1. Most of life is spent doing things rather than understanding or reasoning
There are many chicken soup articles with titles similar to: "Maturity lies in adversity, enlightenment "In desperate situations", "How to become a mentally strong person", "People who love reading are more likely to succeed", "The most capable people do not care about emotions". Reading these articles can indeed be inspiring and full of positive energy, but besides giving you a minute of chicken blood, have they changed your life? How many people, after watching it, those who follow the drama still follow the drama, those who play games still play games, those who are confused are still confused, and those who are thinking nonsense are still thinking nonsense. But why do these chicken soup articles seem so popular?
There is a result implicit in the article to make you feel that you can become the people in the article after reading it: mature, successful, capable, mentally strong, etc., they are more or less the use of and It caters to our quick success mentality and impetuous heart. Readers click on the content of the article because they want to become successful, capable, and mentally strong, and read the process for the results. The authors, on the other hand, are just the opposite. Because of the process they have experienced, they have naturally achieved success, maturity, and competence. Just like the saying: One minute on stage, ten years of hard work off stage. These chicken soup articles are about the last minute, but behind these articles are ten years of hard work. Without those ten years of hard work as a foreshadowing, how could the last minute come about? Even if you have the unique secrets in martial arts novels, without ten or eight years of hard work, how can you get the unparalleled magic skills?
Just as life is dull, most of life is used to do things, not to understand or reason.
In fact, maybe the result is the same regardless of whether you know those principles or not. It's like if you read a book that teaches you how to get through a broken love, wouldn't you go through the painful process of falling out of love? Not at all, those who should be sad are still sad, and those who should be insomniac are still insomnia. Whether you watch it or not, it seems that there are just some more emotions similar to "I understand the truth, but still can't do it."
Knowing too much and knowing nothing may have the same ending, because you and I are both ordinary people and will go through the process that ordinary people cannot escape. Being mentally strong is not something you can do overnight by reading an article and face failure calmly. Spending countless days and nights struggling with hesitation is the only way to become mentally strong, and no one is immune.
Those chicken soup articles just point us in a direction so that you will not get lost on the wrong road for too long, but the road that should be taken, the mountains that should be climbed, and the process that should be experienced are still You have to walk through it step by step. Chicken soup articles may be able to broaden our horizons and structure more, and perhaps also reduce some of our anxiety. However, please don’t have the illusion of reaching the sky in one step.
2. Reposting is easy because it requires no effort
The popularity of chicken soup articles and even successful inspirational articles also reflects that many people now like to flaunt a result at will, but Not paying attention to oneself: because those principles are all a result, it is easy to flaunt a result at will, because they do not require effort. You are only changing what is superficial, not what is essential and inner.
When Ode to Joy was popular a while ago, many people forwarded Andy's domineering life. Earlier when many people were watching House of Cards, there were articles such as "Learning to Communicate with Men with Claire". So a bunch of people forwarded it again, imagining themselves becoming someone like Andy, as shrewd and capable as she is. I used to be like that too, but now think about it, if you only saw Andy’s superficial glamour, but didn’t See the sadness behind them; if you only see the combination of interests that Claire's marriage brings to them, but don't see the lack of family sense caused by such a marriage, you have no right to say that you yearn for that. Marriage; if you have not experienced it, then you are not qualified to say that you are suitable for that kind of marriage.
Ode to Joy has presented Andy’s dazzling life experience to the audience from the very beginning, but what about the hardships she has experienced behind these results? The death of relatives in childhood, the loss of childhood, and the breakdown of family, are they portrayed in TV dramas? It seems to have been mentioned lightly. Since the quality these painful experiences have imparted to Andy is what you are pursuing, then why doesn’t anyone say let us experience the pain of orphans and the pain of separated relatives? In fact, it's just because people show their smiles in front of the world and turn their backs to cry. It is very easy to flaunt a result. Who can't talk about an ideal with words, but to do it in person requires time, pain, and superhuman perseverance. In the end, it may not succeed. Who is willing?
Most of what is presented to us today are results. It is easy for you to see it, identify with it, or any other emotion that arises, but what is difficult is any personal experience or change that is put into action. If you really admire Andy, there is no need to repost or say anything, just never back down before difficulties, reject temptation and fight hard in ordinary days.
3. What makes you grow is never the suffering itself but yourself
For a while I liked reading interviews and biographies, and found that behind every shining life There are unknown hardships, so I constantly use the setbacks and failures of those people to motivate myself. In the end, it was discovered that this was of no great use, because it was not the suffering that changed their destiny, but themselves, their mentality in facing the suffering, their inner qualities, and their way of thinking that made them successful.
Yu Minhong failed the college entrance examination twice, and finally got admitted to Peking University for the third time. After entering Peking University, he thought his life would be smooth sailing from now on, only to find that it was just the beginning of another period of low self-esteem. Rural people are not as good as city people. He had low self-esteem and contracted pneumonia in his junior year and took a year off from school. After graduating from Peking University, he stayed at the school to teach, but was kicked out by the school because of off-campus tutoring. His dream of studying in the United States was also rejected because he could not apply. Scholarship but had no choice but to give up. I used to think that these hardships created his inner tenacity and the quality of not giving up, but later I realized it was not the case. Optimistic people will not give up because of suffering, but will only become more optimistic because of suffering; strong people will not become weak because of suffering, but will only become stronger because of suffering.
Suffering itself is meaningless, but the suffering that happens to successful people seems to become meaningful. Many people are doing the same thing, but without success. Countless people failed the college entrance examination, countless people dropped out of school due to illness, and countless people were unable to apply for scholarships in the United States. Yu Minhong was not the only one in the world who was expelled from school. But many people give up after failing the college entrance examination, many people settle for life when they get sick, many people give up learning English when they can't go abroad, and many people stay depressed and cynical all their lives when their jobs don't go well.
Has suffering shaped people? Not really. Whether you let suffering wear down your will or inspire your will is up to you. What makes you grow is not suffering, but whether you choose to let suffering inspire your potential, your persistence, your optimism and your diligence. Optimism, introspection, and persistence. Even if Jack Ma spreads the secret of his success, will everyone be able to succeed? No, because I only know how to do it on paper.
Therefore, I know too many truths, I have seen the whole process of life prematurely, and I know too many thinking and mentality of the so-called successful people. In fact, it is nothing at all. Because those are all talks on paper after all, and they are just a result after all. All results must have a process, and this process is a long time of baptism, emotional waves and turbulence, and long-term persistence without giving up. These things that take no time, but It's the hardest thing in the world.
As soon as it comes, make peace with it. Everyone has their own life trajectory. You don’t need to care too much about others, and you don’t need to plan your own trajectory too much. Knowing too many truths too early is just talk on paper, and life may not be all good if you push things to the limit. Doing something for the sake of results is often because you care too much about that thing, and in the end you get even less.
The best thing is that the results come naturally and naturally.
However, the significance of those principles is just to point us in a direction when we are confused, and to give us an extra calm and peaceful mentality when we are entangled, so that we can survive the 36,500 days of ordinary life. to better appreciate and enjoy the process of life.
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