It is easy to know people, but difficult to understand them.

On the pillars of the temple of Delphi in ancient Greece, there is a motto that awakens the world: "Man! Know yourself. "

Do you really know yourself?

People are self-aware, but it is really difficult to be self-aware.

There is such a story in Everything is Wrong.

During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Chu Zhuangwang saw the political chaos and weak army in Yue, so he wanted to take the opportunity to send troops to attack Yue.

Zhuangzi is very worried about it. He thinks that although the state of Yue is weak now, the situation of Chu itself is also worrying.

In China, officials are incompetent, people rise up and the situation is turbulent.

Overseas, Qin Jin invaded many times, and the Chu army suffered a crushing defeat, resulting in a great decline in morale. Hundreds of miles of land were handed over overnight.

Zhuangzi advised: "People's wisdom and insight are like our eyes. They can see things beyond a hundred paces, but they can't see their eyelashes clearly."

Hearing this sentence, I suddenly realized the seriousness of Chu's own problems, decisively gave up the idea of sending troops and focused on stabilizing the country and people's livelihood.

I have read such a sentence: "The hardest thing in life is not to see the distance clearly, but to see the road under your feet;" The most confusing thing is not to see others clearly, but to see yourself clearly. "

People who can't see themselves clearly are easily confused by appearances and self-defeating. People who know themselves know how to do what they can and hide their strength.

Zhu Guangqian once said: "It is not easy for people to know themselves, just as the eyes can't see themselves and the strength can't bootstrap."

We often find the advantages and disadvantages of others easily, but forget to set a standard line for ourselves. The eyes are full of external confusion, and the inner self-awareness is forgotten.

It is easy to know people, but difficult to understand them.

This is a bigger challenge than reading others and recognizing yourself.

The low-lying person becomes the sea, and the low-lying person becomes the king.

Hong Mai, a historian of the Southern Song Dynasty, was on duty in imperial academy, busy from morning till night, drafting more than 20 imperial letters for the emperor.

After the task was completed, he walked in the yard and met an old man.

The old man greeted him and said, "I heard that there are many documents today, and I am very grateful to my college classmates." Hong Mai replied with a chuckle, "All the letters drafted today have been completed."

The old man praised: "The bachelor's talent is agile, which is really a rare talent." Hong Mai was very proud after listening, boasting: "Su Dongpo must be so powerful!"

The old man mused, then sighed and said, "Yes, Su Dongpo is like that, but he didn't use it to turn pages."

Hongmai was ashamed to know that he had made a slip of the tongue. Later, when he recalled this experience, he said, "Don't cry roast meat. At that time, if there were cracks in the ground, I would definitely be able to get in. "

"Shangshu" said: "Full loss, modest benefit."

A complacent person, who has achieved a little success, relies on his own talent and arrogance, and will eventually feel ashamed.

Modest people, on the other hand, know how to keep a low profile, listen to other people's suggestions and complete self-improvement.

Xu Beihong used to be the president of the Central Academy of Fine Arts and one of the "Three Masters of Jinling" in China painting circle.

Once, Xu Beihong held an art exhibition, which was very popular and received rave reviews. Just as he was introducing this painting to everyone, an old farmer came up and said, "There is something wrong with this painting. How can the mother duck's tail be so long? "

Everyone scolded: "What do you know as an old farmer?"

Xu Beihong stopped at once, went to the old farmer and leaned down to ask for advice. The old farmer continued: "The tail feather of the duck in the painting is long and curly, like a ring, but in fact, the tail of the mother duck is very short."

Xu Beihong accepted the criticism with a smile and bowed to the old farmer to apologize, which won everyone's applause.

Richter said: "A person can remain modest after being criticized rather than praised, that is the real modesty."

Really powerful people often achieve the word "modesty".

You can bend down, listen to suggestions, and constantly cultivate yourself for by going up one flight of stairs.

The low-lying person becomes the sea, and the low-lying person becomes the king.

The smarter a person is, the less he will be proud of himself; The more knowledgeable people are, the more they know how to ask for advice modestly.

Learn to be modest and low-key, because this is the trick to live a life.

Be a man, don't take yourself too seriously.

There is a hot topic in Zhihu: "What mentality needs deliberate practice?"

The most praised answer: "Don't take yourself too seriously, because we are not the center of the world. We will still turn without the earth, and we will still make money without the company. "

Everyone once fantasized that he was the protagonist of this world and stood on the radiant stage to shine. But in real life, we are often only supporting roles in other people's world, and there are not many audiences.

Cui Yongyuan recalled such a past event in You Hua.

When I first became a host, I was young and frivolous, thinking that everyone went to the studio to see Cui Yongyuan. He regards himself as the protagonist and cares about his image very much.

Every time before I go on stage, I polish my shoes and tell the makeup artist to look better. I even prepared various famous sayings in advance, hoping to talk and laugh in front of the audience.

But he soon realized that the audience actually came for the guests and didn't pay attention to the host, which made him deeply hit.

After a period of reflection, he adjusted his mentality, positioned himself as a supporting role, took the guests as the core of a high-quality dialogue, and guided them to open their hearts and speak freely.

Gradually, he found the best state to be a host, and the programs he hosted were also popular all over the country.

He said with emotion: "Being alive is a process of slowly letting go of yourself. When I don't take myself seriously, I find myself completely relaxed, and I can mobilize the other person's emotions more and create a comfortable conversation field so that the other person can fully express himself. This is the highest realm of being a host. "

When you dress up and hold your head high, you won't get much attention, because no audience will look at you again.

When you are willing to put down your posture and be a supporting role with peace of mind, you will become the real protagonist.

Jack London said in The Sea-Wolf: "Everyone thinks he is a diamond, but to others, he is just an allotrope of diamond: charcoal."

Be a man, don't take yourself too seriously

When you don't take yourself seriously, you put down too many expectations and travel light, so that you can go faster and faster on the road of life.

Only by letting go of yourself can we go further.

There is a saying in "Three-body": "Weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, but arrogance is. Once a person feels superior to others and feels superior, it is not far from bad luck. "

Only by letting go of yourself and keeping a low profile can we go further.

In the Terracotta Warriors Museum, there is a kneeling figurine, which is called the treasure of the town hall. It is the only well-preserved terracotta warriors and horses that need no repair, and its clothing lines are clearly visible.

After two thousand years of wind and frost, why can it be so complete?

In fact, because of its low profile, the Terracotta Warriors Pit is an underground tunnel structure. When the roof collapses, the high-profile terracotta figures are the first to be impacted, while the kneeling terracotta figures are much less damaged.

After many years, it is still intact. When a dynasty changes, what remains unchanged is its low profile.

Life is the same. God has set all kinds of tests on our way forward. We can't decide the content of the exam, but we can choose the attitude we face.

Smart people are aware of their own weight, and will not set themselves too high and care too much.

Because they know that taking themselves too seriously is a disaster.

It's too cold up there, and the higher you go, the more dangerous and shaky you are.

There is a saying in the Four Disciplines: "Only modesty is blessed."

In the long life, everyone is just his own protagonist. Let go of yourself and move forward with an open mind, in order to be blessed and to be stable and far-reaching