Through the Millennium, abstract love into geometric gestures. In an isosceles right triangle, two acute angles are 45 degrees, and the sum of the two acute angles is exactly equal to the third angle. This is a perfect, harmonious and stable collocation. If the two acute angles of an isosceles right triangle are compared to husband and wife, then the right angle is compared to the goal pursued by husband and wife. For example, the creation of a happy family, the improvement of the quality of life, and the harmony of husband and wife. This constitutes a stable and harmonious love relationship. We use a formula to express it: husband+wife = happy family. A Chinese odyssey will always be a classic of love, because more people are playing the role of supreme treasure in reality. In fact, everyone has a triangle in their hearts. If the Supreme Treasure and Xia Zixian can look at each other with a 45-degree attitude, maybe this regret can be made up.
Wonderful moment, ordinary and eternal. After a brief curtain call, everything faded into the world of mortals. Rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea are still the pillars of husband and wife's life. Before I got married, I experienced the dependence of flowers and the moon, the warmth of a romantic trip, and the lingering talk. After marriage, after the short romance and warmth faded, everything was dull. Bring home the bacon, have children, get promoted and buy a house. These sharp problems are very prominent. We are hesitant, anxious, impetuous, at a loss and even under great pressure. Just like the classic sentence that has been heated up on the Internet: You have pressure, I have pressure, and I haven't solved it yet (bus uncle). In this way, the original sweet and harmonious relationship between husband and wife became tense, feelings began to change, there were contradictions, quarrels, and finally fission, and even the tragedy of separation. In fact, both men and women consciously and unconsciously broke into the "besieged city" built by Qian Zhongshu. Qian Zhongshu's siege is a kind of mentality of husband and wife's life. People in the city ran out and people outside the city ran in. At this moment, if the husband and wife find a clean place to calm down completely, is it rational thinking? Have you ever reflected on your life? Life is not as perfect as we thought, and we have been adjusting and perfecting ourselves. Every adjustment is a severe test. In fact, at this time, as husband and wife, we should treat our feelings with a 45-degree attitude. Effectively run in with each other, and finally reach the goal of 45+45=90 degrees, thus ensuring the establishment of the formula: husband+wife = happy family.
45 degrees. Treating feelings is a reasonable love angle and a reasonable size. However, how to keep this angle between husband and wife and how to adjust it reasonably is indeed a philosophy of doing things, which needs constant experience and trial in life. How to achieve husband (45)+ wife (45)= family happiness (90)? To sum up, there are several ways: tolerance, understanding, support and trust.
One is tolerance. Tolerance is a cool breeze in summer, which gives people a little coolness and comfort in a hot and dry environment. Both husband and wife should have an inclusive attitude and give each other free space appropriately. Everyone has different hobbies, such as reading, fishing, playing chess, walking birds, keeping pets and so on. As long as the husband and wife do not exceed the principle and bottom line, they should respect each other's hobbies and make appropriate concessions to each other. You give in 45 degrees, and I give in 45 degrees. Take a step back and be calm for a while. Everyone has shortcomings, but they can treat each other with tolerance. Correct if there is one, and encourage if there is no one. The relationship between the two can be handled harmoniously. Sometimes the husband and wife are entangled in some trivial matters, which leads to ups and downs and even fights, leading to the breakdown of husband and wife's feelings.
The second is understanding. Understanding is a little warmth in cold days and a little comfort in cold and hunger days. In fact, many times, because we don't understand each other, the original pure and beautiful love has fallen. There are various phenomena: empathy, being a lover and being a mistress. What is the root cause? I don't understand. When his other half is in the prime of life and his career is taking off, he shouts and insists on the loyalty of love, and worships in the realm of "there is no grave on the mountain, heaven and earth are in harmony, and dare to die with you"; When the cause is in a trough or life is miserable and the economy is in trouble, we will stick to the creed of "taking the lead in making trouble and flying separately". Sometimes the husband is busy working hard outside, bleeding and sweating. The wife feels that her husband has no future and there is a gap in her heart, so she leaves her husband. In fact, did she ever think that her husband worked so hard to make her enjoy happiness in the future?
The third is support. Love is great because two people love each other, go through ups and downs together, and never give up. The most exciting scenes are those old people who help each other in the street, and those scenes where two people sleep together despite their disabilities. They have a seed in their hearts, which is support. They can all look up to love with a 45-degree attitude. No one doesn't like anyone. You support me, I support you. There is a good song. In fact, Marry Big Wolf and Kotaro provide a model for lovers all over the world. Women always envy Hong Tailang for having a big wolf who loves her so much, but forget that in recent years, when the big wolf didn't catch the sheep, Kotaro never gave up on him. It is because of this mutual support that the gap between husband and wife can be eliminated and the feelings between husband and wife can be deeper and deeper.
The fourth is trust. This is the key to building a harmonious relationship between husband and wife, and it is also the core of supporting the right triangle framework of love. Trust is power. You give me 45 degrees of trust, and I will give you 45 degrees of trust. Since you love each other, you should trust her and tolerate her. Including each other's shortcomings and shortcomings. Of course, how to break the pattern of "seven-year itch" in the long-term running-in between husband and wife is a profound knowledge. But one thing is undeniable. To trust each other, love is often mutual. If she loves you harder, you should love her harder. Not mutual suspicion. Don't be petty and suspect that the other party is having an affair at the first sign of trouble. Therefore, the two sides must establish a harmonious and trusting relationship, so that the relationship between husband and wife can be more stable.
Looking up at 45 degrees of love is harmonious and beautiful. The key is that we need to take action to firmly build an isosceles right triangle with tolerance, understanding, trust and support. Of course, many times we can't reach this standard, but if you manage your life with your heart, you can slowly approach this angle and slowly realize the charm and touch of love.