Degang Guo said: I especially dislike people who don't know what I've been through. I ordered it here, because the blood hasn't been wiped clean, and he bravely called you there. ...
In life, there are many such people. Although they have not experienced the pain experienced by others, they have analyzed many things from a moral high point. They use God's attitude to evaluate interests, influence other people's ideas, and don't listen to his ideas. I think you are wrong, especially on the topic of marriage. This situation is particularly common. Obviously, it is a bad marriage, and the parties are already in pain, but they always analyze their age, tendency and views under the persuasion of some people.
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My family has two daughters. The two families are familiar with each other and have been friends for decades, so we will call them two sisters directly. My sister dropped out of school early and got married. Now she has two children. She can read more books and get married later. She has a house and a car, but no children. In their family, this may be the reason why her parents loved her since childhood. She has an arrogant attitude. After marriage, she will be looked down upon verbally.
My sister got married very early, so I can't see many things clearly. Now I raise two children by myself. Her husband seldom goes home, and he doesn't know what to do outside, whether to go to work in the factory or to do business. In short, is my sister supporting her marriage alone? Last year, during the Dragon Boat Festival, my elder sister's husband didn't go home, so he borrowed money from my elder sister's in-law's house, saying that he owed hundreds of thousands and asked my elder sister to pay it back. My sister knew these things and told the debt collector that she was divorced. These debts have nothing to do with her.
The debt collector had no choice but to leave. Sister saw those IOUs and asked about her man's whereabouts. Finally, two months later, her husband came back with a woman, saying it was his sister. My sister knows what these two people mean. At that time, I felt angry and desperate in an instant, cried and drove them out of the house, and then threatened that if I saw her again, I would clean them up.
My sister's marriage was terrible. Besides, my husband is not that serious. I'm already sad. Strangely, as the younger sister of the second sister, I officially aimed at her marriage. Please forgive me for driving people away or coming back at last. Since they are two children, they should be more mature. Although he had an affair, he was still the father of the child. These dolls need him. He asked me to call me brother-in-law
As a younger sister, the second sister does not set the difficulty of comforting her sister. Instead, she said something without boundaries. In short, the implication is that it is no good for her to live. At that time, my sister was very angry and didn't want to argue with her, but she still showed consideration for her sister. Without mercy, under the persuasion of parents, it will be more difficult for a woman to divorce with two children. Finally, she completely angered her sister: If you have such a husband,
Second sister scolded her after being said so, but ignored her. She is considering divorcing this man and getting custody of her two children. At the same time, she also asked the man to pay the corresponding alimony. Then in this more than a year, her sister and the court sued for divorce, running around on the road to get rid of love rat.
This matter has not been decided yet, and my second sister's marriage has also become a problem. After listening to my mother's words, I realized that the second sister accidentally turned on her husband's mobile phone. Her husband has been cheating on his female colleagues for two or three years, and their happiness has reached the point where they plan to buy a house and get married in the future.
My second sister advised me to forgive the man who had an affair. When I experienced betrayal at home, I finally tasted that such a growing experience was worse than death. Then there was a scene of crying, making noise, jumping and threatening. Finally, in just two months, I was a few years old and lost a circle. When I got home, I cried for comfort and lost sleep all night, which scared the old couple nearby to have psychological counseling.
However, when it was necessary to choose this marriage, the second sister hesitated, divorced, unwilling to go on, unwilling, and now she doesn't want to divorce or go back. She lives in her hometown and doesn't work. She gave up her life in an instant after she despaired of her marriage. Then when the elder sister said what he was doing, the second sister became completely angry, scolded the elder sister for meddling, and said that she could not make irresponsible remarks about her marriage.
The person who once advised others to be kind can't persuade her now. To tell the truth, my second sister's mood is a little different from mine. My sister won't complain about her bad marriage, but she will turn around when she is disappointed. My second sister is always happy before suffering, but it's really hard to accept that she collapses all day after failure.
Please don't be tolerant of a woman until you have really experienced such pain. Perhaps, when you experience it yourself, you can't create a broad mood for others. Some marriages don't need to adjust their injuries in principle. Some people like to adjust their marriage with serious problems such as extramarital affairs and domestic violence, while others encourage women to exercise restraint in the face of principled injuries. This suggestion is based on the pain of the client. Is it really okay? There is no real resonance in this world, but please stand on the moral high ground of nothingness and let the pain of others become the center of self-righteousness. Endless. Reality is not a TV series. Not all mistakes are worth forgiving, and not all marriages are worth repairing.
In life, the most disgusting person just wants others to forgive him for hurting him and tell others what to do in life and how to be a man. First of all, living high and keeping your mouth shut is the most important thing. When you point out that you are indifferent to a person, you don't know what she has put her mother-in-law through. When you complain about her new mother's temper, you don't know what kind of insomnia she experienced last night. When you complain about a woman's marriage.
Maybe your original intention of recommending others is good, maybe it is really for each other, but sometimes it is really unnecessary. How do you know that your understatement has kept others awake for several nights? So live a higher life first, and don't kidnap other people's lives with your thoughts. To put it bluntly, no one is qualified to tell others how to live their own lives.