao's subordinate. There was a time when we knew that Cao Cao was not going well, was in adversity, and was in a difficult situation. At that time, many of his subordinates betrayed Cao Cao. Cao Cao was very confident and said, let them go. My people will not be finished. For example, Wei Zhong, he will not betray me. As a result, Wei Zhong also betrayed and ran away. Cao Cao was furious. Cao Cao said, you Wei Zhong, you will also betray me. If you have the ability, you can run to the ends of the earth. If you have the ability, you can go to the Huns in the north. If you have the ability, you can go to Vietnam. As long as you can't run that far, I will I will capture you and never spare you.

Later in the subsequent battle, Wei Zhong was captured. Everyone was worried about Wei Zhong, saying that Cao Cao would definitely kill him. How about Cao Cao? Cao Cao thought for a while, forget it, Wei Zhong is a talent, let him go, he will be an official as he should be. This is Cao Cao's tolerance.

Cao Cao is indeed a very tolerant person. When Cao Cao and Yuan Shao were fighting, Yuan Shao found a scholar named Chen Lin to draft an appeal. What is a proclamation? It is a letter of denunciation, because in ancient warfare, he emphasized that the division must have a name, that is, you must have a name for whoever you want to fight. After you have a name, your army will be called the division of justice. Yuan Shao asked Chen Lin to write it. A message. Chen Lin was a penman who wrote a thousand words, eloquently criticizing Cao Cao. Where do you start scolding? It starts with Cao Cao's ancestors. This is actually a very bad thing in Chinese culture. Whenever you scold someone, you will scold someone's parents, and whenever you scold someone, you will scold someone's ancestors for eight generations. Why is this a bad tradition for eight generations of your ancestors? Chen Lin is also the same. Then Yuan Shao was defeated and Chen Lin was made a prisoner. The people below captured Chen Lin and brought her to Cao Cao. Cao Cao said: Chen Lin, when the two armies are fighting, they have to issue such a statement of denunciation. This is normal. However, you scolded her. Forget it if you scold me, why are you scolding my parents? My parents have not offended you, okay? Chen Lin said, I'm sorry, the arrow was on the string and had to be fired. Cao Cao said, OK, OK, forget it, you are also a talented person, so you can still be your penman. Chen Lin became Cao Cao's penholder from now on, so Cao Cao was very tolerant.

6. Strong desire for revenge. But Cao Cao was also a very vindictive person, and almost no one who offended Cao Cao would not retaliate.

At that time, there was a famous scholar named Bian Rang. Bian Rang was a great scholar and a great writer. He wrote very good articles and books, but he looked down on Cao Cao. Because Cao Cao had a bad background, Cao Cao's grandfather was a eunuch, and the Eastern Han Dynasty was ruined by eunuchs, so those scholars, educated people, and scholar-bureaucrats despised and hated eunuchs the most. So Cao Cao's father was the eunuch's adopted son, and Cao Cao was the eunuch's adopted son. They looked down on him, and Bian Rang also looked down on him, and said some insulting words to Cao Cao.

So later, after Cao Cao went over and captured that place, he killed Bian Rang without mercy. There were also several intellectuals who were involved in Bian Rang's case. Some of them ran away, but they couldn't escape after they ran away. Then he came back to surrender. One of them, Huan Shao, surrendered himself to Cao Cao, knelt down, kowtowed, cried bitterly, and begged for mercy. What did Cao Cao say? Hum hum, ho ho ho, cry, get scared, kneel down, beg for mercy, won’t you kill me if you kneel down? Wouldn't you kill if you beg for mercy? Drag him out and kill him. The impact of this incident was so bad that it triggered a rebellion at the time. How could you treat a cultural person like this? How can you treat someone who has offended you like this?

One of them, Chen Gong, left Cao Cao for this reason and was determined to help Lu Bu defeat Cao Cao. Later, after Lu Bu's defeat, Chen Gong became a prisoner. Cao Cao didn't want to kill him yet, so Cao Cao told Chen Gong that as long as you surrender, let bygones be bygones. Because Cao Cao also felt that his previous actions were wrong at this time. He also felt that the prime minister wanted to support the boat and the general had a horse on his forehead, which should have some general demeanor, so he did not kill Chen Gong. Chen Gong refused to surrender, so Cao Cao had no choice but to kill him. Before killing him, Cao Cao asked: Chen Gong's name is Gongtai. He said Gongtai, Gongtai, if you die, what will happen to your mother? Do it? Chen Gong said, I heard that people who rule the world with filial piety will not kill other people's parents. How about my mother is up to you, Duke Cao. Cao Cao said yes, Gongtai, Gongtai, what will happen to your wife and children after you die? Chen Gong said, "I heard that people who rule the world with benevolence will not harm other people's children. How about my wife and children? Please take care of it, Mr. Cao." Ah, Cao Cao said okay, then I will send you on your way. Then he started crying, and while crying, he sent Chen Gong to the execution ground to die, and then brought Chen Gong's family to his home. He treated Chen Gong's family better than before Chen Gong fell out with him.

7. Contradictory personality, open to all rivers.

So Cao Cao is a very complicated person. He is cunning and honest, tender and vicious, tolerant and vengeful. If you only read one story about Cao Cao, and only look at Cao Cao's side, the conclusion you draw is that a blind man touches an elephant, which is not comprehensive. So in our opinion, Cao Cao may be a person with the most complex personality and the most diverse images in Chinese history. He is a man who is both extremely smart and stupid, cunning and treacherous, yet frank and sincere, open-minded yet suspicious, magnanimous yet narrow-minded. It can be said that the demeanor of everyone is the face of a villain; the heroic spirit is the affection of children; the temper of the king of hell is the heart of a bodhisattva. He is such a person, he seems to have many faces on his body, one face appears at one moment, and another face is shown to us at another moment. But please note one thing, no matter which face it is, it belongs to Cao Cao and will not be recognized as belonging to anyone else. Being able to unify such a complex character into one person is an amazing thing in itself. What does it reflect? It reflects Cao Cao's atmosphere. What is atmosphere? The sea is tolerant of all rivers, and tolerance is great. Cao Cao is exactly the one who can tolerate, a very large-capacity person, and all kinds of contradictory things are unified with him.