See how Cao Cao educates children
See how Cao Cao educates children. The premise of educating children well is to attach importance to children. Parents should face problems with their children, and the influence of companionship and education will accompany them all their lives. Children are at a critical stage of physical and mental development. Now share how Cao Cao educates children.
See how Cao Cao educates his children. 1
Cao Pi wrote in Dian Lun. "self-talk" said: when I was five years old, my father saw the world was disturbed and taught me to learn archery. At the age of six, I could open my bow. Teach me to ride again, and I can ride and shoot at the age of eight. Later, Cao Cao ordered him to explore the west with the army since he was a teenager, and he was good at playing the piano and poetry, which shows that Cao Cao's education of children was very tight from the enlightenment education of childhood. As for Cao Zhi, he read the Book of Songs, The Analects of Confucius and hundreds of thousands of words in his early 1 s, and he wrote it in writing. Cao Cao didn't believe that he was so clever, so Cao Zhi asked for an interview. When the copper platform in Yecheng was just built, Cao Cao led his sons to the stage and ordered each of them to write an essay. Cao Zhi was the first to hand in the paper, and Cao Cao couldn't help praising Zijian's talent. This also shows how solid the foundation laid by Cao Cao's children in their childhood is.
Therefore, Cao Cao paid great attention to choosing good teachers for children and asked them to respect their teachers. When he selected officials for his sons, he ordered to choose "virtuous" people. He also chose Liyuan, known as "the treasure of the country" and "the essence of scholars", as the long history of Cao Pi. When Cao Cao once went out to war, he asked Cao Pi to stay behind, and sent Zhang Fan and Li Yuan to assist him. He strictly ordered Cao Pi to respect Zhang and Li's opinions when he had something to do, and "pay tribute to Zhang and Li".
Cao Cao is very strict with his sons' study, and is especially strict in moral character. In 218, he sent Cao Zhang to fight against the rebellion in Wuhuan County. Before leaving, he said to Cao Zhang, "Being at home is a father and son, taking care of the monarch and his subjects, and doing things according to the king's law. Erqi quit! " This is to tell him that the king is selfless and that if he makes a mistake, he can't expect to be forgiven by the love of his father and son. Cao Zhang really worked hard, fought hard and was invincible, completely pacifying the north. Later, when reporting back to Cao Cao, he did not take credit, but attributed the credit to his subordinates. Cao Cao was very happy when he heard this. He affectionately held Cao Zhang's yellow beard and said, "The yellow beard is amazing!
As for Cao Zhi, although he was extremely fond of him, he wanted to be an heir. In 213, Cao Cao led an army to March south to Sun Quan and ordered Cao Zhi to stay in Yecheng. Before leaving, Cao Cao said: "What I did when I was twenty-three years old, in retrospect, there is nothing wrong; You are 23 years old this year, shouldn't you work hard? " What a deep' expectation' is placed between words. However, Cao Zhi was arrogant and indulgent because of his favor. He once took a bus on the "Chidao" and opened the "Sima Gate" privately. Walking on these two roads is a privilege that only the emperor can enjoy. By doing so, Cao Zhi violated national laws. When Cao Cao learned this, he was very angry, ordered the gatekeeper to be tracked, and announced: "The first one is called Zijian, and the most important thing can be decided among the children." "Since Hou Zhi went out privately in Linzi, I opened Simamen to Jinmen, which made me look at this." Later, I decided not to establish Cao Zhi but to establish Cao Pi as the prince. Of course, there are other reasons for this change, but Cao Cao's strictness to his son can also be seen.
The story of Cao Chong, in which "the ship is called an elephant", has long been well known. When Cao Cao asked his subordinates for advice on how to be an elephant, Cao Chong, a five-or six-year-old child, was able to speak his mind without reserve and fear, and put forward a good way to be an elephant in a big ship, which Cao Cao also happily complied with. Doesn't this also reflect from the side that although he is Wang Wei, he is deeply in love with his children in family life and has a close and harmonious relationship? Therefore, it is not surprising that there are often subtle effects in education, and all sons have their own strengths in learning.
The success taught by Cao Cao reminds people of Liu Bei. Although Liu Bei is an outstanding politician who is as famous as Cao Cao, it's a pity that he can't be a father. His son, Dou, has become the laughingstock of the ages, and "Dou who can't help himself" has become the alias of all "concubine". This reason is not difficult to explore. Liu Bei drifted for half his life, and he only got this son in his forties. He loved it very much. In order to save Adou, he almost ruined Zhao Yun's life in Dangyang World War I. Later, Mrs. Sun took Adou back to Wu, and Zhao Yun and Zhang Fei stopped her halfway. "A daughter's son can't sit in the hall." It is precisely because it is extremely difficult to save this child that Liu Bei will be particularly pitied, spoiled and spoiled. Heroes are short of breath, and their children are immersed in love. "How can Reiko not be a husband?" How can Liu Bei be an exception? When things go to extremes, they will go to the opposite side, which will plant factors for the mediocrity of A Dou. See how Cao Cao educates his children. 2
Cao Cao: It is a historical model for the education of the second generation of officials.
History shows that Cao Cao had at least 32 children in his life, including 25 sons and 7 daughters. Nine of the 25 sons died young (including prodigy Cao Chong, who died young at the age of 13), and 16 sons grew up. Cao Cao's sons are also very good, and Cao Pi (born of Empress Wu Xuanbian, the same below) is "knowledgeable and talented"; Man of great talent, Cao Zhi, and Cao Zhang, whose martial arts are superior; Cao Chong, who died young, is said to have reached adult intelligence at the age of five or six ... All these are inseparable from Cao Cao's emphasis on family education.
Cao Cao has a clear goal in educating children. What he wants to cultivate is a versatile talent for governing the country and leveling the world. In his mind, Sun Quan is a role model for children. There is a saying that "a son should be like Sun Zhongmou, and Liu Jingsheng's son is like a dolphin and a dog's ear". Sun Quan belongs to the leader of the "second generation of officials". He is a hero who hates and respects Cao Wei. The son of Liu Jingsheng (that is, Liu Biao), Liu Cong, is far from the "second generation of officials". He is unfaithful and unfilial and spineless. He thought that when Cao Cao went south and didn't hit Jingzhou, this boy gave away his father's hard-earned possessions.
In order to motivate children to study with great enthusiasm, he once issued the Order of Children: "Although children see love when they are young, but when they grow up, they can be good, so they must use it. I must have two words. Not only is he not private, but his son doesn't want to be private. " This means that when my sons were young, I liked them all, but when I grow up, I will use them according to my ability and keep my word. I am not partial to my subordinates, and I am fair to you. Only the most talented person deserves to be my successor.
In order to achieve the established educational goals, Cao Cao made full use of his privileges, integrated and optimized educational resources, and selected and equipped the best teachers for his sons. Cao Cao's criteria for choosing teachers for his sons are: upright virtue and deep understanding of statutes, just like Xing Qing and others. Xing Qing was first named by Cao Cao to assist Cao Zhi, who was quite optimistic about him. However, Cao Zhicai was arrogant, willful, and did not like to listen to Xing Qing's nagging. The two were relatively distant. After Cao Pi became a prince, Xing Yong was selected by Cao Cao to be Cao Pi's teacher. Besides Xing Qing, Cao Cao also sent Li Yuan and Zhang Fan, who are "loyal to the country" and "the treasure of the country", to assist Cao Pi. Cao Cao politely told them that my son was incompetent and afraid that he would be difficult to take the right path, and he wanted to invite you to correct and encourage him.
Cao Cao is well versed in the saying that "if you don't follow the rules, you can't form a square". Once, Cao Cao asked Cao Zhang to lead the troops to go out to war. Before leaving, he warned Cao Zhang: "Being at home is a father and son, and being treated as a monarch and a minister. You must obey the king's law when dealing with others, and you must abstain from it!" The implication is: even if you are away, you should follow the rules, otherwise, don't blame me for not caring about the father and son.