Socrates said that life is an unrepeatable choice. Time is moving forward, and age is rising. No matter how capable a person is, he can't compete with the killing knife of time. The time before the age of 35 is the golden age of a person's life and the key to success. During this period, people's energy is relatively strong, creativity and learning ability are the strongest, and they are also full of hope and have bright prospects to look forward to. Now, the 35-year-old crisis in the workplace is very hot. At this age, the 35-year-old has become a practical dividing line between enterprises and the workplace, defining whether a person is worth hiring or not and whether it can be regarded as a successful person. Many successful people, whether in the workplace or starting a business, have achieved certain achievements before the age of 35.
So, how to achieve something before the age of 35 and not regret it after the age of 35? The following points deserve your consideration.
a clear and accurate self-positioning will help you achieve a certain position
If you have no goal in life, you are like a sailboat sailing in the sea. Without a destination port, the wind coming from any direction is against the wind. No matter how hard you sail, it's just useless, because you don't know where you're going.
Effective actions come from correct efforts, but if the direction is unclear and the desired results are inaccurate, your efforts will only make you go further and further on the wrong road, and the cost of turning back will be higher and higher. Life does not need strong perseverance at all times. Perseverance and persistence will only work in the right direction. But on the wrong course, your perseverance and persistence only accelerate your failure.
In reality, most people have no direction to do things and live aimlessly. Don't think that this kind of "Buddhism" can be very comfortable, but the so-called "following one's own heart". The true Buddhist thought is also active in joining the WTO, and there are angels and demons in one's heart. The so-called "obeying the heart" just follows the lazy side in one's heart, makes a deal with the devil, and whitewashes one's escape mentality. A life without direction is doomed to failure.
so make a good position for yourself. First of all, we should find a suitable goal, choose a goal that is a little higher than what we can achieve in combination with our actual needs, our own abilities and temperament, and take this goal as a gathering point to lead our lives, so that all our busyness is closely related to this goal and all our talents will be dumped on the road to achieving the goal.
positioning should also give full play to its own advantages. A person will always have something good. Everyone has a potential talent in one aspect, but some people don't find it. Fortune tends to care for those who are loyal to their personal strengths. We must persevere and polish and manage what we are best at.
Orientation should be guided by interests. Some people waste their energy on boring jobs that they don't like, but when asked what they like, they can't give a clear answer. This is where they fail because they don't know their interests. Give yourself a correct position, starting from your interests. Interest is often combined with advantages, and an area where you have advantages can often stimulate your interest. You are interested in anything that you are happy to do and you are not tired after a day's work. You can start from this matter, guide it clearly step by step, and finally fix it accurately to form your own position, which cannot be changed at will.
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if you choose the right platform, you can struggle less and make rapid progress
Life is full of stages. If you want to achieve something, you must have a good platform, and your success must be based on a platform and a fulcrum, instead of fighting alone, you can become famous overnight by your own efforts. We often hear such advice: young people just enter the workplace, remember not to think too much about salary, but should pay attention to the hidden reward brought by work. Some people will be worried about the salary problem and disagree with this sentence, but don't ignore the key point of this sentence. The hidden reward brought by work is the invisible benefit brought by your platform.
Ability training is indeed much more important than salary. Salary is an important job-hunting indicator, but when you first enter the workplace, the key depends on the more opportunities and greater help that the platform can provide for your ability improvement and career development. Many young people didn't choose the right company for a temporary high salary, and made mistakes in developing on a platform that didn't suit them. They found that after working for a period of time, they were listless all day and had no fun at work, and then they kept complaining about their poor work and boring life. Their boredom stems from the wrong choice of platform.
A good job, a good platform, will generally provide good training, be placed in the right position, have a fair promotion system, improve the effective company system, and have attractive development prospects. It is very helpful for personal development. Your efforts and the growth of the company can form a joint force, and you can follow the trend. Of course, the struggle will not be as painful as sailing against the current. Your future and destiny are easy to grow and develop with the company. Sometimes, a small step on the platform will become a big step for you personally, and of course it will progress faster than others.
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More noble people help and support, and less pig friends and dog friends hold back
The power of contacts has been generally recognized by many successful people, and there is a famous saying circulating in the business community that "storing contacts is better than storing gold". Everyone lives in a crowd and can't exist alone. Living in a crowd will inevitably form a network of interpersonal relationships. The existence of others is the foundation of your great career, and the noble person in your personal relationship is the booster of your success.
who are the dignitaries? People's social class, family background and professional position are different, and the probability and timing of the emergence of nobles are also different. Some people are easy to meet noble people, while others are rare and talented. Generally speaking, the following types of people are likely to be your nobles. One is your boss in the workplace. Some people say that with the right boss, get twice the result with half the effort. That is to say, if your boss is right, you will often benefit, and your boss will appreciate you and then promote you, and you will meet a rare "Bole" noble. The second is headhunters. Sometimes, unexpected calls from headhunters are also a great opportunity, which is likely to be helped by nobles. After examining your strength, headhunters recommend you to enter a big company, which may also make a turning point in your life, of course, provided that you have the strength. Third, business partners, a big order, can completely change your entrepreneurial dilemma. Before the age of 35, learn more manners, and you must treat people with courtesy whenever and wherever you are. Only by being humble and polite can you get the approval of others and get a consistent good reputation. When you do things, you will naturally have the help of nobles, and things will be done more smoothly.
Face up to setbacks and possible bleak life, and truly "don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself"
Before the age of 35, most people may encounter setbacks and even experience bleak life in advance, but these are not bad things. But not having a good coping state is a bad thing. Carnegie said that setbacks are inevitable. What is important is not to absolutely avoid setbacks, but to adopt a positive attitude in the face of setbacks. The competition in modern society is so fierce that shopping malls have been described as battlefields. In the workplace, there are hardships everywhere in the process of starting a business. Some people can unfortunately encounter bankruptcy and entrepreneurial failure before the age of 35, or at least have difficulties such as promotion. If a person wants to achieve something, suffering is a hurdle that must be surmounted. Many people can't cross it. People who lack tenacity and self-confidence often fall into pessimism and sinking in the face of difficulties, and finally become unknown. Then there is room for those who insist on success. It is really lucky to be able to taste the bitter fruit of failure before the age of 35. Before the age of 35, even if you fail many times, it doesn't mean that you are a loser. The sooner you fail, the sooner you will sum up and succeed. There are no smooth sailing and successful people, but looking at the experiences of successful people, many people have suffered great failures before the age of 35, and even people don't think they can make a comeback. People just don't see the valuable experience summed up in their failures. This kind of experience is unforgettable. The earlier they fail, the sooner they get it. Later, it is found that this is the best stepping stone to success.
Fan Zhongyan wrote in The Story of Yueyang Tower, "Don't rejoice in things, don't grieve for yourself." This is the highest state when people deal with adversity. Don't grieve for yourself, that is, don't grieve for the temporary difficulties in front of you. That's the way things are in the world. You can't change the status quo, but you can only change yourself. Starting from changing your mentality, you will naturally feel pressure, torture and pain about setbacks and difficulties. Only by changing your mentality, you can keep a grateful attitude towards all kinds of injustice and dissatisfaction in the world, and understand that only torture can make you grow constantly, instead of complaining, hating and being psychologically unbalanced. Thanking setbacks means thanking fate, and expanding your life in the process of repeated transformation. Only in this way can we succeed faster.