Second, sometimes, don't watch others go the wrong way. You have to take the initiative. You are ordinary, but you are unique.
Third, people don't live for a lifetime, nor for years, months and days, but for a few moments.
Fourth, the best state of life, content with gains and losses, lighter than success or failure, is still moving forward.
5. It was you who generously gave me years like songs, and it was you who made me fall in love with it.
6. Thought is a special place where you can turn heaven into hell and hell into heaven.
Life repeats itself day after day until you find your own meaning.
Eight, I didn't want to be a man, but the suffering in this world has not spared me.
Nine, if there is tomorrow, how to dress up your face, if there is no tomorrow, how to say goodbye.
Ten, he sank, he fell, and you laughed again and again. You should know that he is taller than you. His happiness brings sorrow, but his light follows your darkness.
Eleven, childhood rainy days are the most muddy, but they are the cleanest in memory.
Twelve, you are not confused, you just lack self-control.
Thirteen, each soul is unique and has its own advantages and disadvantages.
14. What makes you sad now will be forgotten in the future.
Fifteen, people who really care about you will always have sugar in their pockets, not the truth. He knows that the Jianghu is dangerous and just wants to protect you.
Sixteen, open a message that has not been opened for a long time, and every time I find that those who once said that they want to live for a lifetime only appear in my life for a while.
17, if you want to understand how short life is, you have to go through a long road.
At the age of eighteen, all the glamour can't compete with time, and it's gone forever.
There was a tsunami in your heart at that moment, but you stood quietly and didn't let anyone know.
Twenty, people's hearts should be cleaner, because there are too many dirty things in this world.
Living in our world, it is impossible to understand people without reading.
Twenty-two, the road is wrong, you can change it, but if you don't move, you will be stuck in the same place.
Twenty-three, a person's heart has that kind of preparation to accept the worst, in order to obtain real peace.
24. Your hobby is the sustenance of your ordinary life and determines the quality of your life.
25. Hold back what you know and listen to others. Society never likes a person who knows too much and shows it.
Twenty-six, time will really make people change a lot, including our appearance and our hearts.
Twenty-seven, our past days were under your wrath; The years we spent were like a sigh.
You know, nothing is impossible unless you don't want to. Nothing is impossible unless you always go back.
I don't expect smooth sailing in life, but I hope I can be its opponent when I encounter difficulties in life.
Thirty, I can only accompany you here. You have to go the rest of the way by yourself. Don't look back.
Thirty-one, there are no regrets when you are young, and there are no regrets when you are old.
32. Language is often false, but what we have experienced together is true.
Can a person be brave when he is afraid? People only become brave when they are afraid.
34. Good things will come. If you are simple, clean, smart and simple, you will find that the miracle is not arrival, but because of you.
Inspirational epigram: Most failures are due to poor self-control.
Have you ever met this situation:
I opened the book I decided to read today, read two pages, took a photo, punched in my circle of friends, waited for a favorable comment, and then took some time to reply to the comments. The time of waiting and longing for attention goes by little by little, until you wash and sleep, you find that the book stays on the second page.
If you want to learn English, it is still early. Watch TV series. How to shoot this TV series, the plot doesn't match, so boring, let's play a game; The game is almost over. Look at the time, it's already midnight. Forget it. Let's study tomorrow. Today is not so bad anyway.
In the process of losing weight, I always can't control my mouth. When I saw this shop, I wanted to try it. I want to buy something to eat when I see something delicious. I always console myself that it's not bad to lose weight.
So, we found a lot of excuses for ourselves, such as procrastination, late lazy cancer, oh, let a spiritual person take risks in his favorite place, and so on. These excuses are all reasonable, and they are accompanied by a sense of humor that dares to laugh at themselves.
and then
Then, we will say, alas, I also want to change. I'm so confused and helpless. I am so disappointed and helpless. I don't want to do this either. I want to do better, but I just can't find the direction.
Then, we stopped at the same position.
Through these appearances, have you ever examined your heart?
Why not?
Because you don't even have the minimum self-control. Inspirational Quotes
What is self-control?
Self-control is a person's ability to control his thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
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Last night, a girl left me a message saying that she couldn't control herself and had to brush her circle of friends every few minutes. She knew she was wrong, wanted to change and study hard, but she just couldn't.
When you want to change, it is because you have realized that this behavior has brought you bad influence, but why didn't you change successfully?
Each of us will encounter such a problem, and the key to success lies in whether we have strong self-control.
Brushing your circle of friends often shows that your self-control has not reached the point of competing with what you want, so you let yourself brush over and over again, as if only in this way can you find your sense of existence and accomplishment.
What confusion and not knowing where the road is is the excuse we give ourselves when self-control can't play its role.
If you are a student, you must study hard and get good grades. If you are an employee, you should go all out and make good achievements. Confusion is just an exit of laziness. If you don't insist, you can't help it. This is demeaning yourself.
So you have to force yourself to change, shift your attention in the circle of friends to what you are interested in, and then gradually cycle, and then learn your professional knowledge.
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What kind of experience is poor self-control?
I spent the whole day cleaning the house last weekend.
Theoretically, even cleaning can't take a whole day; In fact, I did spend the whole day, wasting it on housework, and it didn't make me happy.
Clean up the bedroom first, change all the sheets and quilts, and feel that the room is quiet or a little noisy. When I turned on the computer stereo, I was tired of listening to the songs in the original playlist, so I went to the music library to search and audition one by one. After more than half an hour, I finally found a few similar songs, only to remember that I have to work.
Ok, go on, now it's time to pack up the toys, put the ones that should be washed in the basin and put the others in the corresponding boxes. Hey, I haven't played this game for a long time. Practising hands, I asked Mr. Qin to kill one set. When I lost, I turned around and saw that the toys were scattered all over the floor.
The bedroom is finally almost full, and moving to the living room is a bit boring. Let's tidy up while watching TV.
I have seen Nirvana in Fire, but I don't want to see The Legend of Mi Yue. The Department of Homeland Security has to stare at the subtitles to understand that this is not the right time, and the reasoning is not enough, because cleaning the table and mopping the floor has never kept up with the computer plot.
I searched for nearly an hour and finally confirmed that I had met the legendary swordsman.
Well, the living room is almost cleaned up, and now there are only clothes to be washed in the kitchen and bathroom.
I want to see what needs to be dealt with in the refrigerator, but I am attracted by yogurt. I took out two cups and drank them, and then I found something to eat.
By the time I was completely relieved after washing clothes, it was already dark.
In fact, the work that I could have finished in two hours took me a day and I didn't have lunch.
I can finish the housework first, then eat something, then look at what I am interested in, or read a book, or learn to play chess.
Instead of doing this and that for a while, I didn't do my housework well and didn't have fun in it.
Because of weak self-control, we are always attracted by these external things and distract ourselves, so that we are distracted by trivial things and can't concentrate on what we want to do, resulting in a waste of time and energy.
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From interest to nature.
How should I improve my self-control?
First, you should find something that interests you. As the saying goes, interest is the best teacher, interest is the driving force, which helps to cultivate concentration.
Secondly, to find a direction and goal you want to move forward, unorganized planning may make you deviate from the track, so if you want to know where you want to go and further your studies, you can get twice the result with half the effort by choosing the right direction.
Besides, you have to force yourself to stick to it. For example, if you want to apply for an MBA, you have to spend an hour or more practicing listening, speaking and written test questions every day. No matter how sleepy, cold and unwilling to get up, stick to this part every day.
The process of persistence here is the process of self-control.
A person's cultural accomplishment and life accomplishment are closely related to his self-control. I have met many excellent people. They don't brush their circle of friends much. They are tolerant and generous, don't haggle over every ounce, and can control their temper and measure others, because they know that trivial things and impulses will not bring them any benefits, and there are more important things to do.
And cultural accomplishment represents our internal level. The higher the level, the nobler the outlook on life and values. He can see things that ordinary people can't understand and insist on self-improvement and control.
Improve knowledge literacy and self-control, which complement each other.
Roy L. Smith said: Self-control is like a controlled flame, which makes a genius.
If you want to achieve something, just let go of those confused excuses and cultivate your self-control, and you will eventually get what you want.
Success depends on self-control. Be careful that these six lies are stealing your life.
Success depends on self-control Be careful that these six lies are stealing your life.
Please note that if you are smart, you will find the following words familiar.
There are so many things to do.
It will be more efficient to do several things at the same time.
I must have iron willpower.
Balance all aspects of life and work.
Ability should keep up with thought.
It is said that a lie becomes truth after being repeated a thousand times.
Has your life been stolen by these six lies?
Lies 1: Everything is important.
Equality is the biggest lie in the world.
20% customers bring more than 80% revenue, and 20% problems take up 80% of our time.
To-do lists are complicated and lengthy, while success lists are always short and pithy.
The unequal phenomenon of giving and receiving can be seen everywhere. If you pay a little attention, you will find that success will be within reach if you use Pareto law well.
There are always more important things.
Among them, only one thing is the most important.
Internalize this concept and you will get a password for successful customs clearance.
Lie 2: You can handle many things with your colleagues.
Envy those generalists who are always at ease?
Professor Stanford's research is shocking: generalists who often handle multiple tasks often lose their attention. They do not do everything well.
This shows that taking care of several things at the same time is just a beautiful lie.
Switching tasks costs money, and once we switch tasks, it means diverting attention. And set principles for the next thing.
The more complex the task, the higher our switching cost.
A clear conclusion is that dealing with several things at the same time will reduce our efficiency and reaction speed.
Don't envy the office generalist, you just need to focus, focus, and focus on a little more time.
Lie 3: the law of life.
It is generally believed that successful people are self-disciplined and they all lead regular lives.
This is another big lie.
Success is not a marathon, but a sprint, and the energy accumulated by long-term self-discipline cannot be used to it.
In fact, what we need is not persistence, but habit. To form habits, you need self-discipline.
The key to success is to choose a correct habit, exercise yourself and form this habit. It's that simple. That's what you need to do.
When this habit has become a part of your life, you look like a self-disciplined person.
Of course, you can't be self-disciplined in all aspects, just pick the most useful ones and stick to it.
Doing the right things and cultivating the right habits will completely free us from unnecessary trivial matters.
Lie 4: willpower is at your fingertips.
Will you deliberately give yourself trouble to hone your willpower?
We force success and willpower together, which is tantamount to pushing success away with our own hands.
Where there is will, the role of will is always overemphasized.
Everything seems simple: with iron willpower, success is within reach.
But what about reality?
One second I was full of confidence, and the next I was frightened out of my wits by willpower, and I had stage fright in an instant.
Admit it! Willpower comes and goes like the wind, out of our control at all.
Willpower is at your fingertips, just a lie.
Research has proved that willpower is an extremely scarce resource. It is a kind of mental muscle that takes a long time to recover its toughness.
You spend too much willpower on one thing, and you will never be satisfied if you throw yourself into the next thing before it recovers.
If you want to reach the peak of your day's harvest, sprint to your goal before your willpower fades. Self-control will always fail, and do the most important thing while he is still alive.
Lie 5: Balance Work and Life
We imagine that everything can reach a perfect balance, but this is just an imagination. Once we pursue success, life will be out of balance.
Focus is only doing the most important things, we can't cover everything.
If you want to cover everything, everything will be discounted and the expected effect will not be achieved. We should not pursue balance, because miracles will never happen in the middle.
Miracles will only happen in the process of pursuing the ultimate.
When you make unremitting efforts for important things, you will naturally break the state of balance and tilt your time towards them.
Get used to the unbalanced state and stop pursuing balance, and you will have the opportunity to do one thing to the extreme.
Lie 6: the big goal is not good.
Big opportunities are better than small opportunities, and small problems are better than big problems.
When it comes to big goals, people's first reaction is usually difficult, complicated and time-consuming. People think that big goals are difficult to achieve, but once they start, the situation will be very complicated and stressful, which will make people daunting.
People are afraid of the stress and anxiety caused by great success, and that great success will take away their time with family and friends and their health.
People are not sure whether they should have lofty ideals, and they are worried that misfortune will happen after trying again and failing. When big goals are considered bad, all kinds of small things occupy our time, and great ideals will never see the dawn.
No one knows where their limits are. When you believe that you will become an outstanding person,
You will constantly break through the limits and pursue greater ideals.
There are two modes of human thinking:
One is the development model, with a long-term vision and the pursuit of progress.
The other is fixed mode, which artificially sets limits to avoid failure.
When we can't aim high, we will consciously or unconsciously resist the lofty ideals.
Courage does not mean being fearless, but transcending fear.
Sometimes, you are not confused, you are just indecisive.
First, life is not so complicated, planting beans and acacia may both be melons. You dare to try, and the world dares to answer.
Second, you may not know that when I like you, I will like you if you scold me. Even if you ignore me, I can't help ignoring you.
Third, for a while, you suddenly got on well with some people, thinking that they could become real friends, but they gradually faded from your memory.
Fourth, the more precious things in life, the more you love to be late, but as long as they belong to you, you will definitely talk about friendship: although you are late, you will not leave when you come.
Love can be simple, but it can't be casual.
6. If the person you like is so excellent, don't degenerate.
When you feel inferior everywhere, remember that you are just an ordinary person.
I don't want to travel all over Qian Shan. I just want to see you and say goodbye.
Everyone calls your name, but only one person can make your name sound so special.
X. Forever is a distance that will never be touched.
Say thank you to those who once liked themselves and confessed to themselves, and remember their sincerity and dedication.
12. May you be like a storm, not endless, just enjoying yourself for a moment.
Thirteen, people who like you want your gift.
Fourteen, then I will accompany you and see all the smiling stars.
Fifteen, it is not that happiness is too short, but that we are too sensitive to pain.
I miss you, but I can't disturb you All I can do is miss you quietly!
Seventeen, those words, sting my heart/those prosperity, sting my eyes.
Eighteen, love a person, you don't have to get it, sometimes, giving is also a kind of happiness.
Nineteen, people who make up stories behind your back have no more than three reasons: they have not reached your level; He doesn't have what you have; Try to imitate your lifestyle.
Twenty, heartache can't breathe. The person who once loved, who once told me that I could not leave, finally left.
Twenty-one, don't care about those who say impossible, that's just their choice, not your reality.
Everyone is selfish. Don't expect others to be nice to you for no reason.
Make more money when it is cold, because clothes in winter are more expensive than those in summer.
I always think that such a person is the winner in life: no white hair on his head, few wrinkles on his face and no scars in his heart.
Twenty-five, some people can't say anything good, but no one can replace them.
I haven't liked you for a day or two. Today, I can't hold back my feelings for you any longer. I finally made up my mind to take you home, put you on the bed and have a good sleep with you: hug the bear!
27. The wind is bluer and lonelier than the coastline, and the rain is wetter and lonelier than the clouds; You are more distant and deserted than I thought, and I think of you more often than I thought.
Twenty-eight, I have always been too sensible to let you make mistakes freely, so wrong that I can't let you stay in my world.
Sometimes, you are not confused, you are just indecisive.