When you can't find the goal and direction of life, most people in the world will inevitably encounter confusion. Please don't be discouraged and don't give up. Night gives you black eyes, so please look for light. So, when you can't find the goal and direction of life, please come on!

Why can't you find the goal and direction of life and feel confused?

1, you don't have a clear self-awareness, so you don't know your future goals.

Think about it, do you really know yourself?

You might as well try to answer these questions: Who are you? What kind of person do you want to be? What do you like to do? What kind of job are you suitable for? What do you want to pursue in the future?

Many people may not be able to answer these questions smoothly. Think about it. How can you not be confused if you don't know yourself and what you want?

Therefore, the lack of a clear understanding of ourselves is an important reason why we feel confused.

Only by knowing yourself and knowing what you want can you make a better choice.

You are faced with too many choices and don't know how to choose the right one.

Of course, in addition to the lack of correct understanding of ourselves, another reason for confusion is that we are faced with too many choices, but we are unable to determine which one is the "optimal solution".

Think about it. Do you want to continue your graduate studies or start working early after graduation? After work, do you want to go to the 996 factory or the state-owned enterprise to find a nine-to-six job? Stay in your hometown or go to Beishangguang?

Every choice has its own advantages and disadvantages, and you can't let either side go. Looking at one mountain after another, you will certainly feel confused.

When you can't find the goal and direction of life, when you are confused, what should we do to find the direction of life?

If you want to get out of confusion, the most important thing is to establish a clear self-awareness.

Next, we will describe our "selfie" from three aspects: interest, personality and ability. Then establish long-term goals to guide our current actions.

1, know your interests.

When we do what we like, we are willing to invest more time and energy and have more creativity. If you do what you like, you are more likely to succeed.

Think about it. What do you like to do? If there is no answer for the time being, we can make a simple judgment with the help of Holland's professional interest code:

Each of us has our own hobbies:

For example, some people like to deal with things and are not good at communicating with others (reality R);

Some people like to express their views with friends and persuade and lead others (Enterprise E);

Some people like to think about research problems and are interested in some philosophical and scientific problems (research type I);

And some students are very caring, like to help others and enjoy it (social S);

There are still some people who like to live and work in an orderly way, hoping to know the requirements and standards of work accurately, and don't like random changes (Law C);

In addition, some people are good at self-expression, like music, art and painting, and have active thinking (Art A).

Holland's Career Interest Code points out that different interests correspond to different interest codes, and also correspond to different potentials and career development.

For example, if your interest code is SIC, it means that your main interest area is S (social type), and your secondary areas are I (research type) and C (conventional type).

Then when you choose a career, the first field you choose can be social, such as psychological counselor, social worker, teacher and other occupations. Secondly, on this basis, you can screen the related jobs of type I and type C. ..

Generally speaking, your career choice and ability training should correspond to your own interests, so that you can get twice the result with half the effort and achieve your goals easily.

Interested friends can take the "Dutch Career Interest Test", which is a way to know themselves intuitively and talk to themselves regularly, so as not to be imprisoned by confusion.

2. Know your character strengths.

It is painful for introverts to socialize forcibly, and it is also painful for extroverts to work at their desks every day. It is also important to find the direction of life and choose a job that suits your personality.

The MBTI(Myers-Briggs) personality classification index points out that people's personalities are diverse and can be subdivided into the dimensions of ability tendency: extroversion (E) and introversion (I); Dimensions of information acceptance: sense (S) and intuition (N); Thinking type (T) and emotional type (F) in the dimension of information processing; Dimensions of action mode: judgment type (J) and perception type (P).

Each character code has a different meaning:

For example, extroverts (e) are good at finding answers to questions from the outside, such as finding someone to talk to when they encounter problems;

Introverts (I) are good at self-regulation, prefer to solve problems by themselves, and seldom ask others for help.

Emotional people observe things carefully and pay attention to details. For example, he will show you the way and will be specific to everything with direction;

Intuitive (n) students are more abstract. Let him lead the way, it will be more abstract, often described by words such as left and right, before and after.

Thinking (t) People are more objective, that is, they discuss things without considering emotional factors; Perception (f) People prefer to put themselves in other people's shoes, pay attention to other people's feelings, and tend to think twice before doing things.

People with judgment (J) like to do things according to the plan and are strict with themselves; Perceptual (P) people prefer flexibility to being bound.

Suppose a person's personality code is ESFP, which shows that this person is friendly, outgoing, tolerant, likes to deal with people, has flexible thinking and has the ability to meet challenges. It means that he can help others and serve others in his career choice. Such as teachers, psychological counseling, social workers.

Through MBTI professional personality test, we can easily get our own personality password, and we can calmly choose what we want to do according to our own personality.

3. Define the capability boundary

I wonder if you have heard of Warren Buffett's "circle of competence" theory?

It can be said that Buffett's achievements in his life are inseparable from the principle of "doing things in the circle of ability". He believes that if you don't understand something, don't do it.

Therefore, Buffett has been very cautious about technology Internet companies for decades. Even if you miss many investment opportunities, you are not willing to invest in things you don't understand. He even publicly claimed that he would never touch bitcoin, and the reason given was simple: because he didn't understand.

Investment experts need to work in the competence circle. As ordinary people, we need to be clear about our ability boundaries so as not to waste precious time on things that seem likely to succeed, but are hopeless.

For example, if you don't understand investment knowledge at all, don't set yourself a goal of making a big profit of 6.5438+0 million in the stock market;

If you don't understand business operations at all, don't ask yourself to start a leading domestic company immediately after quitting your job;

To put it more simply, if you can't walk, don't try to somersault. Take every step within your ability in a down-to-earth manner, so that you won't make much ado about nothing and you will go longer.

Of course, knowing the limits of our abilities does not mean that we should rest on our laurels. We can constantly learn new knowledge through reading and practice, so as to broaden our abilities.

Do something sure so that we won't get lost.

Step 4 set long-term goals

The world-famous potential stimulation master Born Tracy has a famous saying: "Success is equal to the goal, and everything else is a comment on this sentence."

In order to avoid chaos, we must set long-term goals.

Why do you say that? Look at the picture below.

Suppose e is your pursuit in life. If we had known this goal, we could have chased it from the starting point to the end. The shortest straight line between two points, knowing the long-term goal, can avoid some useless work and achieve success efficiently.

However, if you walk in the fog, you may start from the starting point and go around such irrelevant places as A, B, C and D as in the picture, wasting your youth in vain.

If we don't want to be confused, there must be a main line in our life. You can arrange your phased plan according to this main line, and break down the huge goal into every feasible small step.

For example, suppose there is a budding long-term goal in the workplace "to have a company with an annual income of 1 10,000". He can disassemble this goal into finding an entrepreneurial electronics, learning relevant knowledge, accumulating his own contacts and starting a business formally.

The target of annual income of 6.5438+0000 can also be broken down in detail, such as earning 50000 in the first year, 6.5438+0000 in the second year, 300000 in the third year, 600000 in the fourth year and 6.5438+0000 in the fifth year.

Advancing your life around long-term goals will pay off every step. How can you be deeply confused?

When you can't find the goal and direction in life, firstly, most people in the world have experienced the process of getting lost without a goal, which is a process from ignorance to knowledge and then to knowledge. So, when you feel that you have no goal, please don't be discouraged.

But after all, people are different from animals, so they still blame themselves for their lack of cognition and feel uncomfortable about their confusion.

I think there is no goal because there is no faith in my heart! Faith does not just refer to religious belief. Anyone who has no goal can ask himself three basic philosophical propositions: where to come from, what to do and where to go. Born as a man, you always have to do something useful for this society, so encourage yourself to do something useful for this world. This is the goal. If you do something, you will learn to have confidence in yourself. Slowly, you will find that your goal is from small to large, and you will get out of confusion.

Secondly, if you don't have a goal in a short time, you should read more optimistic works. The answer to this question shows that you are definitely not old.

In addition, if you have more opportunities to be alone and talk to yourself, you will gradually find yourself after a long time. Only when you understand yourself and the meaning of life will you find that there is no goal for people to live, because the basic goal of people's survival is to live, and the rest is to play their own value in a limited life. Everyone wants to live, so why can't I feel that besides living, it is better to make myself happy every day?

1, learn to love yourself with actions-including respecting, expressing, maintaining your feelings and needs and giving yourself warmth;

2. Learn to be self-aware and realize that your thinking has returned to the past for the first time, remembering painful scenes and hurting yourself;

3. Learn to think and brake, and stop automatic thinking through intervention after awareness-this will be very tiring and requires repeated practice;

4. Learn to explore different contents in memory. Don't let the memory stay in the gray memory forever. Even after a few weeks, you can get into the habit of replacing gray memories with warm memories.

Goals and ideals cannot be achieved overnight. If you can form new habits, start to love yourself, respect and express your feelings and safeguard your interests, then your desires will come back and your goals and ideals will gradually emerge.