"Children of the Qiao Family" Qiao Yicheng and Qi Weimin have two different lives: the lucky people are healed by childhood throughout their lives, and the unfortunate people are healed by childhood throughout their lives.
During the Mid-Autumn Festival holiday, I didn’t go anywhere. I just watched dramas at home and devoted all my time to the 36 episodes of "Children of the Qiao Family". After watching it, I had mixed feelings and seemed to be following the plot all over again. Back.
The play mainly describes the story of the five children of the Qiao family supporting each other and relying on each other from the 1970s to the 1990s. There are many parts that will not easily make you cry.
The filming of this drama is very vivid and immersive. Whether it is the way of worship, or the dialogues and inner activities of the characters, the poverty, hunger and helplessness of ordinary people of that era are very realistic and simple. Showed.
Many netizens lamented that from the five children of the Qiao family, they could really see their own childhood that was far more bitter than happy, and I was no exception.
In that era when material was quite scarce, if we had the care of our parents, even if we were often hungry physically, at least we would have some psychological support. Our parents would take care of our difficulties. All we had to do was be obedient. .
However, for the eldest son Qiao Yicheng in the play, it is too difficult to just be an obedient child. His mother died in childbirth when giving birth to her little brother. Although he had a tall and powerful father, Qiao Zuwang, this father was very selfish and indifferent. He had no father-like qualities at all. He was simply a scumbag.
I will not mention his scumbag treatment of his wife here for the time being. I will mainly talk about the fatal harm he caused to Qiao Yicheng due to his shamelessness as a father.
He has a serious job, and after get off work, he goes gambling whenever he has time. He never cares about his children, and he will not take them to do laundry and cooking. They fend for themselves.
Qiao Yicheng, who was just a primary school student at the time, not only had to take care of the daily lives of three younger siblings, but also took care of a newborn baby brother. His father did not have money to buy milk powder, so he had to spend more time cooking. Add some water so you can scoop out rice soup and feed it.
When the younger brothers and sisters were mischievous and causing trouble outside, their father never paid attention to them. He acted like an outsider and it had nothing to do with him. It was all up to Qiao Yicheng, who was only a few years older than them, to clean up the mess. As a child, he was forced to live as a father.
When Qiao Yicheng encountered trouble, no one came to help him solve it. At a young age, he could only digest it by himself. Occasionally, his uncle who lived not too far away came to care about him, so that he could feel the care of his elders. Some warmth.
This uncle is Qi Weimin's father. Qi Weimin and Qiao Yicheng are two cousins ??of the same age, but they grew up in two completely different family environments.
Qi Weimin's father is a warm, generous and considerate father. This can be seen from his initiative to help the Qiao family pay a large amount of medical expenses and his careful comfort to Qiao Yicheng who was beaten by his father. Compared with Qiao Yicheng's father, they are two worlds of difference and cannot be compared to the same.
With such a caring father, Qi Weimin will naturally have a positive attitude, look at problems objectively and realistically, and have very harmonious interpersonal relationships.
Faced with Qiao Yicheng’s complaints, reactions and attacks due to jealousy, although he was unhappy, he never fought back head on. Even if he had done good things and was misunderstood, he didn’t care. Give this poor cousin enough patience, and as always, help Qiao Yicheng resolve various family conflicts.
So his career developed very smoothly. He was promoted to an important position at a young age, and he also found a like-minded life partner. His marriage life was extremely happy.
As for Qiao Yicheng, he has been submissive and submissive since he was a child. He has low self-esteem, lacks love, and is passive. Therefore, he is particularly careless when it comes to marriage. As long as others have a slight liking for him, he will fall in at all costs.
For example, when he met a female student and his first wife when he was a tutor, as long as the other party took the initiative to show kindness, he would accept it without any discrimination, thinking that he had met true love, no matter how well-meaning others reminded him, He will fly into the flames until he is finally hurt.
When he met the true love of his second wife, he often felt uneasy because of the disparity between the two families. Especially after learning that he was seriously ill, in order to prove that he would never drag her down, he even Don't hesitate to file for divorce.
Having shouldered the heavy pressure of life prematurely, he will not show weakness even when he is at the end of his rope. He only wants to show his strong side. It seems that only in this way can he protect his self-esteem and achieve peace of mind. Come down.
Qiao Yicheng, who has this contradictory core of maturity and naivety, strong-will and low self-esteem, if he hadn't met his mature second wife, who tolerated and guided him to overcome his narrow-minded mentality, Then whether it is a rich or an embarrassing marriage, he will not be happy, either he will be taken advantage of, or he will debase himself.
In Qiao Yicheng, we have seen too much of his childhood misery and tenacity. Whether you admit it or not, if you encounter misfortune in your childhood, you will not have the consciousness to face and deal with it when you grow up. , let it go, and it will follow you like a shadow in the future of your life.
As the psychologist Adler said: Happy people use their childhood to heal their lives, and unhappy people use their lives to heal their childhood.