But although we know and understand many theories and many truths, we find that they are rarely helpful to our lives.
Why is this?
Have we thought about this question?
Each of us knows a lot, but few of us really apply the theory and knowledge we have learned to our lives.
So, what's your answer to the above question?
My answer is:
Many people know that "to love others is to love yourself"
"It is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish."
"Sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity" and so on.
But we didn't practice in life, and we really did it, which produced these great famous sayings and theories, which had little influence on us.
So what I want to say is "I have learned some theories and truths". It still needs us to practice in our lives before it can have a great impact on our lives.
Next, please allow me to introduce two theories that have great influence on our work and life:
Reciprocal law
Key theory
Emerson said: "One of the best compensations in life is that people help themselves after sincerely helping others, and helping others means helping themselves".
You take back what you give, and you reap what you sow.
The more help, the more gains; And the meaner you are, the more likely you are to get nothing.
"To love others is to love yourself", a classic saying, has actually revealed the "core secret" of interpersonal relationships-what you give others needs, others will give you what you need.
I wonder if you have such real feelings in your daily life?
One day, when I was taking a bus, I met a student who had no change. He asked me for help in time and asked if you had any change. I forgot my change.
I said yes, take it out of my pocket and give it to him. He hurriedly put the money into the coin collection port of the bus and thanked me at once.
When he said "thank you", I suddenly noticed a warm current flowing in my heart. This feeling is amazing and makes me feel comfortable all over.
At that time, I didn't think it was caused by anything, but whenever I did a good deed and heard others' thanks, I would be very happy.
In the TV series Ji Gong's Travels, the old farmer and Ji Gong have tea and complain that there is no good news.
Ji Gong said: Good is rewarded with good, and evil with evil. It's not like you don't report it. Not yet. No pains, no gains.
Ji Hong said, the old man sent you two words.
The first sentence: people are kind, although the blessing has not arrived, the disaster is far away.
The second sentence: man-made disaster, although the disaster has not arrived, the blessing is far away, remember that good and evil will eventually be rewarded.
In this way, I will also send the above words to everyone to encourage them.
The communication between people is like sitting on a seesaw, and it should be high and low alternately.
A person who never refuses to endure hardships and give in, even if he really benefits, is temporary, and will be hated and alienated by others sooner or later.
Getting the benefits or kindness of others and returning in time can show that you are a person who knows how to repay kindness, which is conducive to further communication.
In the journey of life, we have been sowing kindness, and maybe we will get unexpected gratitude if we show our kindness inadvertently.
Of course, we don't pay to get a reward, but that's life. If we sow, we will reap something. For us, it may be just a little effort, and for those in need, it may be a new starting point in life.
In psychology, we usually say that we are a lock and the object is a key. This is the key theory.
There are many ways of communication between people, and the most desirable one is "friends who never leave."
Everyone wants others to understand themselves and have intimate friends in life, and there is a big premise to get these, that is, you should treat others sincerely and give your sincerity to others, so that you can get their sincerity and understanding.
Sincerity is from the heart, there is no hypocrisy, there are not many means, as long as it is enough to pay sincerely.
It can really break through the iron wall and defeat thousands of troops. The communication between people is the communication between hearts.
The collision of heart and heart can resonate and be intimate with each other.
Don't complain that others don't understand you, you should open your heart to others first;
Don't complain that others don't make friends with you, you must first learn to associate with people with your heart;
Don't complain that the world is too bad and there are too few good people. No matter who it is, you will treat it sincerely and you will see another blue sky.
In interpersonal communication, in communication with others, in communication with others, we will not feel lonely.
In writing, it also has this power, and the most touching beautiful article is the article with true feelings.
The most touching performance is a demonstration full of true feelings;
The most unforgettable image is a character full of true feelings.
The most touching thing is "true feelings."
True feelings are an attitude, a performance and a character. Only those who are full of true feelings can touch others' hearts.
There is a movie about a very lovely little girl who has achieved success in the most serious legal and political circles.
And she succeeded because she never forgot the most fundamental things of human beings and touched everyone she interacted with with with true feelings.
In the film, lawyers often do whatever it takes to win the lawsuit, and officials often do everything for their own interests, but the heroine teaches them a lesson, touches them with her true feelings and awakens their conscience.
There is also a Korean film "Defender".
From 65438 to 0978, Song Youshuo, who only had a high school education, finally passed the judicial examination through years of hard work, and soon became a lawyer after becoming a judge.
In the 1980s, the struggle for democratization in South Korea intensified. Youshuo completely ignored the things outside the window and continued to make money behind closed doors.
However, the great changes in society did not keep him out of it. Song Youshuo, because his boss helped him in his most difficult time, often patronized a small restaurant that had eaten seven years ago with gratitude after his achievements.
One day, the small restaurant suddenly closed, and the boss's son, Jin Woo, was put in prison for some unknown reason. Song Youshuo, who went to visit, was surprised to see Jin Woo, who was black and blue. Entrusted by Shu Nai, Song Youshuo decided to defend Jin Woo after experiencing some ideological struggles.
Jin-woo Park, the son of the hotel aunt, was arrested by the Busan Reading Federation for being a left-wing club, and was accused of cruel abuse and injustice.
Although I love money, I pay more attention to emotional support, so I embarked on the road of defending democracy …
Lawyer Song single-handedly defeated the seemingly powerful forces.
He worked day and night, went all out, studied the law in every way he could, used foreign media and ventured to find evidence. ...
The prosecution and the judge were caught off guard. Just when Lawyer Song found a police medical officer as a witness, thinking that having a medical officer's certificate would make the defense successful, the reality dealt a heavy blow to his unremitting efforts: the witness was taken away, the testimony was deleted, and the defense still failed.
After the defense failed, the proprietress said to Lawyer Song, "You have done your best."
Indeed, for a powerless ordinary lawyer, he has indeed done his best.
But before the story is finished, Lawyer Song became a democracy fighter in Busan and a "full-fed college student" he despised.
He organized demonstrations three times and five times, and finally went to court as a suspect who violated the law on assembly, procession and demonstration.
Surprisingly, 99 of Busan 142 lawyers appeared as defenders to defend him. This is the last scene of the movie, and it is a shocking and warm ending.
There is also a Chinese-made film "Survival Desire".
The film tells the story of a drugstore owner's conscience after he started selling drugs in India to collect money.
Yong Cheng, an ordinary middle-aged man, runs a health care shop, frustrated and divorced.
The arrival of an unexpected guest, Lu Yingli, enabled him to open up a new business of buying medicine in India as a "purchasing agent". Despite the difficulties, he found business opportunities on this "road to buy medicine" and started the exclusive agent of Indian generic drugs for the treatment of chronic myeloid leukemia.
While making money, he also met several patients and their families, such as Sihui, who was forced to be a dancer to save her daughter, Pastor Liu, who speaks fluent "father accent" English, and Huang Mao, who has a bad temper. Several people start a business in partnership, which doubles the profit, but it is also dangerous.
Police officer Cao, a former brother-in-law, was ordered to investigate the source of generic drugs, and Zhang Changlin, a counterfeit drug dealer, and representatives of Swiss genuine drugs also targeted him. Business has gradually turned into a tug-of-war about redemption.
Yong Cheng finally decided to help those patients, and went on the road of purchasing drugs, which led to the abyss. However, it brought the gratitude and support of patients, which attracted the attention of the whole society, so that anticancer drugs were included in medical insurance and helped thousands of patients.
The film was released in China on July 6, 20 18. In July, Premier Li Keqiang gave instructions on the hot discussion caused by the film "Dying for Survival", and asked relevant departments to speed up the implementation of relevant measures such as lowering prices and ensuring the supply of anticancer drugs.
The film touched many audiences with sincere feelings and true stories, aroused heated discussion in the society, won the support of a large number of audiences, and finally made the box office of the film reach 3 1 100 million. Douban 1.54 million people scored 9 points, which is the highest-rated domestic film in 10 years.
Finally, the law of reciprocity and the key theory tell us that helping others is helping ourselves, and sincerity can be changed.
Stories and movies have expressions. Sincere feelings and the spirit of mutual assistance show the brilliance of human nature incisively and vividly, and also inspire the audience and readers unconsciously.