The diversity of the fields that the guests are good at directly determines that this season of "Qi Pa Shuo" is a battlefield where knowledge from different fields competes with each other.

For example, Professor Xue Zhaofeng in the field of economics, Zhan Qingyun in the field of sociology, etc. In every issue, various professional terms that I have never heard of explode on the screen. Sometimes these The professional terms are so dense that I, a mere mortal, have to stop and ask for help from the almighty Baidu to understand what these gods are talking about.

This is not a fight between gods, it is clearly a lecture hall of gods!

One of the things that makes me feel most advanced and that once you master it, you can go out and pretend to be X is "delayed gratification".

The explanation of delayed gratification in the program is that in the long process of development, human beings, faced with the temptation of "instant gratification", continue to cultivate suppressed desires and gradually learn the ability to "delay gratification". Just like we are more interested in the joy of sowing in spring and harvesting in autumn than picking fruits and putting them directly into our mouths.

But when it comes to delayed gratification, the first related entry I found on Baidu was Zhang Yiming.

Zhang Yiming, who resigned as the president of Toutiao, is a loyal supporter of the "delayed gratification" theory. He once said, "Delayed gratification is the trait I admire most."

So The concept of delayed gratification has not only penetrated into his life, but also into some of his work concepts. "If some companies don't rush to make money and continue to burn money to increase the number of users and expand the scale, they will have greater achievements."

So what exactly is delayed gratification? To describe it in a simple and easy-to-understand concept, you can use the "Buddhist style" of the previous high fire. Don't be impatient or impatient. Never stir-fry over high fire, but simmer slowly over low fire.

But delayed gratification includes a layer of "action" more than the "Buddhist system". It transforms the desire to achieve the goal into a process of calm realization, not quick success, but through long-term Action and effort, and the greater satisfaction you get at the moment of arrival.

Having said so much, you may still not understand what delayed gratification is. At this time, we can trace back to an experiment where the concept of delayed gratification was born, to further educate boys and girls who are deeply seeking knowledge. explain.

The experiment on delayed gratification was first born in the 1960s. A psychologist from Stanford University developed an experiment called the "marshmallow" experiment. However, in view of the readers of this article, You may not be interested in marshmallows, so I replaced the marshmallows in the experiment with pork chop rice.

Imagine a scene like this. You have not eaten for two days and are locked in a room with your eyes darkened by hunger. At this time, a holy light flashes at the door and a waiter brings you a cup of food. A steaming bowl of golden curry pork chop rice that looks slightly crunchy.

But just when you pick up your chopsticks and prepare to indulge, the waiter tells you with a smile that if you can wait until he comes back to eat this bowl of pork chop rice, he will give you another one. Bowl, buy one and get one free, only profit without loss.

But if you can’t help but eat this bowl of pork chop rice while he’s away, even if it’s like Snow White taking a small bite of the poisoned apple, then the free bowl will be gone. , it is useless for you to complain that he deceives consumers.

When you read the premise of this experiment, you can actually predict the results of the experiment. In the marshmallow experiment back then, no more than one-third of the people were able to persist until the researchers came back and received buy-one-get-one-free. The rest of the people chose the immediate gratification and feasted.

But the fact is that those who can't wait to eat the pork chops and rice are generally weaker than those who can "delay gratification" in terms of grades and interpersonal relationships.

So the essence of delayed gratification is the development and competition of self-control. In fact, such self-control is not only derived from the suppression of desires, but more like a battle before an explosion. of accumulation.

It’s like a fully loaded arrow. If you let go in advance, the arrow can fly a certain distance. But if, driven by self-control, you can grit your teeth and hold on for a full moon, then the arrow will fly a certain distance. Will always fly further.

In fact, in real life, there are many things about delayed gratification.

It’s like, when a person is facing weight loss, he gives up hamburgers, fried chicken and “Fat House Happy Water” every day, and stirs salads that dare not add sauces every day, like a rabbit that has become sperm. , all the time I spent lying flat watching variety shows and laughing was transformed into thinking about life on a treadmill.

Every late night, I see colleagues A, friends B, boss C’s barbecue stations, hot pot stations, and even street Malatang stations in my circle of friends, and they all beat their chests and complain about why they are so tall. If you are not hungry in the morning and are not hungry in the evening, your stomach will start to feel hungry at night.

It’s just that he is not happy because he sweats profusely and “burns my calories” every time, because he is also worried that after going through the long process of losing weight, can he really lose weight?

For another example, when I was taking the postgraduate entrance examination, I gave up the disco dinner party and wandered in the corridors of the library every day, carrying awkward politics alone. The ocean of knowledge was very rich, but it was even more difficult at that time. Most of it is loneliness that is difficult to be digested by one person.

At that time, I watched the sunrise and sunset every day in Wuhan, but I didn’t feel good at all, because I had nightmares every day, waking up from the dream about not passing the exam and thinking, what if I passed the exam? If not, how can I face the feeling of failure after hard work?

You see, delayed gratification in life is really not that easy to achieve, because we are all worried about what we should do if our efforts are not rewarded. The mentality that focuses on participation is to accept the representatives of useless work, but No one wants to feel the frustration of wasted effort.

So in the face of delayed gratification, we need a beautiful vision, but it is not a daydream, nor a big talk, but a realistic and self-encouraging "fantasy".

It is precisely because of this obsession that we have eliminated many of our filters for the long process. The short-term unsatisfactory and pain will complete every season we have been waiting for with bigger and full fruits. .