What's more, look at our personality education at that time. There was a piece of paper and lines in the study at home. There were 1 frames, some of which were 3 frames. What was it called? "merit and demerit"
After reading the book by myself every day, my father sat in the back and said, Think about it, is there anything wrong? Think for yourself: yes, pick up a black pen and point a black spot in the box. What's the good news? Yes, so-and-so has no oranges to eat. It's a good thing that I send him an orange and put a red dot in the box. Every day's thoughts and actions, the good ones are red and the bad ones are black, show yourself, this is called merit, and this is how we come.
Zhu Zi's Motto of Managing the Family has influenced China for more than 3 years, and all the people in China have been affected. I can say that the Manchu dynasty ruled 4 million China people for nearly 3 years. What did it depend on? By this article, everyone didn't find it. Who wrote this article? Zhu Bailu in the late Ming Dynasty.
Excuse me, did he graduate from Renmin University or Peking University? Or Fudan? Which middle school, Shanghai or Suzhou? Nothing, he is "the students", what are the students? The average reader. He didn't want to be a conquered people because of the Qing Dynasty and his father's death, so he didn't come out and studied hard at home. However, the Qing Dynasty did not use him, and China people accepted and circulated his article.
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Get up at dawn, sweep the court, and be neat inside and outside; When you are unconscious, you will rest. If you close the door, you will behave yourself.
I am 9 years old this year, and how much I have been influenced by this education. Ask them, several of their classmates follow me, and I walk around by myself every night. Have the windows been closed? Is the door locked? It has become a habit, and I don't feel at ease if I don't go to see it. This is the education I received when I was eight or nine years old. "If you close your door, you must behave yourself."
a porridge and a meal are hard to come by.
a meal is not easy to eat!
half-silk, half-wisp, persistent thinking about material difficulties
You should know that saving is not about consumption stimulating production!
it is advisable to prepare for a rainy day, and don't dig a well when you are thirsty.
Be a man and get ready in advance, and don't dig a well to draw water when you are dry.
Self-service must be simple, and the banquet guests should not linger
Use the property and save as much as possible for themselves. These friends who love to sing karaoke can drink, and they drink seven or eight bottles of brandy a day. These friends seldom come, "Don't linger", you can say hello, and you can't linger too much.
the utensils are clean, and the tile (fǒu) is better than the jade
Don't pay too much attention to the things used at home, just use them easily and clean.
a reasonable diet is better than delicacies.
a simple diet is better than anything else.
Don't run a fancy house or seek fertile land.
Don't talk about how luxurious the house is, or what a five-star hotel is, which is unnecessary.
Three aunts and six grandmothers are prostitutes and thieves.
Some troublesome women, including matchmakers, fortune tellers, witches and gods, pimps, midwives, and traffickers, don't associate with each other much.
a beautiful maid and a charming concubine are not the blessing of a boudoir.
Little secrets, such as a foreign room and a lover, the more beautiful the worse, the blessing of a boudoir and a divorce.
don't use handsome boys and girls, and don't wear bright makeup for wives and concubines.
don't use beautiful boys and girls, for fear that wives and ladies will be unreliable. Wife and maid should not dress up too beautifully, which is equivalent to what a boss said to me, teacher, there is no woman in my head office. Because the unattractive ones don't like it, and the beautiful ones are unreliable, so I don't need them. I'm right.
Although our ancestors are far away, it is necessary to offer sacrifices insincerely; Although children and grandchildren are stupid, they must read the scriptures. The period of living is simple, and the godson should be righteous.
"Living in the body" refers to himself, trying to be frugal and simple, and not flashy. There should be methods to educate children and grandchildren, and help them according to their natural endowments and interests, but they should be measured. I said that parents are all wrong now, and it's wrong to put their unattainable goals on their children, and they don't understand "righteousness".
Don't be greedy for unexpected wealth, and don't drink too much wine.
Don't be greedy, it's not a good thing to get something for nothing. Wine doesn't tell you not to drink, but not to drink too much.
Don't take advantage of the trade with Shoulder-Shoulder
Sell small things, carry the Shoulder-Shoulder to the door, and don't haggle over every penny. People don't have the ability to be bosses, so they have to make money as hawkers. You say he lied to me, even if he lied, lie to him, he will go back to support his family!
when you meet a poor neighbor, you should be considerate. If you are mean to get married, you will not enjoy reason for a long time.
Be kind, help others more, especially if you are the big boss. If you are mean to your staff, you will not succeed. If you "enjoy reason for a long time", you will be rewarded.
Lun Chang was a good girl (chu m ? n), and he died at once
For example, he was not filial to his parents, and soon collapsed.
Brothers and uncles should be generous.
Brothers and sisters should be greeted and help each other.
young and old, both inside and outside, should be strict with the law
I read it this way! I recited it when I was studying! It's back! (Note: Family management should be strict, regardless of age, we must abide by family rules and laws, so that families can be happier and happier).
is it a husband who listens to his wife's words and doesn't feel sorry for his parents and brothers?
It's not a man. On the other hand, it's not a heroine for wives to listen to men and do so.
attaching importance to (z Ρ, the same as "capital") wealth, neglecting parents, can't be a son of man
He only looks at money and doesn't know how to be filial to his parents. He says that's not a man.
if you marry a daughter, you should choose a husband, and you don't want to be re-employed.
If you marry a daughter, you should see whether the other boy is good or not, not whether he has money.
if you marry a daughter-in-law and ask for a lady, don't count the amount of money (lián)
If you get a daughter-in-law, don't expect her family to accompany you, it depends on whether the girl is good or not.
It's the most shameful thing for people who flatter themselves when they see wealth.
It's a shame to see people who are officials, have status and money and flatter themselves loudly. When I was in Taiwan Province, once, someone invited an overseas Chinese leader back. He was old, and the old man sat on it and farted while eating. It was rude. The person next to him is still a diplomat: hmm! No smell, no smell. This old man's overseas Chinese leader is very unhappy, because of his idea, old people fart without taste and will die soon. He was unhappy to hear the diplomat say that. The diplomat understood, and said after a while: Hmm! Now it has a little taste. It is most shameful to kiss up to "those who flatter when they see wealth."
there is nothing more despicable than being arrogant when you are poor.
Seeing that others are poor and look down on others, you are too humble.
no litigation at home, and litigation will eventually kill you
it's best not to go to court, which is not good for both sides.
don't talk too much in life, and if you talk too much, you will lose
talk less.
Don't bully the widowed by force, and don't kill the animals for greed.
Don't think that you have money, status and power, and bully the weak. Don't kill anything just because you are delicious.
if you are eccentric, you will regret many mistakes.
if you are too withdrawn or self-righteous, you will regret many mistakes.
it's hard to be successful when you're depressed. If you are intimate with a few villains, you will be tired of them for a long time.
If you are depressed, you will be ruined. Don't make friends with those young taibao and hooligans. There are many places of entertainment like karaoke, such as Shanghai and Beijing, which are bound to be dragged down by them.
if you are anxious, you can depend on each other.
Keep in touch with people with mature personality and reliable conduct to help you grow up and be reliable in times of emergency. You can learn a lot from interacting with the elderly. Of course, good old people, like us, had better not interact. (Laughter)
Listen to the speech lightly, and you will know what is wrong with you (zèn, framed and slandered words). Be patient and think twice
Just listen to others and tell you, ouch! So-and-so says you are not good. That's somebody else trying to provoke you! So don't just listen.
You can't tell whether it's right or wrong because of things.
Because things conflict with people, it's not necessarily someone else's fault. First, you should reflect on your own mistakes.
Don't think about giving, but don't forget receiving
These two words have a profound impact on my life. They are the spirits of Buddhism, Confucianism and Taoism. They have helped others and given them benefits. Don't remember them in your heart, but throw them away. "Being grateful" has benefited people a little, and we should always remember it.
leave room for everything, and be proud of it. People are happy, so don't be jealous.
People should leave room for things, and don't take advantage of good things and cheap things. If they take advantage of them, they will get into trouble. The so-called "contented people get rich". It's good to be jealous of others. Seeing this person's car is better than yours, hum! What is it? Is jealousy. There are many things about women. I saw a woman wearing beautiful clothes coming across, hum! Is jealousy, which means, what are you? It's easy. I'll buy one for you later.
when people are in trouble, don't be happy.
It's good for you to be happy when others are in trouble! This is wrong.
it's not true that you want people to see you.
If you do something good and hope others know it, you can see that your motives are not pure and good, but it's hard to tell whether it's good or bad.
if you are afraid of being known, it is a great evil.
if you do something bad and you are afraid of being known, it is terrible.
I feel lustful at the sight of color, and report it to my wife and daughter.
Boys and girls are similar, and the results should be reported to my relatives.
Hiding resentment and using backstabbing will delay future generations.
If you are not convinced of others' hearts, backstabbing will hurt people and secretly trick them, future generations will be punished.
the family is in harmony, although it is not continued, it is still enjoyable for the whole family to get together and be in harmony, even if there is no food.
the national class is finished early, that is, there is no money left (tuó, pocket), and I am very happy.
The country wants taxes, so pay them quickly, and don't evade taxes. If you evade taxes, you can't stand it in the end! He even helps pay taxes, ha! So how could Emperor Kangxi not advocate this maxim? Go ahead and read it!
Studying is aimed at sages, and keeping the country in mind for officials
Finally, he told us that "studying is aimed at sages", and that studying is not to get a high salary, but to learn and ask questions, taking sages as an example and the highest goal, rather than seeking the name of sages or pretending to be hypocritical. You don't have to be an official to study. If you unfortunately come out to be an official, you will "be an official and have a royal country". Since you come out to be a civil servant, you must be responsible to the people and the social country.
behave yourself and listen to the weather. If you are like this, you will be close.
You know your duty, and you know the time and situation. After doing your duty, you will listen to your destiny. He said that this is like a person.
This article was written by a native of Kunshan, Jiangsu Province, which has influenced China for three or four hundred years. Look, the ancient prose, a thousand poems, a young scholar Qionglin and 3 Qian Qian read by China intellectuals were not compiled by a professor or a doctor from Renmin University. No. So I said, look at China's culture for thousands of years. The government didn't spend any money, but the people themselves trained their children, which affected a country and the whole era.
(Teacher nan huaijin gave a lecture at the National College of China Renmin University)
Chinese Studies and China Culture.