Everyone has ulterior motives, so it's best to keep one hand in everything. Fiona Fang should be a man, do things satisfactorily, be the second child, not the boss, understand human feelings is an article, and be tactful.
Confucius' philosophy is the second child philosophy. Confucius used his political ideal to design a "second child" society for China people: everyone is polite, everyone knows its benefits, not for pleasure, not for disaster.
Confucius is an eternal teacher, and his philosophy is the philosophy of China people. As a result, many people in China have become faithful followers of the "second child" philosophy: don't be the boss, be the second child.
When courtiers face the emperor, they should be willing to be the second child. No matter how good the boss is, they should be loyal to him. In the face of a villain, a gentleman should be willing to be the second child, let him be arrogant again and take a step back first;
Personally, in the face of fate, you are still willing to be the second child, three points of manpower, seven points of fate, and Jie Jun is the one who knows the times.
This "second child" philosophy has penetrated into every corner of China society. I once heard an official recite the latest official "Saint Amethyst": "An official should be a deputy, a vegetarian and wear shoes and cloth."
Just when he wanted to praise his integrity, his confession came out again: "As a deputy, you can enjoy the power of leadership without worrying about taking responsibility; Vegetarians can eat meat better by keeping healthy, and only by being vegetarian regularly can they eat meat better; Leather shoes have been worn for a long time, and changing shoes and wearing leather shoes is just a feeling! "
China people's "second child" philosophy is really clever. When the sky falls, they hit tall people first. Being a boss is beautiful, but it is also easy to become a target of public criticism. China people have a deep understanding of the taste, so before they have absolute strength to be the boss, they are all content to be the second child.
Cao Cao once said a famous saying of his second child when others advised him to be emperor: "I am not the emperor, I am the Duke of Zhou!" " "This backward thinking has almost become the basic pattern of some people's political strategies for thousands of years: thinking about the front desk in their hearts, but their bodies are in the background.
"A gentleman does not stand under a dangerous wall" is in line with Confucius' philosophy of life.
The philosophy of the second child is very cunning. Andy Lau, an evergreen in Hong Kong entertainment circle, is a firm believer and practitioner of the second child philosophy.
In the extremely competitive entertainment circle, Huazai can make a fortune everywhere and maintain good relations with all aspects, which is not unrelated to his insistence on the second way of life.
Andy Lau rarely fights for the king, and his image on the screen rarely appears as "big brother" like Chow Yun Fat. Even in front of reporters, he always looks like a "little brother is scared".
Once Andy Lau was interviewed, the reporter asked him: "I heard that you are very low-key, and you never take the first place as your goal?"
Andy Lau replied: "I am a traditional person, I know how to be polite, and I never strive for the first place. You asked me if the film won the first prize? " ? I didn't. Did you win the first prize in singing? I didn't. I'm both second, but just like the decathlon, it adds up to the first. "
His words reflect a strange phenomenon in China: those who can be good bosses are often those who are willing to be the second child and can be the second child. As Andy Lau thought: the second child plus the second child equals the boss.
Therefore, if anyone wants to make a difference, he must learn to straighten the position of the boss and the second child, and understand the profound connotation of being the second child.
When it's time to be the second child, be the second child honestly and seriously. Therefore, Confucius is a great wise man. No matter how much we laugh at him, we will eventually return to him.
Mr. Lin Qingxuan, a writer from Taiwan Province Province, once followed Master Xing Yun. 20 15 published Lin Qingxuan's prose collection "Vast Star Rhyme". This book witnessed his behavior of following Master Xing Yun and recorded the real spiritual life of Master Xing Yun. The handwriting is clean and beautiful, touching people's hearts.
Master Xing Yun often talks about the "second child philosophy", which most people can't understand, so he tells a story:
The Li family in JiaHe Zhang is a neighbor. The Zhang family always quarrels, and the Li family is harmonious inside and outside. After a long time, the changs wondered and asked the lees:
"Why does our family quarrel every day, and it will never be peaceful; Why do you live in harmony and never have an argument? "
The people in the Li family said, "Because your family are all good people, they always quarrel;" We are all bad people, so we can't quarrel. "
"What does this mean?"
"For example, if someone breaks a vase, your family thinks they are right. That's someone else's fault. It's natural to argue with others blindly. People in our family are afraid of hurting their families and would rather admit their mistakes first. The person who broke the vase immediately apologized: "I'm sorry! I'm sorry! "I was too careless," the other party immediately blamed itself:' I don't blame you! I don't blame you. It's all my fault to put the vase here. Everyone admits that it is their own fault, and the relationship will naturally be harmonious. "
The master said: "Good people and bad people, the eldest brother and the second child, and even all interpersonal relationships are like this. To take a step back, the horizon will be broader. " . It's like the five fingers arguing who is the boss, not the little finger, but the little finger doesn't have to be sad. When worshipping Buddha with folded hands, the little finger is closest to the Buddha and Bodhisattva. "
People who listen to Master Xing Yun often get unexpected enlightenment, because he is good at metaphors and examples, and because he is adept at Buddhism. In ordinary stories, he can make the finishing point with a little convenience.
The application of the second child philosophy to entrepreneurship is not profound.
Jack Welch, former president of GE, said: "Every subsidiary of GE must be a leader in its field, otherwise, we will sell or close it." In the management philosophy of enterprises in Taiwan Province Province, China, there is a saying called "second philosophy", that is, don't be the first, don't be the third, but just follow the first and do the second, aiming at the opportunity and then sprint the first. In other words, in fact, no enterprise wants to stay in the position of the second child forever, and the second child is just a transition. Entrepreneurs should learn to be the "second child" at the beginning of their business.
Sun Tzu's Art of War said: It is the best policy to defeat the enemy without fighting. Technological innovation "following" is the best policy to defeat the enemy without fighting.
Entrepreneurs learn to be the second child, not an end, but a means, the purpose is to become the boss.
Without the accumulation of every small step, a person can't walk a thousand miles. It is a realistic choice for entrepreneurs to learn to be the second child, which is the need of survival. After all, funds are limited, strength is stretched, and technology and human resources are insufficient. ...
If you are carried away by the "entrepreneurial passion" of ambition, rhetoric and quick decision, then you have no intention of overreaching yourself.
Learning to be the second child is a business strategy. In the process of following, we learn valuable experience from the boss, learn from the boss's failure lessons, and finally become the boss with both strengths and weaknesses.
China has a saying since ancient times that a person is too sharp, too ostentatious and too dazzling, which is very unfavorable to himself.
Gentleman's brilliance, low-key calmness and unhurried relaxation are all manifestations of wisdom.