I was born with love and died with love. In this life, I have nothing to fear. I am now using it as my QQ signature

"Live with love and die with love. In this life, you have nothing to fear."

English: If you enter this world knowing you are loved

and you leave this world knowing the same,

then everything in between can be dealt with.

——by Michael Jackson

Attached is also the full speech given by Michael Jackson at Oxford University in the UK on March 6, 2001:

Thank you, thank you dear friends, I sincerely welcome you all. Thank you, Chairman. I am extremely honored for your kind invitation. At the same time, I would like to express my special gratitude to Shmuley, the rabbi, for the work you have done in Oxford over the past eleven years. The work you and I did together to build Save the Children was as hard as creating our explicit book, but you were incredibly supportive and loving throughout. I also want to thank Save the Children trustee Toba Friedman, who will return tonight to her alma mater, where she served as a Marshall Scholar. And of course thanks to Marilyn Piels, another central member of our Save the Children organization.

I feel humbled to be speaking at a place that has hosted such luminaries as Mother Teresa, Einstein, Ronald Reagan, Robert F. Kennedy and Malcolm X. I heard that Kermit the Frog had been here before, and I had the same feeling as him, that it is not easy for people without deep experience to come here, but I believe he did not expect that I would do it so easily.

Today I visited Oxford University, and I couldn't help but be attracted by the grandeur of this great building, not to mention the splendid gathering of talents in this century city. Oxford not only gathers the most outstanding and calm scientific talents, but also guides many caring children's writers from J.R.R. Tolkien to C.S. Lewis. Today, I was allowed to visit Lewis Carroll's Alice in Wonderland engraved in the stained glass window in the church restaurant. It was also discovered that one of my fellow Americans, dear Mr. Seuss, also graced the page and inspired the imaginations of millions of children around the world.

Tonight, I would like to start with why I am privileged to speak here.

My friends, just as some of the other speakers here are not good at moonwalking, I don't have the academic expertise that they do - and, as we all know, Einstein did Especially awe-inspiring. But I can say that I have more experience with other cultures than most people. Human civilization not only includes what is recorded on paper and ink in the library, but also includes what is recorded in people's hearts, engraved in people's souls, and imprinted in the human spirit. And friends, I’ve been through so much in my relatively short life that it’s hard to believe I’m only 42 years old. I often tell Shmuley that my mental age must be at least 80, and tonight I even walked like an 80-year-old man. So please listen to me, because what I must tell you today may help you heal humanity and save the earth!

Thanks to God’s grace, I have been blessed to realize my lifelong artistic and professional ambitions ahead of schedule. But these achievements are completely different from who I am. In fact, the fact that a five-year-old boy performs Rock Robin and Ben lively and happily in front of his admirers does not mean that he is equally happy behind the smile.

Tonight, I don’t want to appear before you as a pop icon, I would rather be the witness of a generation that no longer understands what it means to be a child. Everyone has had childhood, but I lacked it. I lacked those precious and wonderful moments of carefree play. In those days, we should have been comfortably immersed in the love of our parents and relatives, preparing for the important spelling test on Monday. Put in the effort to prepare. Friends who are familiar with The Jackson 5 know that I started performing when I was 5 years old, and since then, I have never stopped dancing and singing.

Although music performance is indeed my greatest pleasure, when I was young, I wanted to be like other boys, building tree nests, having water fights, and playing hide-and-seek. But it is destined that I can only envy those laughs and joys, and my professional life cannot stop.

However, as a Jehovah’s Witness, and attending church every Sunday, I imagined that my childhood was as magical as anyone else’s. And since I became famous, I've had to disguise myself with baggy clothes, wigs, beards and glasses.

We spent our days in the suburbs of Southern California, going door to door or hanging out at the mall handing out copies of our Lookout magazine. I also like to go into ordinary homes, look at those shag carpets, watch the little ones playing house, and see all the wonderful, ordinary and shining scenes of daily life. I know many people will think this is no big deal, but to me it is full of temptation. I often think that my feeling of not having a childhood is unique, and I think there are even fewer people who can share this feeling with me.

Some time ago, I was lucky enough to meet Shirley Temple, a child actress in the 1930s and 1940s. When we met, we didn’t say anything, we just cried together because she could share my pain. , this pain can only be experienced by some of my close friends, Elizabeth Taylor and Macaulay Culkin. I'm not saying this to gain sympathy, but I'm just trying to keep everyone in mind that this pain of losing childhood isn't just for Hollywood child stars.

Now, this has become a worldwide disaster. Childhood has become a casualty of contemporary life. We have caused many children to never have joy, never get corresponding rights, never get freedom, and they still think that a child should be like this. Nowadays, children are often encouraged to grow up faster, as if this period called childhood is a burdensome stage, and adults are impatiently trying to make it end as quickly as possible. I'm undoubtedly one of the world's leading experts on this subject. My generation is a testimony to the need to abolish the parent-child covenant.

Psychologists detail in the book the devastating effects of not giving children absolute love, which is extremely necessary for their healthy mental and personality development. Because of being ignored, many children close themselves off. They gradually become alienated from their parents, grandparents and other family members, and the undying cohesive force around us that once united a generation is dispersed. This counterintuitive behavior has created a new generation of people who have all the external things - wealth, success, fashionable clothes and fast cars - but inside they are miserable and empty. The hollowness in the chest, the desolation of the soul, those blank places once beat our hearts and were once occupied by love. In fact, not only the children are suffering, but the parents are also suffering. The more we allow our children to mature early, the further we move away from the innocence that even adults deserve.

Love, ladies and gentlemen, is the most precious inheritance of the human family, the most precious gift, the most priceless tradition, and the wealth that we should pass on from generation to generation. In the past, we may not have been as wealthy as we enjoy now, there may have been no electricity in the house, and many children were crowded into small rooms without heating facilities. But there was no darkness or cold in these homes. They ignite the light of love, and their close hearts make them feel warm. Parents are not distracted by their desires for various enjoyments and rights; their children are the most important thing in their lives.

We all know that our two countries split over what Thomas Jefferson called "a few non-negotiable rights." While we Americans and Brits fight over our demands for fairness, what about the non-negotiable rights of children, the progressive denial of which has deprived many of the world's children of the joy and safety of childhood? feel. So I propose that tonight we establish a universal children's rights treaty for every family. These regulations are:

The right to be loved without having to pay

Without having to beg The right to be protected

Even if you come into this world with nothing, you still have the right to be valued

Even if you don’t attract attention, you still have the right to be heard

The right to listen to a story before bed without having to contend with the evening news and Easter

The right to be educated in school without having to dodge bullets

Even if you have a face that only a mother could love, you still have the right to be respected.

Friends, the creation of all human knowledge and the germination of human consciousness must require each of us to become the object of love. Even if you don’t know whether your hair is red or brown, whether you are white or black, or what religion you believe in, you should know that you are loved.

About twelve years ago, I was preparing for my Awesome Tour, and a little boy and his parents came to visit me in California. Cancer was threatening his life and he told me how much he loved me and my music. His parents told me that he was about to die and could not tell when he would leave. I said to him: "Look, in three months I will go to the city where you live in Kansas to hold a concert. I hope you Come to my show, and I will also give you a jacket that I wore in a video." His eyes lit up and he said, "You want to give it to me?" I said, "Of course. But you have to agree to wear it to my show." I just tried to hold him together and said, "I want to see you wearing this jacket and these gloves at my concert." So I gave him another glove set with rhinestones. Normally I would never give gloves to anyone. But he is going to heaven. But maybe he was too close. By the time I got to his city, he was gone, and they put that jacket and that glove on him when they buried him. He is only 10 years old. God knows, I know, how hard he tried to support.

But at least, when he left, he knew that he was deeply loved, not only by his parents, but also by me, who was almost a stranger. With this love, he knew that he did not come into this world alone, nor did he leave alone.

If you feel loved when you come into this world and when you leave this world, you will be able to handle whatever happens during those times. The professor may demote you, but you are not demoted. The boss may ostracize you, but you will not be ostracized. A debate opponent may defeat you, but you can still win. How can they actually defeat you and knock you down? Because you know you are worthy of being loved, and the rest is just a layer of packaging. But if you don't have the memory of being loved, you won't find anything in the world that can fulfill you. No matter how much money you make, no matter how famous you are, you still feel empty.

What you are really looking for is unconditional love and complete acceptance. And these were denied you at birth. Friends, let me describe this situation to you. Every day in the United States, 6 young people under the age of 20 commit suicide, and 12 children under the age of 20 are killed by weapons. Remember, this is just one day, not One year. A further 399 young people were arrested for taking narcotics and 1,352 babies were born to teenage mothers, all in the richest and most developed country in the world. Yes, our country is rife with violence that no other industrialized country can compare to. This is just a way for young people in the United States to vent their hurt and anger, but aren't there people in the UK who are equally troubled and painful? Research shows that three teenage children in the UK harm themselves every hour, often cutting and burning themselves or taking overdoses. This is the way they now vent their pain and troubles. In Great Britain, 20% of families only get together for dinner once a year, just once a year! Research in the 1980s has found that children who receive more instruction have stronger reading and practical skills, and are far more effective than those who learn by watching. However, less than 33% of children aged two to eight in the UK regularly listen to a story before going to bed. If we didn't realize that 75% of parents came here listening to stories at that age, then we might not think anything of it. Clearly, we have not asked ourselves where all this pain, anger, and violence comes from. It goes without saying that children particularly resent being ignored, fear indifference, and cry just to get attention. In the United States, various child protection agencies state that on average, tens of millions of children become victims of neglect and indifference every year, which is a kind of abuse! Rich families, lucky families, are completely tethered to electronic devices. Parents returned home, but they did not really go home. Their souls were still in the office.

What about the children? Ah, just having to get by with what scraps of affection they could get their hands on. How much more can be gained from endless television, computer games and video tapes! These cold and hard things that twist my soul and shock my soul can help everyone understand why I spend so much time and energy supporting the activities of saving children so that it can achieve great success. Our purpose is simple - to restore the rapport between parents and children and renew our commitment to brighten the paths for all the beautiful children who will one day enter this world. (After this public talk, if you open up to me, I think I will talk to you more. But it would be an invasion of privacy to tally each of our individual stories.) As the saying goes, raising children It's like dancing. You take one step and your child follows. And I found that when raising children, your dedication to your children is only half of the story, and the other half is the return of the children to their parents.

When I was a kid, I remember we had a wolfdog named "Black Girl" who not only couldn't watch the house, but was timid and neurotic, even to the sound of trucks and thunderstorms in Indiana. She was also terrified. My sister Jenny and I had put a lot of effort into her, but we couldn't win her trust. Her previous owner always beat her. We didn't know why, but no matter what, it was still Not enough to make the dog lose his loyalty.

Many of today’s apathetic young people are poor, damaged souls. They don't care about their parents at all. They keep to themselves and defend their independence. They kept moving forward, leaving their parents behind. There are even worse children, who resent their parents and any possible overtures from their parents are violently dismissed.

Tonight, I don't want any of us to make that mistake, which is why I'm calling on children all over the world - and those of us here tonight to start - to forgive our parents, If we feel neglected, forgive them and teach them how to love. You may not be surprised to hear that I did not have a happy childhood, as exemplified by my strained relationship with my father.

My father is a strict person. From the time I can remember, he has tried hard to make us try our best to be good actors. He is not good at expressing love. He never says he loves me and never praises me. If If I perform well, he will say that it is good. If I perform well, he will say nothing. It is his most fervent wish for us to succeed in our career. My father is a genius manager. My father and I When my brothers failed in their careers, he forced me to become an actor. Under his guidance, I did not miss any opportunity, but what I really wanted was a father who made me feel loved. My father was not like this. He never said he loved me when he looked directly at me. He never played a game with me, never played horseback riding, never threw pillows, never played water polo. But I remember that I was four years old. That year, there was a small carnival, and he put me on a pony. He might have forgotten such a small gesture in five minutes, but because of that moment, he had a special place in my heart. Just kids, the little things mean a lot to them, and it means a lot to me, that moment meant everything, I only experienced it once, but it felt so good, and it meant so much to him and the world!

But now that I am a father myself, one day I was thinking about my own children, Prince and Paris, and what I wanted them to think of me when they grow up. What I am sure of is that I hope that when they think of me, they remember how I always wanted them by my side wherever I went and how I always put them before everything else. But there are always challenges in their lives. Because my children are always followed by the tabloids, they can't go to the park or the theater with me often.

So what if they grow up and resent me? How much impact did my choices have on their childhood? They may ask, why don't we have the same childhood as other children? In that moment, I prayed that my children would understand me. They would say to themselves: "Our dad did the best he could, and he faced a unique situation. He may not be perfect, but he is a gentle and decent man who wants to give us all the love in the world." ”

I want them to always focus on the positive things, like the sacrifices I’m willing to make for them; not the things they have to give up, or the things I’m doing to raise them. Mistakes made or unavoidable during the process. Because we have all been other people's children, and we all know that despite the best of plans and efforts, mistakes will always happen. Because no one has any fault?

When I think about this, and how much I hope my children won’t think I’m not good enough and will forgive my shortcomings, I have to think of my own father, no matter how much I was Denying him, I must admit that he must love me. He does love me, I know that. It can be seen from a small thing that when I was a child, I loved sweets - all children do. My father knew that bagels were my favorite. So every few weeks, when I came downstairs in the morning, I would find an entire bag of bagels on the kitchen counter—no note, no instructions. It's like a gift from Santa Claus.

Sometimes I used to want to stay up late and hide away to see him leave them there. But just like the legend of Santa Claus, I didn’t want to destroy this magical fantasy, and I was even more afraid that he would never continue. My father had to leave them there quietly at night without letting anyone know. He was afraid of mentioning human emotions. He doesn't understand or know how to deal with it. But he knew what bagels meant to me.

When I opened the floodgates of memory, more memories emerged. Those memories about some subtle actions, although they were no longer clear, definitely reflected that he tried his best. So tonight, instead of focusing on what my dad didn't accomplish, I'd rather focus on all the things he did, despite all the hard work. I want to stop judging him.

I think back to my father growing up in a very poor family in the South. He came from the Great Depression, and while my father struggled to raise his children and showed little affection for his family, my father and other siblings grew up under my grandfather's iron fist. Who imagined the situation of a black man growing up in the South? No dignity, no hope, struggling to gain a foothold in a world that regarded my father as a lowly creature. I was the first black artist to be on MTV, and I remember how hard that was, but that was in the '80s! Later my father moved to Indiana and had a large family. He worked long hours in a steel mill, a job that was menial and lung-damaging, all for the sake of his family. Is this strange because he has trouble expressing himself? Is it mysterious because his heart is so weathered? Most importantly, is it incomprehensible that he pushed his son to follow the path of acting success? --In order to avoid living a life of humiliation and poverty, I began to understand that even my father's roar was a kind of love, an imperfect love, but despite this, he forced me because he loved me, because he hoped not to A person will despise his children. Now, thinking of the sufferings I experienced, I feel happy. In anger I found detachment, in revenge I found reconciliation, and even the initial anger slowly turned into forgiveness.

Almost ten years ago, I founded a charity called Heal the World. The name itself reflected my underlying feelings. As far as I knew, as Shmuley later pointed out, those two This word is the basis for the fulfillment of ancient prophecies. Can we really save the world? This issue has been surrounded by war and racial issues to this day. Can we really save the child? Those children who bring guns into school and are full of hatred and even shoot at their classmates, those children who beat those who are beaten to death, just like the tragic story of Jamie Bulger, can we really do that? Yeah, otherwise I wouldn't be standing here tonight.

But it all starts with forgiveness, because to save the world we must first save ourselves. And to save a child, we must first protect the heart of the child, everyone has a responsibility, as an adult I realized that I could not exist as a complete human being, or as a parent with the ability to give love unconditionally, until my childhood soul Find support. That's what I asked everyone to do tonight. Worthy of the fifth of the Ten Commandments. Love your parents instead of criticizing them, that's why I forgive my father and stop judging him, because I just want a "father" and that's the only thing I got.

I want to get rid of all the baggage and reconcile with my father, so that I can live the rest of my life unencumbered by the shadow of the past. If the world is full of hatred, we still dare to farm. If the world is full of anger, we still dare to comfort. If the world is full of despair, we still dare to look forward to it. If the world is full of suspicion, we still dare to trust. Those who let their parents down tonight, I want you to be frustrated with yourselves. For those of you who feel cheated by your parents tonight, I want you to stop cheating on yourselves. For all of you who want to kick your parents away tonight, I want you to reach out to them.

I am asking you, and I am asking myself, to give unconditional love to our parents, so that they will learn love from their children, and this will ultimately rebuild a world of love. Shmuley once mentioned the prophecies in ancient books - a new world will come - when the hearts of parents will be replaced by the hearts of children.

My friends, we are that world, we are those children.

Mahatma Gandhi once said: "The weak never forgive, forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Tonight, be a strong person and surpass the strong to meet the greatest challenge-healing emotional wounds , we can overcome it, no matter how much the impact of our childhood hurts on our lives, assuming your parents are innocent, forgive everyone, and win the call for forgiveness from everyone, thousands of children and their parents, There may be no results at this moment, but it is at least a beginning, a beginning that we are all happy to see.

Okay ladies and gentlemen, my evaluation of my speech tonight is: confident, interesting, and exciting.

From now on, maybe you can hear a new song.

Let this new song be the laughter of children.

Let this new song be children's play.

Let this new song be the song of children.

Let this new song be heard by all parents.

Let us create a symphony of the soul together and create a miracle that allows our children to be bathed in love.

Let us save the world and let the pain wither. We create the most beautiful music together.

May God bless you and I love you.