Zeng Jijing, Zeng Guofan's eldest daughter and son-in-law, made a young engagement with Yuan Yusheng, Yuan Shuliu's eldest son. Yuan Shuliu and Zeng Guofan are fellow villagers. They were scholars a few years later than Zeng Guofan, and their official position was Songjiang Magistrate. According to Zeng Guofan's mate selection criteria, Yuan Yusheng fully meets? Is it appropriate? Besides, I never imagined that this Yuan Gu big childe was a dissolute childe with chaotic style!
Zeng Jijing was twenty when she got married. At that time, Yuan had passed away. Zeng Guofan knew all the misdeeds of Yuan Yusheng, but in order to take care of his reputation, he married his daughter to Yuan Jia. After the marriage, Yuan Yusheng did not restrain his behavior, but still indulged in drinking and went his own way. Zeng Guofan repeatedly reminded that the constraint had no effect, and finally relied on this? Corruption? Son-in-law broke off relations!
I thought his hard life was coming to an end. When his father broke up with his husband, he returned to his mother's house. However, her wishful thinking failed, Zeng Guofan? Do your best? 、? Honor your aunt? The reason why I stayed in Yuan Jia. Four years later, Miss Zeng's family was killed. Liver depression and gas pain, no food? At the age of 29, he died in Yuan Jia!
Zeng Guofan's second daughter Zeng married Chen Songsheng, the adopted son of Zeng Guofan's classmate Chen. The son-in-law has no bad hobbies, but he is not so lucky. His father, Chen Yuan, committed suicide while fighting against the Taiping Army and supporting Luzhou. Since then, Chen Songsheng's family situation has plummeted, not only for the family, but also for relief? Lost family? Brother's family, they stayed? Hemoptysis? He became very grumpy.
Zeng Yaoji has no complaints about Chen Songsheng's family situation. He has always listened to his father Zeng Guofan's teachings and worked hard to maintain this family. Later, with the help of Zeng Guofan's eldest son Ceng Jize, Zeng Yaoji and his wife had the opportunity to go to Britain, and Chen Songsheng was in charge of British affairs. Seeing that life will get better gradually, as a result, I was sick because of my weakness and died the next year at the age of 38.
Zeng Guofan's third daughter Zeng married General Xiang's second son Luo Zhaosheng. Luo Zenan led the Xiang army to make many exploits. Later, he was killed by shelling while fighting with Taiping Army. Emperor Xianfeng gave his son a present as a juren according to the governor's specifications, and also awarded him the position of riding captain from generation to generation.
Luo Zenan and Zeng Guofan are fellow villagers, and they have known each other since the establishment of Xiang Army, and have established a profound friendship. After Luo Zenan's death, Zeng Guofan thought that we should take him as a son-in-law and be good friends? Do your father's duty? So it's this marriage. But what he didn't expect was that Luo Zhaosheng was spoiled by his mother and had a bad temper because he lost his father when he was a child.
Once married in the past, a little carelessness will make her husband furious, and her mother-in-law is also run. Later, Luo Zhao fell ill and died. She was made difficult by her mother-in-law and eventually died alone.
Zeng Guofan's fourth daughter Zeng Ji Chun married Guo Songtao's eldest son Guo Yiyong. Guo Songtao was also one of the founders of Xiang Army and the first foreign envoy of China. His eldest son Guo Yiyong inherited his excellent genes. He is not only clever, but also has a very good personality. Unfortunately, good people don't live long. Guo Yiyong was sickly since childhood and died young at the age of 2/kloc-0, leaving a widow who had just been married for three years. Eventually, he died of illness at the age of 35.
The above is Zeng Guofan's four unsuccessful mate selection experiences. In his later years, he also regretted his choice at that time. what do you think? You don't have to be rich and powerful to get married. Choose a son instead of a father? .
As can be seen from Zeng Guofan's words, what are the main reasons for his four choices? Political marriage? . On the surface, he chose a fellow villager, thinking that he could know the root of the matter, but in fact, the son-in-law he chose was basically the same as his position at that time. What is this called? Is it appropriate? . This marriage mode was very popular in ancient times, and it was also the most direct and effective way to expand family power at that time.
In my opinion, Zeng Guofan's practice is unacceptable to many people, because our concept now is freedom of marriage, but at that time it must be arranged by parents. Zeng Guofan's failure in choosing a husband is not his fault? Ren Xiang? Failure, because when he chose a son-in-law, he didn't look at people, only saw each other's power, each other's wealth, and it didn't matter how his daughter lived in the past. The key is that he can't lose his identity and face!
Of course, Zeng Guofan did realize something later. His fifth daughter once married a person whose status and position were not commensurate with his family. At that time, Zeng Guofan wanted to betrothed his little daughter to Nie, and invited him to dinner at home in person, so that his wife and daughter could look behind the screen and decide whether to choose this person. He finally married Nie, and his children and grandchildren lived to be 90 years old.
Conclusion In Zeng Guofan's era, being suitable for family was the most basic standard, so he just followed the mainstream. At least he can wake up after the failure of choosing a husband and let his little daughter live a happy life. But by contrast, the eldest daughter is really miserable! What do you think of this? Welcome to comment below.