1. This sentence does not exist in "Fortress Besieged"

2. Zhang Ailing mentioned the tomb of marriage and love in "Talking about Women", but the context is:

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Everyone who says "what a woman is like", because It’s a witticism, and the image alone is playful, so the accuracy of the meaning must be compromised, because everyone has their own temperament, so how can we generalize it? But in comparison, women can be generalized, because people all over the world have different customs, habits, and professional environments, and most women always stay indoors to take care of the house and take care of the children. Since there is only one type of traditional life model, individual habits are different but limited. Therefore, it is safer to say generally "what a woman is like" than "what a man is like".

I remember there was an informal debate in our school. Once the issue of men and women came up, everyone forgot what the original topic was. They just focused on this point, talking, laughing and cursing. , the air was extremely tense. One woman spoke in the tone of the old and new party, talking about how men are unfair and bully women - this fragile, emotional animal, using her emotions to imprison her and force her to be a plaything. The reason why women have the upper hand in the competition for survival is entirely because of unequal opportunities... In the debate between men and women, women always do this. At that time, I couldn't help but refute her, not because I particularly like writing deviant articles, but because I was tired of hearing all this. In the 1930s, "Linglong", a magazine that every female student had in hand, not only taught movie stars beauty secrets, but also taught "beautiful" women how to strictly guard against men's attacks, because men all have "bad intentions" , falling in love is dangerous, getting married is also dangerous, because marriage is the grave of love...

We are familiar with these words of women, and we have heard too many words of men, which are nothing more than scolding women for being heinous. There are too many to write down, but for the survival of the nation, we cannot kill them all. --

The two sides hold different opinions. On the surface, it seems that it is a public axiom and a mother-in-law has a mother-in-law. Women are indeed petty, pretentious, hypocritical, discerning, and charming. (Although serious women hate sluts, in fact, if they have the opportunity to play the role of a temptress, none of them will not try it.) Smart women are not aware of these. The criticism is not defended, but it goes back to its roots and blames the man. In ancient times, women succumbed to men's fists due to lack of physical strength. They have been dominated for thousands of years. Because they adapted to the environment, they developed the so-called concubine way. Women’s bad nature is caused by men, so why should men complain?

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3. An earlier source is the sentence "Marriage is love" in "The Declaration of the Rights of Woman" written by Olympe de Gouges during the French Revolution in 1791. "marriage is the tomb of love and trust" to show the unequal status of women in marriage at that time.

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Marriage is the tomb of confidence and love . A married woman can give bastards to her husband with impunity, and even the family fortune which does not belong to them. An unmarried woman has only a feeble right: ancient and inhuman laws refuse her the right to the name and goods of her children's father; no new laws have been made in this matter. If giving my sex an honorable and just consistency is considered to be at this time paradoxical on my part and an attempt at the impossible, I leave to future men the glory of dealing with this matter; but while waiting, we can prepare the way with national education, with the restoration of morals and with conjugal agreements.

The following is the Google translation:

Marriage is about trust and love grave. Married women could give their illegitimate children to their husbands with impunity, and they could even give their husbands property that did not belong to them. An unmarried woman had only weak rights: ancient and inhumane laws deprived her of the name and property of the father of her child; no new laws were enacted on the subject. If the honorable and just conformity of my sex should at this time be thought to me a contradiction and an attempt at the impossible, I leave the honor of handling the matter to future men; but in While we wait, we can pave the way through national education, restored morals, and marriage agreements.

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