1. Mutual benefit leads to closeness, mutual harm leads to alienation

Interpretation: When two people interact, when you benefit from each other, the relationship will become closer and closer. When your interests undermine each other, the relationship becomes increasingly distant.

Guiguzi believes that people have the instinct to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. When interacting with someone, if the other person always feels at a disadvantage, such a relationship is unlikely to last long.

Therefore, when facing interests, you must know how to actively offer benefits to the other party and make the other party feel that it is profitable. In a cooperative relationship, it is a kind of open-mindedness to "get six points but only four points" and let the other party take advantage. It is also wisdom in dealing with people.

2. Neither beautiful nor evil, sincere feelings can be entrusted

Interpretation: People who do not easily show their emotions of likes and dislikes can be entrusted with big things.

People who get carried away when they encounter happy things, and feel disgusted when they encounter annoying things. Such people are too emotional, which shows that their minds are not mature enough. When doing things, it is easy to be disturbed by emotions and do willful things.

Gui Guzi believes that people who are indifferent to emotions and anger must have a superior inner state. Such people have an overall view of things and put the overall situation first in everything they do. They are people who can be entrusted with big things.

3. Don’t do things to others if you want to control them.

Interpretation: In interpersonal relationships, the most important thing is to take the initiative, rather than being controlled by others.

Guiguzi believes that if we can take the initiative when doing something, we can drive things to develop in the direction we expect and make the most beneficial decisions in advance. Otherwise, you will be at the mercy of others, even at the mercy of others.

Similarly, in interpersonal relationships, the passive party is often restrained. There is a saying that goes, there are only eternal interests, but no permanent friends. If you are too passive, you can easily end up losing both people and money.

You must have enough patience to be a human being

When the world is overwhelming, hide in it and wait for the time. If there is opportunity, then plan for it. Game is not only a showdown of strength, but also a competition of patience. In a general sense, it is not who is stronger who will have the last laugh, but whoever is patient, who can seize the opportunity, who will have the last laugh.

As Gui Guzi said, if you don’t find the other party’s loopholes, you must learn to hide yourself and wait patiently. If you wait for the right time and find a loophole, you should start planning.

Unfortunately, too many people in this world do not have enough patience. In the end, they lose not in ability, but in patience. I can't eat hot tofu in a hurry.