Li Ao has a famous saying, "It is difficult to be smart, especially difficult to be confused. It is even more difficult to turn from smart to confused." Yes, it is not easy for a person to be smart and wise. But being appropriately confused is even harder. This kind of wisdom, which is as great as a fool's, often requires experience and wealth to possess.
After a person reaches the age of sixty, although we know the causes and consequences of some people and things, we don’t need to expose them because there is really no need. There is a folk saying called "pretending to be confused while pretending to understand", which is exactly what it means. When people get older, they tend to be more confused on the outside and more transparent on the inside. They see through many things without telling them, which is a kind of wisdom in life.
People who are over sixty should be a little more "confused" about these people, because the clearer they see some people, the more uncomfortable they feel. As we age, many things are not as easy to control as we think. So it is very necessary to be appropriately confused.
When we are over sixty years old, if our parents are still alive, they are already over eighty years old. Facing our aging parents, in addition to taking careful care of their old age, we also need to be a little "muddleheaded". Old people are bound to have slow thinking, and their dissatisfaction with a certain detail of our life is likely to be irritating. We have been talking about it for a day, and even said some words that we cannot accept. At this time, there is no need to hold grudges and there is no need to be angry. On the contrary, it would be better to be confused and not take it to heart. Think carefully about the difficult fate between our parents and us in this life. Thinking of this Don't bother with them. If you think deeply about these trivial matters, it will inevitably become more and more uncomfortable when many unhappy things are involved. There is really no need to create gaps in your heart and make it difficult for yourself.
After we reach the age of sixty, we really have to be a little more confused about our parents. They raised us when we were young, and now that we are old and frail and at the end of our lives, we must take care of them and repay them with care. Sometimes elderly parents can be very paranoid in their thinking. Stop fussing. Be a little confused and make them happy. Not letting each other have any regrets for the rest of their lives is the great wisdom of a "confused" person.
When people reach the age of sixty, our retirement life has arrived. The children around me have all gotten married, established businesses, and have their own lives. It’s time for us to work hard to pursue our own happiness in the rest of our old age. Don't interfere too much in your children's family life. In addition, we should help our children appropriately when they are going through difficulties, but we should never spend all our money to help them. Young people have young lives, and we also have our own lives. If we consider every detail of the lives of our children who are already married, we will be tired first and secondly, they will become dependent and it will be difficult for them to grow independently. Once you become a helper, you will feel resentful once you let go. Young people are inevitably impulsive in doing things. If we have disputes with them, or even die without contact, I believe we will always be the ones who suffer.
If there is no problem with the general direction of our children's lives, we should be a little "confused" and not be tempted to control and control the trivial matters of our children's families. If the elders of a family are too "smart", then the children's family life will inevitably be restless. If things go on like this, the conflicts between you and your children will inevitably deepen.
The most miserable thing for a person in his later years is to have a bad relationship with his children, and the biggest cause of this is that you are too "smart". Therefore, be a little more "confused" and give your children space to grow. With less pressure and more encouragement, your children will fly higher and further in the future.
When we reach the age of sixty, we really feel that our bodies are aging uncontrollably. Our children have all started living independently away from the family. At home, we only have our wife, who has been with us for many years, by our side. The family has returned to the stage of two people's life. At such an age, we must know how to cherish the people in front of us, because for a long time in our later years, we will need to support each other with our wife and grow happily together.
However, if two people have been together for a long time, conflicts will inevitably arise. Especially after our children get married and start a career, our spouse will inevitably have different ideas about their future life than us regarding family, children, and life in their later years. So they argue and quarrel with us. At this time, we need to embody the wisdom of life and learn to be appropriately "confused". No matter how fierce our wife's words are, we must treat it with a normal heart, adhere to the principles that should be adhered to, compromise appropriately with the things that should be compromised, and give space to our wife and ourselves.
When you are over sixty and getting along with your wife, you must learn to deal with things rather than people. Don't involve countless past events just because of a quarrel over a trivial matter. There is really no need to add some salt to your wounds. Because having someone to accompany you for the rest of your life is the life standard of a happy old man.
Mr. Zhang Henshui once said when he was old, "When people become more confused in old age, they will be magnanimous, tolerant, and calmly look at the turmoil in the world." When a person is over sixty years old, To achieve a calm mind, you must first not be entangled. If you don't see things in the world too clearly, you will be broad-minded and fat. On the contrary, if you see things too clearly, you will feel uncomfortable. This is the life wisdom of an old man over sixty years old.